Advice (preferably from women!) on stressed, depressed boyfriend

so that wonderful gal of yours who probably thinks she has a future of love and children will never see candles and cake..hmmmmm..

I think your better then that.. not every relationship works, but not every one fails
either.

True. It all depends on finding that perfect partner where you both understand each other, trust one another and are the best of friends. Then everything falls into place.
Marriage shouldn't be about arguing who should do this or that. Marriage should be happiness not hard and difficulties

I guess the words that others speak are true, its the connection between two people who are concerned, and you will know that feeling. But remembering it takes two to make it work.
Hi Krysia x x

What do other people? Do you think it's worth holding out for him................I'm trying to hold out some hope for us...........................................?!

I think it will be a hard time for you. If he is in love with you now, he will come. But I have the feeling that it is not in case. I had also a relation with a French girl and after she stops she said to me that she still miss me and loves me. But after the second time to give it a try, she was after two weeks gone with an other again. look to a nice single guy, and try to build up a nice life with him. This guy has too much luggage with him, and thats why he is depressed....he don't know what to do.

Succes and keep on smiling!

Willy, from the Netherlands

i have been in a similar situation and would be happy to speak to you by private message about this if you would like.

Hi guest xxx

You wanted to talk with me?

Bye Willy

My email is; willy_michielsen@crgl-thirdparty.com

Sapphire, hi!! Did you mean for me to message you? Yes please, that would be good if you are happy to discuss this.

Willy how old are you??!! How often did you see French girl?

This guy is leaving his wife because of me, don't think he's doing it on a whim or treating his marriage break-up lightly.............we've been in contact for 7 months before we started dating

Hi, I had a relation with her for three years and I saw her every day because we lived together. I am 36 years old.

Salut, willy

just a thought but... 23 years is a long relationship to get over or let go of, you can see why he might be conflicted, especially if his wife is sending him mixed signals.
also, although four months might seem like an eternity at times, you should be glad it's only four months and not four years that you've been waiting for him. all you can do is stay supportive from a distance and if you're going to have to let him go, the short time together will be more of a blessing. better learn the truth now than later on...

I agree with Mr BW - anyway good luck - and lets hope he doesnt get itchy feet / confussed in another 23 years :)

well IMHO from the posts whats been said, it just sounds like she is giving him grief
not every relationship works/marriage should i say.

alot of people think that material possessions are more important to fight over in
a relationship. but what good do they do you when it is all over with?

ya cant make love to a couch ( and I dont want to hear any silly comments from
the guyz) lol even though I know its coming.. lol.

Thanks for the comments, everyone :-) ................just hard as we're both in seperate countries and he's silent at the minute.................



I do take your point, Nitka - tho he has been living apart from her for seven or eight years, and hasn't gone back to live with her day to day like she wanted....which does give some indication that maybe he's been more ready to finish it than her..........?

I hope he regains some strength after being worn down by all her comments etc

i'm available now, and taking resumes

what's the pay?