African girl from USA dating a polish guy needs advice

Hi,
I am an African girl in USA who is dating a polish guy. I am confused sometimes though: he might move back to poland soon (visa etc.) and he makes comments like it would be difficult for us to be together in poland because of racism. Is that really a big problem in Wroclaw? Also what is my role supposed to be: he has been my best friend and has been asking me out for about three years and I have always said "No." Now that we are dating he acts strange and doesn't call as often as before (maybe I expect him to call more now). Anyway, when he calls and I ignore him sometimes for 1 or 2 days, then he freaks out and calls over and over talking about how he feels empty, etc. I don't mean to stereotype, but do polish men have an issue with control? How do they want a woman to act ? Please give me some advise on how to deal with this situation. Thanks

From what I understand some PL guy's have a control problem. I can't speak for all though. Also, If you meant that much to him he'd want to be with you no matter where you lived. If you aren't worth it to him, why should he be worth it to you?

I think he may feel a little strange when he realized he could live with you in Poland, some people would look at him and you in a strange way (Wroclaw is sort of a big city for Poland, but it's still the suburbs of Europe). I think he loves you and is afraid to lose you -- but on the other hand he's afraid of "what other people will say". Give it some time and talk to him sincerely - talk about issues he or you might have. Maybe go for some time to Poland with him on vacations to see how it'll be like.

lol , an african girl with a polish guy? , lol that's so weird! , most of the africans(blacks) hate whites(polish). anyways good luck ! , i'm trying to hook myself with a polish guy but i guess they are too slow .he doesn't ask me out , but he told me he likes me. and it's sux. if someday you get married witth him ur baby is going to look pretty cute!

On a flight to Poland, I saw a Polish guy with a black wife. While living in Las Vegas, I met a Polish guy who was married to a black woman.

"most of the africans(blacks) hate whites(polish)” sounds like a racist statement.

African girl go for it. You will encounter resentment. It will come from people who are limited. :)

I wouldnt say they're slow, they just like to be sure that they actually like someone before they ask - and if he's not asking then maybe he's not interested.

lol , an african girl with a polish guy? , lol that's so weird! , most of the africans(blacks) hate whites(polish). anyways good luck ! , i'm trying to hook myself with a polish guy but i guess they are too slow .he doesn't ask me out , but he told me he likes me. and it's sux. if someday you get married with him ur baby is going to look pretty cute!</div>

Why is it wierd ?

In 1920 many Polish black volunteers, who were the children of Polish-African couples took part in the Polish-Soviet war.

Brenlis,

I am a Pole and have seen foxy looking black girls. Girls I would like to go out with.
If you are wondering, I was born in Poland. I am not Polish-American

Yup, as usual, Wujek got that from the internet.

And the problem here is.. ? From where should I take that photo - from a book ?

Do you know what a book is?

Yes I know what a book is, yet I fail to see what`s wrong with posting photos out of the Internet.

weird?...maybe a bit for people who live in Poland and who are traditional. but in Canada, it would not be looked at twice. This crossed my mind as well. I wondered if people were accepting of interacial relationships in Poland? I am South American and I attracted a polish man.

Poland is changing.
I've seen several black/white couples and people seemed Ok with that.

interesting
the younger generation are changing i guess

The older people are set in their ways and the younger ones accept the change more eagerly.

first of all, you need to talk to HIM, explain how you feel, what bothers you... etc. people in this forum don't know him, and reasons for his behavior. have an honest and open conversation with him and demand honest answers from him. if what he says doesn't make sense, question it and if you don't like his thinking and behavior, don't force such a relationship to work. you must feel good in a relationship and not uncertain and always unclear about what he's thinking.

Hi, here's my dilemma. I'm infatuated by a girl called Krysia (actually, you may all know her) and have grown to love her acerbic wit. I'd love to ask her out on beautiful Parisian date, but I'm not sure whether a.) She'd consider me to be another online web weirdo b.) She'd never think about dating a black guy (yes, I am) c.) Both a and b..!
Anybody help...?

Krysia? I don't know any Krysia...
Never heard of one.

I've never heard of a Krysia either. Maybe you have the wrong forum.

The name sounds kinda familiar... I think she went to Paris