All Polish women who marry non Polish men should not be allowed

to be honest mate... im more of a take him out the back and give him a kikin type of guy...

well....then I'll have to set social services on you too....plus revoke your membership of this board....lol

and there was me thinking you were one of the boys...

... 5Op for the cause...?

To be honest...used to be one of the boys....but since we got the whole peace thing going on here...have to pretend.....aaahhheeemmmm....

Heres a quid....

sorted mate... nice one...

er... back to thread...

Not sure...I've got the will power.......or if it is worth it.....continually berating and contradicting...the feeble minded.....

yeah... know what you mean...

Is there a thread on the board for depressed Polaniaphiles......not to be confused with another type of phile.........

Hi
I have been weeing a polish man who is presently living with his parents at age 48.
His Dad make comments around me how a lot of polish men do not marry until after 50 .
He also has said the a first born son has special duties to his family. It is 20 years we have been togeather but i just do not know how to cope with the lack of commitment....it is like his dad makes all the rules and he is letting it happen.
He has always had some depression and when he does not tknow how to answer a question he freezes up and refuses to talk or gets mad and has to go.
i am so confused. i am not welcome to come to his house at this point and do not know why his mom and dad dont seem to encourage him to go forth and have his own life. Neither of them drive and his other brothers and sisters are married.

I am upset and made some typo and spelling errors .....i am sorry and hope to hear from someone

lol

Now you're just extracting the Michal.

That was certainly a memorable way to start your PF posting life. Your situation certainly is unique, that's for sure.

edit: I'm not sure what to say in response, what is it you'd like to know?

Uncertain,

Be Certain, knock off the old man.... just kidding, I dont condone violence.

Seriously,

I would think that if he loved you, you would be married by now, now I do not want to offfend you, so if you have sex with him, cut him off!!! Since you are acting married, why make it official, cut him off and see what he does, now this is if you are sleeping with him, if you are not just ignor this.

This might have something to do with it. Maybe he needs medication.

You must be the spirit of Mr. Milosevic....change your doctor..or take more medison

dear uncertain even though not everything you said muches the polish lady that i know but in some way i am having a hard time with my lady which makes me to understand your situatin...read the comment about....she could be a female Melosevic...and i am trying either to come up with some solutions by getting mental help from the readers...so you also could give me your opinion and good luck with yours

this is a worrying place to be looking for mental help!

I know a caple of Polish girls who just can't stand Polish men and via to Polish men

Be Certain, knock off the old man.... just kidding, I dont condone violence.

Seriously,

I would think that if he loved you, you would be married by now, now I do not want to offfend you, so if you have sex with him, cut him off!!! Since you are acting married, why make it official, cut him off and see what he does, now this is if you are sleeping with him, if you are not just ignor this.

Larry,
Thank-you for your reply. I can't tell you haow many times iI have been told that the father is the problem here. He has informed me more than once that polish men do not marry until after 50. He has also told me that my man has a position to uphold.
I have been told by elder polish women that he will never be allowed to marry until his parents are dead. That to me seems sick. How sad it is to me to have to abide by this rule of the father. It does seem to be the case though.
His mom is always sweet to me when she sees me but i can tell that the man of this house rules.
Anyway i guess God is in charge and will decide when and if the Father is out of the mix.
I came into the picture a divorced woman of 8 years with children. Dad has been against it from the start.....20 years now.
Bless you for your support and reply.
AND ....I cut him off several years ago that is why he is living with his parents. It is a sad situation and i know the man is not a happy man but seems to be controlled by the FATHER.....gurrrrrrr..........lol
The guy can not commit and it is so sad that any parent would have such an influence on a man of his age...49.
As a matter of fact we were going to work things out and get back togeather and the following week his dad had him at the attorneys adding his name to the house. I yi yi
About the love factor....the man has a hard time loving himself and i beleive it stems from the life long CONTROL of father. Anyway you are great to communicate your thoughts to me . God Bless and thank-you so much.

UNcertain..

You know what, cut him off and start dating with me ;p

lol

Now you're just extracting the Michal. >>>>>your picture and response here almost scared me..........thought it might be the FATHER. LOL sure hope not

That was certainly a memorable way to start your PF posting life. Your situation certainly is unique, that's for sure.

edit: I'm not sure what to say in response, what is it you'd like to know?>>>>>>>>

Huegel,
I actually came here looking to understand Polish family ties and traditions in hopes of understanding my position or lack there of.
I am English, Irish, Dutch and Cherokee...........quite the mix, aye?
But i have the heart that loves all people

I sincerely beleive he was abused as a child .....I have been told that Dad use to beat him but the son will not admit to that. .......forced to beleive he was born to become a preist.......Since he refused to go into the preisthood and drank from age 13 he was then forced to go to another college...........VERY smart man.........but just partied and dropped out...........I truly beleive he is still looking for Dads approval...I just think it is rude and selfish of any Dad to brainwash a son..........My man still to this day does what he is told to do.......I seriously think this has been done to some degree. BUT like most abused children they will not turn in the parent....sounds nuts at this age but I need to give up on trying to understand something i did not start to begin with and truly am greatful you responded as I am a good hearted soul and have been dragged down by this situation. All is well with me and my man until I ask questions about our future plans .....his anxiety kicks in and is a dead end situation unless i just go along with the picture the FATHER has set fourth I guess.
Is it the DONT QUESTION AUTHORITY thing? .....can you tell me more about the quote so I will understand the dads ways .....
I sincerley thank you for your input and time

This might have something to do with it. Maybe he needs medication.>>>>>>

shewolf,
I could not agree more ....but he is a stubborn man of sorts and now I am the one going for the pill........lol.........I am not kidding either. They say he is living in a co dependant life and I am in the mix.........So here we go with the education on that subject.
Thanks for your post........everyone here is great!
Thank-you so very much
Bless you

The man was also alter boy for just about every funeral in his church.........dragged out of bed by his ear to get to church.............not fair as he is Gods child not the earthly fathers to do with as he pleases is my opinion at least.

Sons are a gift ..............is my opinion.

anyway I better get back to work.........thanks again so very much for your opinions and insight in my situation here

and you my dear need some serious counceling

and all none Polish people in this forum should also be shot.., especially English idiots.
the above post was for this comment...........VERY SAD thing to say and SICK I might add

Thank-you Patrycja19
Itruly apologise...i would have been wiser to just leave that one alone!
one bad apple does not sway me from loving and respecting a race.
I am sorry and am greatful to have those here to learn from.
Respectfully and sincerely I thank-you

yes , do not punish the whole class room for one childs mistakes



I hope this post comes out right

the statement above about not punishing the whole class room is great advise when it comes to my situation also. How interisting is that when we are openminded. Nice to see you Patrycja19. Are you a teacher by chance?

I could not find the comment about a female Melosevic.....what does that mean or where do i look for ir? I beleive we are looking for ideas, advise, understanding and the like more than mental help....don't you ?
Horray!!! I think I figured out how to use the tools to send a reply to a post

its a separate thread...not worth the trouble really.

very kind of you to take the time to let me know that.
Thank-you King