I am 17 and the guy I like is 29...

Quoting: peterweg

He's old enough to look after himself. If he ends up screwed up about it, it will be an education to him. Everyone says don't do that, don't do this, but if they were in the same position, they would do it.

Quoting: peterweg

All the advice I get from people is what *not* to do, which is the same, in effect, as telling me to 'crawl under a rock to die'.

Carisa	Mar 19, 07, 09:07 / #
Hey everybody. This is my first time on these post things, but I'm bored and have a situation that I'd like opinions on, and trust me, I've already heard a lot of negative... But oh well, sometimes you pay for what you want. Alright, I am 17 and the guy I like is 29. We met at work, for soemtime we worked together. I seen his E-mail adress on the computer in the employee office, so I wrote it down and added him. At first he was very weary of things, I mean why shoudln't he have been. We talked now and then, with an obvious attraction, but nothing was ever said concidering how young I was. Almost four years have past now, and over the years, he's gotten to know my family and such. Everybody really likes him, he is a great guy. This past summer he told me he loved me, not liked, loved me. I told him I did not feel the same. "I like you, but I don't concider it love, I'm sorry" I said to him. I really hurt his feelings and for about 6 months we didn't communicate. Recently we've started talking again, and I know I really like him, even if it isn't love. Should I go for him? Sorry it was so long. I find when people say I'm 17 and hes 29 it would just look like he some creep, had to explain the situation a bit better.

RanjThreads: 27 Posts: 1,286 Joined: Sep 29, 06	Mar 19, 07, 09:17 / #
So what you are saying is you met him when you were 13 and he was 25? He said he loved you but you do not feel the same....so what's the problem? Sounds like he is ready to settle down somewhat and you are not (which is appropriate for your age). Let him move on with his life and you live yours.

BubbaWooThreads: 46 Posts: 4,438 Joined: Sep 26, 06	Mar 19, 07, 09:18 / #
Quoting: Ranj Let him move on with his life and you live yours exactly what i was thinking - leave the guy alone

peterwegThreads: 35 Posts: 1,931 Joined: Feb 16, 07	Mar 19, 07, 12:27 / #
How could you meet him at work when you were 13? If you are legal in your country and you like him, go for it. What exactly have you got to loose? You may find it really is love along the way. You obviously like him. I would ignore people who tell you to don't got for it - they don't exactly offer an better alternative. My friends, for example, we very unhappy when I was in happy relationship and they did the best to destroy it. I learnt from that . Do what the hell you want and tell everyone else to go *** themselves.

BubbaWooThreads: 46 Posts: 4,438 Joined: Sep 26, 06	Mar 19, 07, 12:33 / #
Quoting: peterweg they don't exactly offer an better alternative peter - shes a child and he is not - you seem to be only interested in what she has to loose... i think ranj and i are a little more concerned for him...

miranda	Mar 19, 07, 12:36 / #
we all know that young girls could be a tease without being fully aware of that. As for older men who are into very young girls - well, we all have read Lolita

sapphireThreads: 28 Posts: 1,418 Joined: Dec 7, 06	Mar 19, 07, 12:37 / #
Im not against age differences in relationships, but in this case I'd say find someone younger. 12 years is a pretty big gap at your age.. I had a similar experience when I was younger, was great for a while, but I didnt have a clue about what music he was into (and vice versa) and ultimately I wanted to party whilst he wanted to stay home. Hold on to your youth cos you only get it once in a lifetime. Not saying it cant work though, depends on the individuals involved.

Giles	Mar 19, 07, 12:41 / #
talk to Poland 2006 she seems to have had a similar experience.

BubbaWooThreads: 46 Posts: 4,438 Joined: Sep 26, 06	Mar 19, 07, 12:49 / #
Quoting: Giles talk to Poland 2006 she seems to have had a similar experience. but theres a danger you might become obsessed by the size of your t*ts

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,833 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Edited by: shewolf Mar 19, 07, 12:54 / #
Quoting: Carisa and I know I really like him, even if it isn't love. Should I go for him? Not if you don't love him. He made it clear he is looking for love, not "like" and things will be complicated when you do find someone you love and you're with him.

BubbaWooThreads: 46 Posts: 4,438 Joined: Sep 26, 06	Mar 19, 07, 13:24 / #
Quoting: peterweg If she is US, then she should wait. i wasnt talkin bout sex ... shes a kid and a confused one at that... shell just end up fekin with his head... again... Quoting: peterweg then she is an adult and entitled to discover life herself by all means... but not at someone elses expence... his...

HuegelThreads: 1 Posts: 333 Joined: Jul 26, 06	Mar 19, 07, 13:27 / #
You nailed it there Bubba.

sapphireThreads: 28 Posts: 1,418 Joined: Dec 7, 06	Mar 19, 07, 13:17 / #
Quoting: BubbaWoo but theres a danger you might become obsessed by the size of your t*ts LOL. Too true...lets hope they are big ones.

peterwegThreads: 35 Posts: 1,931 Joined: Feb 16, 07	Edited by: peterweg Mar 19, 07, 13:20 / #
Quoting: BubbaWoo peter - shes a child and he is not - you seem to be only interested in what she has to loose... She's the one asking, and if she is not in the US, then she is an adult and entitled to discover life herself. If she is US, then she should wait. Quoting: BubbaWoo i think ranj and i are a little more concerned for him... Thats a fair point, someone said that, dating younger women is more like baby sitting.... Not our problem though.

peterwegThreads: 35 Posts: 1,931 Joined: Feb 16, 07	Edited by: peterweg Mar 19, 07, 13:32 / #
Quoting: BubbaWoo shell just end up fekin with his head... again... He's old enough to look after himself. If he ends up screwed up about it, it will be an education to him. Everyone says don't do that, don't do this, but if they were in the same position, they would do it. All the advice I get from people is what not to do, which is the same, in effect, as telling me to 'crawl under a rock to die'.

BubbaWooThreads: 46 Posts: 4,438 Joined: Sep 26, 06	Mar 19, 07, 13:36 / #
Quoting: peterweg He's old enough to look after himself. If he ends up screwed up about it, it will be an education to him. Everyone says don't do that, don't do this, but if they were in the same position, they would do it. not gonna disagree with you there... Quoting: peterweg All the advice I get from people is what not to do, which is the same, in effect, as telling me to 'crawl under a rock to die'. i hope you dont see all advice like this

peterwegThreads: 35 Posts: 1,931 Joined: Feb 16, 07	Mar 19, 07, 13:39 / #
Quoting: BubbaWoo i hope you dont see all advice like this I will never take advice from my friends or allow them to interfere in my relationships again.