friendhship with polish girl

Quoting: sadguy

Yes i loved her but as a friend only. We are still living in the same house but she don't have time even to say hi to me as a friend . when girls like her see a rich guy they are more persuaded by money and less by feelings and true acts of love or friendship. I saw her coming out of car late night with different guys but they don't come inside the house.

sadguy	Nov 11, 07, 12:16 / #
polish girl is probably the worst girl you could choose to have relationship or friendship (and no offense to any poles here) poland is a poorer country than the uk so when theese girls see a rich guy they are more persuaded by money and less by feelings and true acts of love or friendship i like a polish girl who share same house with me. She came to england with only £100 so i helped her financially, cook food for too, found a very good fulltime job in coffee shop ( £8 + tips) and allowed her to use lots of my expensive stuff. I helped her without reason. I really never wanted anything in return from her as i only consider her as friend. But i see her nowdays coming very late at night with different guys. I feel sad that the girl whom i cared a lot as friend is completely different person. She don't have time to even reply my sms or say HI to me. Are all polish girl like her?

urszulaThreads: 2 Posts: 354 Joined: Aug 31, 07	Edited by: urszula Nov 11, 07, 12:39 / #
This goes for Polish guys also who come to the United States. I knew such a guy, I have helped with everything and bent over backwards for him and yet he was unable to appreciate anything I've done for him, wanted even more and accused me of things I've never done. The lesson here: When you do too much for someone and they take advantage of you, end the relationship. I did. And next time don't spread yourself so thin.

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Nov 11, 07, 12:44 / #
Don't let anyone take you for a ride. It could have been anyone from anywhere.

sausageThreads: 25 Posts: 1,053 Joined: Sep 21, 07	Nov 11, 07, 12:51 / #
never have a female house/flatmate nothing good can come of it. they are going to bring men home and you will get jealous! that is my advice. like osiol says the nationality is irrelevant.

sadguy	Nov 11, 07, 13:01 / #
Quoting: osiol Don't let anyone take you for a ride. It could have been anyone from anywhere But it's not always easy to understand mind of a female

sausageThreads: 25 Posts: 1,053 Joined: Sep 21, 07	Nov 11, 07, 13:04 / #
Quoting: sadguy But it's not always easy to understand mind of a female people can be selfish and ungrateful, unfortunately it's not just females or Polish females guilty of that.

slick77Threads: - Posts: 182 Joined: Nov 9, 07	Nov 11, 07, 13:15 / #
Quoting: sadguy Are all polish girl like her? No. Quoting: osiol people can be selfish and ungrateful, unfortunately it's not just females or Polish females guilty of that. Exactly.

gdj67	Nov 11, 07, 14:29 / #
So you meet one Polish girl and think she is typical of all Polish girls.........for god's sake grow up. And what's wrong with staying out late............it's called having a life. I have no idea why she doesn't reply to your sms, but there are always to sides to every storey.........maybe she saw through your thin veneer of respectability and realised that deep down you are just a racist w***er Trust me Polish girls have more decency in their little fingers than most British girls will ever have. I suggest you visit the country and experience the wonderful culture and hospitality before making any further ignorant comments. G

marek sThreads: - Posts: 451 Joined: Sep 9, 07	Nov 11, 07, 14:35 / #
Quoting: sadguy Are all polish girl like her? no there are not. simply put, shes not into to you and wants nothing to do with you. you are allowing her to use you.

irishdeanoThreads: 11 Posts: 480 Joined: Oct 23, 07	Nov 11, 07, 17:18 / #
i cant say there all bad. when 1 of them is the best girl in the world i love her :) :)

LucyndaThreads: 4 Posts: 89 Joined: Sep 18, 07	Nov 11, 07, 22:35 / #
Sadguy, I don't see what the problem is. You said you wanted nothing in return and she took you at your word. The fact is, you fell a little bit in love with her. Unconditional love is giving something for nothing. This girl was poor -- well, you gave to the poor. So stop wanting something back. She probably is suspicious that you gave her money -- she suspects you wanted sex in return -- and she probably feels your mopey vibes, and is sick of them. I know I would be. And you say you cared about her more than your own girlfriend -- I wonder how your girlfriend feels about that. If you really care about people, you would have let her give you something back. Then you wouldn't have to play the part of the "big guy" helping the "poor helpless girl". You would have treated her like a person instead of being so f***ing conscending. People in Poland have had life so much harder than us. So get off your pity pot!

AvalonThreads: 3 Posts: 708 Joined: Sep 11, 07	Nov 12, 07, 01:15 / #
If you give and expect nothing in return, you will never be dissapointed. You help because you want to do this, not to make the other person feel obligated to you.

finTThreads: 15 Posts: 184 Joined: Oct 25, 07	Nov 12, 07, 04:31 / #
I had a similar situation where I helped a Polish guy find work in the UK, I also found him free accomodation, helped him set up a bank account, transfer money, got him a nat ins number, translated for him etc. We worked together for the best part of a year and then he well and truly shafted me. Learnt my lesson and will never attempt to help a Pole again. As the old story goes, the worst person a Pole can meet abroad is another Pole!

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06	Nov 12, 07, 06:49 / #
Quoting: Lucynda Unconditional love is giving something for nothing. This girl was poor -- well, you gave to the poor. So stop wanting something back. True, but you want to feel appreciated for what you did not taken for granted, and wanting more and using you. The person receiving such help should be grateful for it, in this case she wasn't and took advantage of the situation, which hurts.

sadguy	Nov 11, 07, 20:50 / #
Quoting: gdj67 realised that deep down you are just a racist w***er no way... the way i cared about her is more then my own girl friend. I paid her rent when she was new, found a very good for her, cooked food and allowed her to use lots expensive stuff. If i was racist wouldn't do that She asked me 2/3 times if there anything she can do for me but i said to her no i don't want anything from you... i helped her because she was new and first time outside her country, no one here to help her, saw her crying because financial difficulties back home..

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,829 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Nov 11, 07, 21:14 / #
Quoting: sadguy She asked me 2/3 times if there anything she can do for me but i said to her no i don't want anything from you... it sounds like she believed you. That's what she's doing, not giving you anything in return.

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06	Nov 11, 07, 21:43 / #
Quoting: sadguy But it's not always easy to understand mind of a female It's not always easy to understand the mind of a male

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,105 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Nov 11, 07, 22:15 / #
Quoting: marek s you are allowing her to use you. BINGO! Honk if you love PF :)

sadguy	Nov 12, 07, 02:11 / #
Quoting: Lucynda This girl was poor -- well, you gave to the poor. So stop wanting something back. imagine for one month you go out, eat together, talk for hours face to face but now not even hi to me. Quoting: Lucynda don't see what the problem is. You said you wanted nothing in return and she took you at your word. The fact is, you fell a little bit in love with her Yes i loved her but as a friend only. We are still living in the same house but she don't have time even to say hi to me as a friend . when girls like her see a rich guy they are more persuaded by money and less by feelings and true acts of love or friendship. I saw her coming out of car late night with different guys but they don't come inside the house.

sadguy	Nov 12, 07, 02:14 / #
Quoting: Lucynda She probably is suspicious that you gave her money -- she suspects you wanted sex in return -- No i only conder her as friend so why should i ask sex in return. I'm not cheap...

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Nov 12, 07, 03:18 / #
Quoting: gdj67 Trust me Polish girls have more decency in their little fingers than most British girls will ever have. kunt!

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Nov 12, 07, 03:27 / #
I have some sympathy for you as I had a simliar situation. I suggest you ask her to leave your house. You helped her that help is now over. She is moving forward in her life which is good so she should also move out your house as you are clearly uncomfortable with her being there.

a1makji	Nov 12, 07, 09:33 / #
Quoting: gdj67 Trust me Polish girls have more decency in their little fingers than most British girls will ever have. I suggest you visit the country and experience the wonderful culture and hospitality before making any further ignorant comments. a food for thoght yet absolutaly true :) Quoting: Avalon If you give and expect nothing in return, you will never be dissapointed. You help because you want to do this, not to make the other person feel obligated to you. Exactly what Islam Says Seek You Reward whith the Good Lord. dont even expect a thanks from the person you lusted over this woman than she walked all over you get over it dude she has its called survival

Kronx1970Threads: - Posts: 12 Joined: Oct 30, 07	Edited by: Kronx1970 Nov 12, 07, 09:38 / #
Taking someone for granted is universal and isn't specific to one natiionality (Although Americans do it so well, we've got TV shows dedicated to shallowness and these shows have a HUGE fanbase!). However, I don't think this woman took advantage of you. She didn't manipulate anything out of you -- you've admitted you did it all out of kindness. But you've admitted you 'love' her, you've cared more about her than your girlfriend. That's a big red flag to me, and it sounds pretty obvious the one here who isn't being honest is YOU. You're not being honest with yourself, with her, and the reality of the situation. You're saying you weren't expecting anything in return, but everything else you say seems to imply otherwise.

marek sThreads: - Posts: 451 Joined: Sep 9, 07	Nov 12, 07, 10:47 / #
Quoting: sadguy Yes i loved her but as a friend only. We are still living in the same house but she don't have time even to say hi to me as a friend . when girls like her see a rich guy they are more persuaded by money and less by feelings and true acts of love or friendship. I saw her coming out of car late night with different guys but they don't come inside the house. boot her out, problem solved. you say you love her like a friend, B.S! you wont more, just wont admit to it.

sledzThreads: 29 Posts: 3,202 Joined: Sep 19, 06	Nov 12, 07, 10:58 / #
Quoting: sadguy polish girl is probably the worst girl you could choose to have relationship or friendship (and no offense to any poles here) poland is a poorer country than the uk so when theese girls see a rich guy they are more persuaded by money and less by feelings and true acts of love or friendship Such a stereotype, Youre so full of B.S.

sadguy	Nov 12, 07, 11:26 / #
Quoting: Kronx1970 You're saying you weren't expecting anything in return Guys i want a simple heloo but, she is soooooooo busy with her new guys Quoting: marek s boot her out, problem solved. She don't talk to me but still i consider her as friend. I'm not selfish I hope one day she understand that[ quote=Kronx1970] But you've admitted you 'love' her, you've cared more about her than your girlfriend. [/quote] Because she was in poor condition, crying all day and someone who genuinly need emotional and financial help. Quoting: a1makji Exactly what Islam Says Seek You Reward whith the Good Lord. what religion have to do in here? this is relationship topic Quoting: krysia The person receiving such help should be grateful for it, in this case she wasn't and took advantage of the situation, which hurts. true krysia i really wish she understand that

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,829 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Nov 12, 07, 11:51 / #
Quoting: sadguy imagine for one month you go out, eat together, talk for hours face to face but now not even hi to me. That's strange. Is she mad at you? Have you asked her?

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,868 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Nov 12, 07, 12:07 / #
Quoting: finT the worst person a Pole can meet abroad is another Pole! that is so true! Polak Polakowi wilkiem. i had a terrible experience living with a bunch of Polish people for the first 9 months since i came to England, and i heard many stories from other Polish people i met over here. Sadguy im really sorry to hear how your lady friend is treating you. I think you should get her to sit with you and have a chat, tell her how uncomfortable the situation has become and that you miss being friends like you used to be. Maybe because her life has changed so much and now she can afford to go out (and meet new men), she forgot to appreciate you. I know what i was like as soon as i got settled here, i was a proper party animal and i didnt care what anybody else thought about it... Dont wait untill she comes to you, go to her. Thats what i think...