friendhship with polish girl

Quoting: sadguy

No problem meeting new peoples but a young girl coming late night 3/4 times a week with different guy in a car. I'm worried if something happen to her. And also her mom is grateful to me because i treated her as a good friend or sister when she was new to this country.

sadguy	Nov 14, 07, 06:36 / #
Quoting: Jambo She is 20 there is nothing wrong with her meeting all sorts of different men. No problem meeting new peoples but a young girl coming late night 3/4 times a week with different guy in a car. I'm worried if something happen to her. And also her mom is grateful to me because i treated her as a good friend or sister when she was new to this country. Quoting: ShelleyS but she is happy to still live in his home but wont even make the time to say hello....Not very nice is it to treat someone like that.... SAD but true...

pamlarougeThreads: 4 Posts: 68 Joined: Oct 27, 07	Edited by: pamlarouge Nov 14, 07, 09:35 / #
I'm sorry but I find it very hard to believe that this girl would just completely ignore you for no reason. Maybe you did something to offend her unknowingly, or maybe she sees that you disapprove of her behavior (going out, etc., which I agree with Jambo is not wrong, but I can understand why you are concerned) and she's not sure how to act around you. I know she's not saying hello to you (you've certainly emphasized this enough)-people don't just go from one extreme to the other with nothing to prompt them. Instead of complaining about it on here (although we're all happy to help and give advice of course, don't get me wrong) why don't you talk to her? If she's really your friend and you really care about her like you say you do, you'll do the right thing and give her the benefit of the doubt by talking to her. Don't assume anything, because you know what happens when you do that... :)

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Nov 14, 07, 10:52 / #
Quoting: ShelleyS Maybe he's worried about her being raped or murdered.... He is not her protector she is old enough to make her own decisions bad or good.

marek sThreads: - Posts: 451 Joined: Sep 9, 07	Nov 14, 07, 10:54 / #
Quoting: sadguy No problem meeting new peoples but a young girl coming late night 3/4 times a week with different guy in a car. I'm worried if something happen to her. And also her mom is grateful to me because i treated her as a good friend or sister when she was new to this country. heres the thing, shes not going to care about your worries. best thing for her would be to give her the boot.

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Nov 14, 07, 10:55 / #
Quoting: pamlarouge If she's really your friend and you really care about her like you say you do, you'll do the right thing and give her the benefit of the doubt by talking to her. Don't assume anything, because you know what happens when you do that... :) This is top advice. But if she ignores it and you feel uncomfortable with how she is leading her life you must ask her to find somewhere else to live.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,947 Joined: May 17, 07	Edited by: Administrator Nov 14, 07, 12:43 / #
I would not hesitate to help friends like these ones.

xtuner17Threads: 1 Posts: 3 Joined: Nov 12, 07	Edited by: xtuner17 Nov 14, 07, 23:28 / #
Usually great friendships dont arise between people who just emigrated to your country. Im speaking from experience, being Polish and living in Chicago. Very high chances that they will just use you just to get by since they are in new surroundings and a different culture so they still havent found themselves as to speak. You can still small-talk with them but dont think about anything more as you might be surprised.

FirestormThreads: 7 Posts: 511 Joined: Nov 29, 06	Nov 15, 07, 04:51 / #
Quoting: Lucynda Lucynda Great post. Well said. But you forgot to add... " Stop spying on her. " She can probably feel your dissaproving glare everytime the curtain twitches. No wonder the guys never come in. They probably find it creepy. Your supposed to be her friend. Not her Dad/Mom She's probably too scared to say hi. Incase you interrogate her about her new found Social life.. Cut her some slack.