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hi ya, im stasha from chicago, in love with a man from warsaw ;)


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pamlarougeThreads: 4
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Quoting: LATINA
I never believed in "long distance" relationships. I don't think they are realistic. Not even different states, but different CONTINENTS????!!!!!


(raises hand) I live in Florida and I'm dating a guy from £od¼, Poland. I won't see him again until February (14 weeks and counting). It's really hard, but fortunately it's only temporary (until next summer)...and with the technology that's out there like voip and Skype, it's much easier to stay in touch than what you would think. But unfortunately there's no substitute for some things, you can't hold hands with, kiss, or enjoy the company of a computer....
LATINAThreads: 5
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Quoting: pamlarouge
I live in Florida and I'm dating a guy from £od¼, Poland. I

Is that you and your Polish honey in the pic? He's really cute. Are you Polish?
pamlarougeThreads: 4
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Yes, that's him. No, I'm not Polish, and I speak no Polish...but I'm trying to remedy that. I'll be visiting £od¼ in February, and then I'll be going there in September to stay.

Quoting: LATINA
He's really cute.


I know, right? To be honest, he's definitely the hottest guy I've ever dated, so sometimes I look at him in disbelief and think, "is that really mine?" :) But, trust me, his looks are just one thing in a long line of awesome qualities.
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Quoting: pamlarouge
he's definitely the hottest guy I've ever dated, so sometimes I look at him in disbelief and think, "is that really mine?" :) But, trust me, his looks are just one thing in a long line of awesome qualities.

But you are really cute too. So you guys make a nice couple. I know Polish guys could be really sweet. What kind of acenstry are you? Irish??
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Quoting: pamlarouge
Well, Marek...it's not about whether or not YOU think it's meaningful

if its just complaining about her work, no guy wants to hear it, just some wont admit to it.

Quoting: pamlarouge
even mundane things, generally when you're in love someone you're happy to listen to what they have to say (within reason of course). That's how you build the relationship.



above is a womens thing, a.k.a point of view.

Quoting: pamlarouge
but all the men I know who are and have been in serious relationships talk to their significant other every day or have some kind of live contact with them every day in one way or another


i will agree thats more or less normal to do, but who says all people are normal?

Quoting: pamlarouge
True, some guys just need their space, but, once again, my experience attests to the fact that when guys are really into a relationship, they can't get enough of the girl.



the older you get the more independent a person gets, im guessing your young.
marek sThreads: -
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Quoting: pamlarouge
But unfortunately there's no substitute for some things, you can't hold hands with, kiss, or enjoy the company of a computer...

above is the number one reason why long distance never works, people stray to find that one on one touch.
pamlarougeThreads: 4
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Joined: Oct 27, 07 		Edited by: pamlarouge   Nov 8, 07, 00:02 /  #
I agree that people become more independant as they get older if they stay single, which is why Stasha's guy might be having issues adjusting to a relationship (even after 2 years) because he was alone for so long before. The older we get the more we become set in our ways-it's hard to change as time goes by, even if you want to.

Also, most girls don't like listening to men complain and rattle on about things either, I was just making the point that when you're in a long term relationship, you put up with certain things, make allowances, etc. It's not always easy, but it's worth it if you've found the right person. Did she say anything about going on and on about work? I didn't read anything like that. Maybe I missed it.

Quoting: marek s
i will agree thats more or less normal to do, but who says all people are normal?


Duh (showing my age there!). I'm not saying all people are the same, and that everyone fits the norm...but I do think it's a lot more likely that this is a case of the rule and not the exception.

Thanks for your input on long distance relationships....but in my situation it's the only option. So we're both happy to get what we can until we can be together for good. Long-distance relationships definitely don't work in the long-term, but like I said it's a temporary arrangment. Bottom line-it's better than nothing (and please don't lecture me that it's not), and even if it doesn't work out, at least we'll know that we tried. I believe it can and will work, and so does he, and having the right attitude about it is half the battle. Getting sad and discouraged about the situation is what kills it.

Anyway, I appreciate your opinion, but I'll keep my own on the long-distance thing, thanks :) it's the only thing I can do for now
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Quoting: LATINA
But you are really cute too. So you guys make a nice couple. I know Polish guys could be really sweet. What kind of acenstry are you? Irish??


Thank you :) I'm Irish and French on both sides-the red hair always gives me away :) Your profile says you are from New York-what exactly is your background? Ok, I know, Latina, but more specific? :)
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Quoting: pamlarouge
Did she say anything about going on and on about work?

i was just using that as an example.
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Quoting: pamlarouge
Your profile says you are from New York-what exactly is your background? Ok, I know, Latina, but more specific? :)

I was born in South America, raised in Queens, New York. Then I met and fell in love with a Polish Guy and hence this is why I am in this forum. I know why you are crazy about your Polish guy. This is exactly how I felt.
stasia   Nov 10, 07, 23:55 /  #
Wow, you have all made great points thank you….
-marek, marek, marek, lol….when u strung her along you didn’t introduce her to friends as your future wife, you didn’t walk thru her home and say when “we’re together” we’ll change this and upgrade that”… I do not call him… he set the pattern of calling everyday.
-pamlarouge, thank you…it is just a given to talk, and if you cant talk, a lil’ text msg. is fine…and if he’s not into me…he’s been given many chances to walk and hasn’t.
I am stepping back to give him his space, not seen him 10 days, not talked 4 days..3 texts to me… (I miss him like crazy)
-Lucynda, Capricorn? I can handle this, just not the "love you" talk and no "action" with it...
-Latina, he’s from Poland… here now.

So this is in my hands now, and when the time comes, there has to be straight forward talk... im strong to talk...but weak at the knees to lose him... :(
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Quoting: stasia
he’s been given many chances to walk and hasn’t.


I've known guys who have stayed with women they knew they didn't want to be with, even ones they didn't even like, simply because it was easier than breaking up with them. Sometimes they'll just stay in the same situation because it's less painful than going through the sticky business of ending a relationship. But you know him better than we do :)

Quoting: stasia
im strong to talk...but weak at the knees to lose him... :(


Don't be afraid. I hope that this guy isn't just not that into you (and I don't mean to sound harsh by using that phrase), but it seems like a real possibility...if that does turn out to be the case, then he certainly doesn't deserve you. I've been with guys like yours, and I promise that when you find a guy who really wants to be with you, he will show you that in every way possible, despite any extenuating circumstances. Guys can really go the distance for the women they love when they are motivated to do so. And you really don't know what you're missing until you've found the right guy :) So, worst-case scenario, at least this situation has given you the opportunity to maybe meet someone new who wants to show you how much they love you.

As I said, though, I hope that you're guy gets his act together, and if backing off for a while doesn't cause him to, then probably nothing will. Be strong! I know it's hard, especially as a women, to just let things sit for a while. Women like to talk about things and fix them by communication, but some things just need time and silence, unforunately. I'm sure things will turn out for the best either way. :)
stasia   Nov 11, 07, 00:21 /  #
thank you....to agree with Latina, you & your guy are a beautiful couple...but also you are very knowledgeable... and give great support. Your heart is open, your love is true...im sure all will be well for you too! >:D<
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