A Polish Girl Without Heart!!

Quoting: Jambo

I had exactly the same experience with my ex Polish Girlfriend as you so I share your feelings and pain. Other people said the same to me and I did not want to listen to them although I knew they were right. There is no doubt she liked me a lot but she also used me to help her and provide her with a home and stability having recently come to the UK. Nobody likes to feel used.

She left me house on Sunday ( her new job is taking her to Germany if she passes her training in the UK). She thanked me for everything and wants us to stay in touch and remain very good friends. I was pleased to see her go to be honest and will not have her back.

The worst thing for you will be feeling she has used you.You will get over her put it down to one of life's experiences and remember the good times.

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:45 / #
Quoting: osiol A sweet lullaby whispered in my ear. aaawww and what fine ears you have for whispering in.... :))

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,402 Joined: Apr 1, 06 [Moderator]	Aug 13, 07, 14:47 / #
Quoting: Kiwi_boy The hurtful thing is she walked away without a care in the world and left me as if i never exsisted This shows something about how she saw the relationship. It seems that you were handy to have around in a time of need. But as usual, we only have one side of the story.

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:49 / #
Quoting: jnowiski if she's how you say than you can probably do better. just stay positive. Cheers Jnowiski.. Im cool about it,I just hope she's ok where ever she is. I have to be honest, the worst thing was other people telling me to get rid of her..and i never wanted to but i knew in my heart she wasnt for me or i for her. Bless her heart!

DaisyThreads: 16 Posts: 2,172 Joined: Apr 28, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:50 / #
Quoting: Wroclaw But as usual, we only have one side of the story that's true

jnowiskiThreads: 3 Posts: 191 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:52 / #
Quoting: Kiwi_boy Cheers Jnowiski.. Im cool about it,I just hope she's ok where ever she is. I have to be honest, the worst thing was other people telling me to get rid of her..and i never wanted to but i knew in my heart she wasnt for me or i for her. i've told some friends to leave girls that are just using them, and i've told girls to leave guys that cheat on them...people usually don't listen, even though i was alright right about it. I'm a pretty good observer and semi-decent at analysing people...i kinda have to for my job. but yeah, i think you'll be ok, you seem to have a positive attitude about it and just wanted to get your thoughts off your chest. glad it was here i guess! :D

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:54 / #
Quoting: smooth_jazz he never has to smell his own farts Never stand behind a donkey. But this is for other reasons. And I might add that I have a very good diet. Not too much aubergine.

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:56 / #
Quoting: Wroclaw It seems that you were handy to have around in a time of need. I was there for her mentally and physically, near or far. But you're right theres always two sides to a story. Im happy now because my past is not my future :-)

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Aug 13, 07, 14:57 / #
Quoting: Kiwi_boy my past is not my future Nice. We live in the present and look to the future. (It is the future I'm looking at whichever way I appear on the screen!)

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,947 Joined: May 17, 07	Aug 13, 07, 15:12 / #
Give me her phone number to punish her.

jnowiskiThreads: 3 Posts: 191 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 13, 07, 15:13 / #
Quoting: southern Give me her phone number to punish her. lol, ... lol

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 13, 07, 15:16 / #
Quoting: osiol What lessons will you take from this experience. I am aware of the vast differences among cultures and separate realities now. Maybe i didnt see how her differences compared to mine were any different ,when now i think they were. I believe its a fact that it literally cant be any other way. I probably expected to see things my way and never saw things through her eyes. I dont blame her for my mistakes and im not branding polish girls.. To be honest i think there wonderful not to forget irresistible :-)

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,947 Joined: May 17, 07	Aug 13, 07, 17:39 / #
Quoting: Kiwi_boy So how do you get a girl to stay,what is it.....Locked?? If you are attracive to her she will stay with you.Let's say many eastern european girls see a better life abroad,so they gradually raise their expectations.Especially when they compare themselves with the appearance of the local women.That is why I seldom invite them and if I do,I let them to stay maximum 10 days. It is pointless to buy presents for polish girls.They do not have the culture of offer like russian girls,let's say if you do this for me,I will offer this to you.Or I offer it to you waiting for an exchange.Catholic culture is not like that.Moreover it is shameful for a polish girl to accept presents of any kind,so you humiliate her by buying them and she develops negative feelings for you,thinking even that you may want to imprison her and get her free will away by giving presents.So she may develop the reflex to get away and be free. But if you do not buy any presents,she is always free and follows you by her conscious will.The opposite is true for russian girls because russians are fond of freedom in a different way that includes the obedience of the others to serve their needs.

a1makji	Aug 14, 07, 08:25 / #
ma estranged partner done what i could for her thoght it was always more more more or its no good she was just so cold at times like when i was ill or just come out of hospital after i nerly died she was like borris yelsin so what go bout your usal day go to tesco like a zombie die at the traffic lights or when i was ill pukking diorreya out my sense not even a are you ok, thoght she did give me a lot of laffs and happyness thoght she had a hard heart thats my experiance of polish gals i met a lot of em in england they had the mentality of a male the looks of barbie wanna look good for the crowd they know the men will jump to them (thoght alot of times they would jump for me used to make her laff when men used to smile at me or horn at me cuss i had long curly hair and hairy legs ha ha ha)

FirestormThreads: 7 Posts: 511 Joined: Nov 29, 06	Aug 17, 07, 18:49 / #
Mb try working at the emotional side of a relationship next time. Money doesnt buy everything.. ( No offence meant ) 99% of polish girls i know. Are Loving. Caring. Devoted. Honest. And wonderful partners. They are more family orientated than materialistic. Of course they love the idea that you are able to take care of them. But most prefer that you Care for them.. Not want to wear them like a badge.. ( A fool an his money )

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,947 Joined: May 17, 07	Aug 13, 07, 16:32 / #
You cannot occupy the heart of a girl because you bought her some presents.She is no way obliged by that to stay locked.

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 13, 07, 17:17 / #
Quoting: southern You cannot occupy the heart of a girl because you bought her some presents.She is no way obliged by that to stay locked. Theres no such thing as occupying the heart. Thats meaningless. So how do you get a girl to stay,what is it.....Locked??

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 14, 07, 03:31 / #
Quoting: Kiwi_boy Cheers Jnowiski.. Im cool about it,I just hope she's ok where ever she is. I have to be honest, the worst thing was other people telling me to get rid of her..and i never wanted to but i knew in my heart she wasnt for me or i for her. Bless her heart! I had exactly the same experience with my ex Polish Girlfriend as you so I share your feelings and pain. Other people said the same to me and I did not want to listen to them although I knew they were right. There is no doubt she liked me a lot but she also used me to help her and provide her with a home and stability having recently come to the UK. Nobody likes to feel used. She left me house on Sunday ( her new job is taking her to Germany if she passes her training in the UK). She thanked me for everything and wants us to stay in touch and remain very good friends. I was pleased to see her go to be honest and will not have her back. The worst thing for you will be feeling she has used you.You will get over her put it down to one of life's experiences and remember the good times.

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 14, 07, 05:09 / #
Quoting: southern It is pointless to buy presents for polish girls Thanks "southern" You made a lot of sense, I really understand what you're saying. I think i did exactly that, i took away her independence. But she always wanted me to help her and do things for her always!! But i never intended to lock her down just make her happy :-)

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 14, 07, 05:18 / #
Quoting: Jambo I had exactly the same experience with my ex Polish Girlfriend as you so I share your feelings and pain. Other people said the same to me and I did not want to listen to them although I knew they were right. There is no doubt she liked me a lot but she also used me to help her and provide her with a home and stability having recently come to the UK. Nobody likes to feel used. She left me house on Sunday ( her new job is taking her to Germany if she passes her training in the UK). She thanked me for everything and wants us to stay in touch and remain very good friends. I was pleased to see her go to be honest and will not have her back. The worst thing for you will be feeling she has used you.You will get over her put it down to one of life's experiences and remember the good times. Thanks for sharing your experience with me Jambo. In some respect i do feel i was used but i have a soft nature and i couldlnt say no to her. This has toughen me up a bit and i've learn t not put my eggs into one basket. The positives are i am happy to have taught her how to do things on her own. And i know she'll remember me for alot of things and i remember her. Let the good times roll!!

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 14, 07, 07:07 / #
Yeah really positive thoughts which is great. In the end Kiwi Boy the loss is hers not yours. One day ( as also in the case of my Polish girlfriend as well) she will realise how much you did for her and how much you cared. It is better to have followed your heart and cared for her than not. This is how I feel and why I am positive like you.

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Edited by: Jambo Aug 19, 07, 14:54 / #
I think the above post is a bit harsh on Kiwi Boy he said he gave her his heart. Yes he mentioned expensive presents but I suspect he did that out of love. In my case I gave her my heart and helped her in every way I could as she settled in the UK. I gave her some presents the most expensive present being a £70 watch. I did not do that to win her affection but simply to say I cared. The night before she left ( Poland for one week then back to the UK for five weeks then to Germany if she passes her training) she said more in ten minutes to me about her feelings than in the previous four and a half months. She thanked me for everthing I had done for her, how much she liked me and how much she cared. But you know I felt it was a speech she had made before to many other men. She came back to the UK today I called her twice ( first attempted contact since she left) to wish her good luck for her training. She did not answer. I doubt I will hear anything from her ( despite her saying she wants us to remain close friends) again my usefulness is over. She will migrate to another man in Germany who can help her and the whole cycle will start again. She is one of these intinerant women who work around Western Europe collecting men that are useful to her and then dispose of them. She said herself she is cold and hard. One day though she will get her just deserts.

Kiwi_boyThreads: 2 Posts: 15 Joined: Apr 25, 07	Aug 23, 07, 08:16 / #
I agree Firestorm with some of the the things you said about Polish girls ..but i have to fully agree with Jambo When is enough ,enough?? My girl was materialistic...heres an example, A week ago she emailed me asking for the Sony digital camera she left behind..and who brought it for her?? There was no "Hi how are you" Just about the F**kin camera. To some extent i now realize why it didnt work out because, and again its exactly what Jambo said, I was used to kickstart her way of living in the UK until she felt confident in moving on with herself. There are positives in what i did for her. but nothings more real than giving a girl your heart and telling her you LOVE HER everyday and then getting burnt by her!!!!!! Over these last few weeks.. ive been thinking about it more and now i see how all the pieces really add up. Its unfortunate that some other guy will go through what i went through because thats the harsh reality of POLISH GIRLS in my experience :)

szarlotkaThreads: 14 Posts: 3,349 Joined: Feb 20, 07	Aug 23, 07, 08:24 / #
Quoting: Kiwi_boy the harsh reality of POLISH GIRLS in my experience You can only talk about your own experience ... which has not been good from what I have read. Sorry to hear about it. Others have been much luckier so don't write all Polish girls off, although you may be understandably wary next time you see the next high cheekboned, long legged Polish lovely! Lifes rich tapestry and all that ......

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 23, 07, 09:16 / #
Yes top post. I have said before I do not consider all Polish women are the same. However there is no doubt there are a number of Eastern European women out there who come to the west befriend a man or men to get themselves established then move on. Nothing wrong with that in principle provided they make it clear at the outset they only want a friendship. Of course they say and do much more than that, the man then gets involved, everthing is great then one day the women says of course you are just my friend! I took some photographs of my ex Polish girlfriend when we had a day out visting an historic castle. She took one of me. I gave her copies of all the photographs including mine.I noticed a couple of nights ago when I was clearing out the bedside table she had left behind her copy of the photograph of me which she said she really liked and had taken the others. She knew I would find the photo. That action said everthing about her, cold and heartless.

SunflowerThreads: 15 Posts: 102 Joined: Jun 29, 07	Aug 23, 07, 15:30 / #
Quoting: Jambo Quote Today, 09:16 . #54 Yes top post. I have said before I do not consider all Polish women are the same. However there is no doubt there are a number of Eastern European women out there who come to the west befriend a man or men to get themselves established then move on. Nothing wrong with that in principle provided they make it clear at the outset they only want a friendship. Of course they say and do much more than that, the man then gets involved, everthing is great then one day the women says of course you are just my friend! I'm sending you a massive hug .. I'm just extracting myself from a similar painful process of having being well and truly used by a Polish guy, who basically just wanted somewhere comfortable to live, sex on tap and someone to teach him good English. My God how it hurts as I had really started to fall for him.. but at least I found out what a total waste of space he actually was before he moved into my house... in a nutshell, he was sleeping with at least two other women behind my back, and they are the ones I know about... and had a one night stand with another the night before we went on holiday together. I really so sympathise.. but naturally I'm not blaming the nationality, just the immature, selfish person I had sadly fallen in love with.

SunflowerThreads: 15 Posts: 102 Joined: Jun 29, 07	Aug 23, 07, 15:39 / #
Quoting: Jambo I took some photographs of my ex Polish girlfriend when we had a day out visting an historic castle. She took one of me. I gave her copies of all the photographs including mine.I noticed a couple of nights ago when I was clearing out the bedside table she had left behind her copy of the photograph of me which she said she really liked and had taken the others. She knew I would find the photo. That action said everthing about her, cold and heartless. Have another hug... you deserve so much better, it sounds as if you have a great big heart and so much to give.

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 24, 07, 03:00 / #
Thanks that is so kind of you I very much appreciate your post.

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 24, 07, 03:06 / #
Quoting: Sunflower I'm sending you a massive hug .. I'm just extracting myself from a similar painful process of having being well and truly used by a Polish guy, who basically just wanted somewhere comfortable to live, sex on tap and someone to teach him good English. My God how it hurts as I had really started to fall for him.. but at least I found out what a total waste of space he actually was before he moved into my house... in a nutshell, he was sleeping with at least two other women behind my back, and they are the ones I know about... and had a one night stand with another the night before we went on holiday together. I really so sympathise.. but naturally I'm not blaming the nationality, just the immature, selfish person I had sadly fallen in love with. And I return your hug. I very much sympathise with your post. I guess at least you found out before he moved in to your house. Friends say to me well you are much better off now she has gone. But you know despite everthing I still think about her a lot. I suspect Sunflower although you know you are better off without him you still think of him and it hurts. It hurts to know the truth. Have a good weekend and have fun!

SunflowerThreads: 15 Posts: 102 Joined: Jun 29, 07	Aug 27, 07, 02:48 / #
Hi Jambo, hope you're enjoying the bank holiday weekend sun and that you're feeling somewhat better :0). You're right about the knowing I am better off but darn it it hurts. I saw him yesterday, long story that I'm going to post about later,... feels like my heart is breaking into millions of tiny splinters today.. sigh.. I know life goes on, I know I had fallen for him more than just a little bit... But you have to keep your chin up, it's the only way through this sort of thing...

JamboThreads: 2 Posts: 157 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Edited by: Jambo Aug 27, 07, 14:42 / #
Yeah Sunflower it has been really a good weekend and sunny in the UK at last! I am feeling pretty good really. I know how you are feeling because I am feeling it myself. It hurts and it is not easy to move on as that person was a very special person and to find out they do not care for you as you do for them is hard to take. She phoned me Saturday out of the blue and of course that got me thinking about her which I am trying not to do. Yes you are right about putting a brave face on it but you and know this is not easy. At the moment my friends and neighbours ask about her and I have to go through an explanation. Take Care. David (aka Jambo)