Do most guys prefer an independent woman or a dummy?

Quoting: beckski

Just wondering... do most guys prefer an independent female? I'm referring to a woman who is in the habit of making her own decisions and taking care of herself? Or do you prefer a dummy, who is continuously codependent on you or others in order to exist?

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 4, 07, 21:47 / #
Just wondering... do most guys prefer an independent female? I'm referring to a woman who is in the habit of making her own decisions and taking care of herself? Or do you prefer a dummy, who is continuously codependent on you or others in order to exist? A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

smooth_jazzThreads: 12 Posts: 122 Joined: Jun 21, 07	Aug 4, 07, 21:51 / #
I think somewhere in the middle. I want to feel that I am needed but at the same time I don't want her to be helpless like a lost sheep without me.

jnowiskiThreads: 3 Posts: 191 Joined: Jun 11, 07	Aug 4, 07, 21:56 / #
Quoting: smooth_jazz think somewhere in the middle. I want to feel that I am needed but at the same time I don't want her to be helpless like a lost sheep without me. ditto.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 4, 07, 21:57 / #
Quoting: smooth_jazz I think somewhere in the middle That's good to hear smooth jazz. Surprisingly many men I know like having a woman who is braindead. I suppose this may because he prefers being in control of the relationship. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 4, 07, 22:04 / #
Quoting: jnowiski ditto. I'm glad you guys feel that way. An ex-boyfriend told me he'd take care of me and pay my way through college, if I were to move in with him. I told him HELL NO! I'm very independent and have my pride. I enjoy the satisfaction I receive by earning things on my own. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

boloThreads: 4 Posts: 345 Joined: Jul 11, 06	Aug 4, 07, 22:13 / #
Quoting: beckski Just wondering... do most guys prefer an independent female? I'm referring to a woman who is in the habit of making her own decisions and taking care of herself? Or do you prefer a dummy, who is continuously codependent on you or others in order to exist? I prefer independent and smart type (like Krysia, for example). Someone who can sometimes be a man in bed too ;).

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06	Aug 4, 07, 22:16 / #
If I was a guy and bolo a female, I'd be happy :)

boloThreads: 4 Posts: 345 Joined: Jul 11, 06	Aug 4, 07, 22:19 / #
Yes, but seriously - I don't know what fun it is just to be with a dumb woman (even pretty one).

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06	Aug 4, 07, 22:22 / #
who says you're dumb?

smooth_jazzThreads: 12 Posts: 122 Joined: Jun 21, 07	Aug 4, 07, 22:41 / #
Quoting: krysia who says you're dumb? Haha, right on! Good one Krysia!

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Aug 5, 07, 19:07 / #
Quoting: bolo got used to hearing this so it doesn't make a big difference to me now.. Well, who told you that??? PD says different! :-)

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Aug 5, 07, 19:10 / #
Quoting: beckski In actuality their trophy may be dumb as dirt. Totally true becks. I want a guy with personality. If his looks compliment his personality then I have hit jackpot!!! :-)

smooth_jazzThreads: 12 Posts: 122 Joined: Jun 21, 07	Aug 5, 07, 19:20 / #
Quoting: PolskaDoll I like this answer, because I think, in truth, while I like to dominate a lot of decisions in my relationship I also like to be 'looked after' does this make sense??? :-) Yes it makes sense. I understand completely. :-)

HuegThreads: 1 Posts: 428 Joined: Apr 16, 07	Aug 5, 07, 19:29 / #
You'd be quackers to want a dummy. No offence Ray. Independent and doesn't say gottle of gear please yep.

boloThreads: 4 Posts: 345 Joined: Jul 11, 06	Aug 4, 07, 22:42 / #
Quoting: krysia who says you're dumb? I got used to hearing this so it doesn't make a big difference to me now..

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 5, 07, 18:57 / #
Quoting: bolo I don't know what fun it is just to be with a dumb woman (even pretty one It seems like some guys are attracted to a woman solely because of her good looks. They may want a trophy, in order to show her off to others. In actuality their trophy may be dumb as dirt. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Aug 5, 07, 19:05 / #
Quoting: smooth_jazz I think somewhere in the middle. I want to feel that I am needed but at the same time I don't want her to be helpless like a lost sheep without me I like this answer, because I think, in truth, while I like to dominate a lot of decisions in my relationship I also like to be 'looked after' does this make sense??? :-)

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 5, 07, 19:09 / #
Hi PD. Yes it does make good sense to be somewhere in the middle. In a relationship things should be done in a partnership aspect, as opposed to some that are more like a dictatorship. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Aug 5, 07, 19:35 / #
Well, ducks are going quackers up here right now thanks to the rain but the Hoosiers are totally still worried about Ray.

Bdog145Threads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: Jul 15, 07	Edited by: Bdog145 Aug 5, 07, 22:35 / #
I'd prefer a smart woman who can take care of herself, but one who doesn't go overboard. I've dated some ultra independent women who try too hard to show the world that they can do things as good or better than men. It turns into too much of a competition than a relationship. I'd like to find someone who is smart and capable, but also someone whom I can grow with and be able to compromise with. I'm leaning toward a more easy-going girl now. As far a looks...there's some give and take there. Obviously, there has to be some mutual attraciton but there isn't anything specific I look for...although, I have a thing for redheads :) That's my two cents...

Patrycja19Threads: 79 Posts: 3,972 Joined: Oct 31, 06	Aug 5, 07, 23:02 / #
Quoting: bolo I got used to hearing this so it doesn't make a big difference to me now.. bolo, dont even think that way, your funny and smart, and dont let anyone tell you any different.. everyone is special in their own way...

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Aug 5, 07, 23:19 / #
Quoting: beckski An ex-boyfriend told me he'd take care of me and pay my way through college, if I were to move in with him. I can relate. I dated a guy who wanted me to marry him and stay home and cook while he worked. I couldn't just throw my life away like that.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 6, 07, 00:08 / #
Quoting: Bdog145 That's my two cents... Welcome back Bdog. I've got another corny statistician joke for you: What's the difference between a statistician and a mortician? No one's dying to see a statistician! A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

Bdog145Threads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: Jul 15, 07	Aug 6, 07, 01:00 / #
Quoting: beckski What's the difference between a statistician and a mortician? No one's dying to see a statistician! Oh my...were do you come up w/ these....hahaha Thanks!!!

AmathystThreads: 30 Posts: 3,967 Joined: Nov 10, 06	Aug 7, 07, 04:49 / #
Quoting: PolskaDoll like this answer, because I think, in truth, while I like to dominate a lot of decisions in my relationship I also like to be 'looked after' does this make sense??? :-) I agree, its nice to know that someone is there if you need them in times of stress etc., but it works both ways.

DecoratorThreads: 5 Posts: 412 Joined: Aug 26, 06	Aug 7, 07, 05:41 / #
I'd be perfectly happy being with an eccentric, wealthy, big breasted millionairess too.. That doesn't sound shallow does it.? ;-)

DaisyThreads: 16 Posts: 2,172 Joined: Apr 28, 07	Aug 7, 07, 06:06 / #
Quoting: Decorator That doesn't sound shallow does it.? ;-) yes.. but honest too..

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Aug 7, 07, 15:25 / #
Quoting: Amathyst its nice to know that someone is there if you need them in times of stress etc Very true!

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,147 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 7, 07, 15:29 / #
Quoting: Decorator big breasted millionairess too.. What if she's flat-chested? A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

DaisyThreads: 16 Posts: 2,172 Joined: Apr 28, 07	Aug 7, 07, 15:31 / #
Quoting: beckski What if she's flat-chested? She's a millionairess, she can have surgery