why is the older women such a problem for polish guys

angel wrote:

hello i have this dilema with my polish guy (see post). i have text him to say i would come and see him for a few days in poland because he is there waiting for work in england so i decided to go see him-he text back "jestes fantastic buska".
but when i spoke to him yesterday he said please dont come to poland wait till i am in england-it turns out the age difference is a problem he is 30 i am 40-we had talked about this before and our feelings are strong for each other-but he said age maybe problem-ok in england but not poland-i am upset by this -does this mean he never wants to be seen in poland with me-he said maybe problem with his family-but i said we would meet in a hotel away from his village-i said was my age a problem for him he said maybe-i said i thought we were ok with age difference-i told him maybe we should stop seeing each other if he had a problem with my age-he said no way was i crazy-he didnt want to look for anyone else either in poland or england-i am confused i love him very much but if my age is such a problem for him i am not sure what to expect. advice please

MagdalenaThreads: 5 Posts: 1,387 Joined: Aug 15, 07	Mar 3, 08, 07:31 / #
Eurola wrote: I don't know of any polish couples where the wife or a girlfriend is older. My great-grandmother was middle-aged when she married. I'm not sure she was actually older than her husband, but in that day and age a 40-year-old bride was not run of the mill either. My mother was 6 years older than my father. I am 7 years older than my partner. One of my friends has a bf at least 7 years younger as well. They're getting married soon. Etc. I am 40, and I have never heard of any older/younger prejudice. Sure, most guys tend to go for the younger crowd, but if they settle down with an older woman it's not really seen as a big deal. Is it just the people I hang out with?

Tommy	Edited by: Tommy Mar 7, 08, 14:55 / #
angel wrote: tommy so love is subconcious-so you dont know it and you cant control it-so its no notion invented-maybe you have never been in love or you are just too analytical love is what makes the world go round-or is it just physics-but we cant do a darn thing about that either coz force is not seen onlt the effects are so does it exixt at all or is it just a notion dreamed up by newton?-but then again newton was crazy Look, whatever you call it, love or affection, it will always remain a biological instinct of breeding, or more coarsely said, sex drive. That`s all. My mention of poets meant that it was them who started attributing some noble characteristics to such a common, even vulgar instinct. They were paid by males who realised that noble talk about love could help them seduce women faster and more efficiently. Of course I was in love but it was purely hormonic or ferromonic matter.

angelThreads: 17 Posts: 88 Joined: Jan 8, 08	Edited by: angel Mar 8, 08, 08:25 / #
Tommy wrote: it will always remain a biological instinct of breeding, no no no no no this is not true-what about people who "fall in love" when "breeding" is impossible- same sex couples, disabilities which cannot accomodate chid-bearing-or couples who choose not to breed Tommy wrote: They were paid by males who realised that noble talk about love could help them seduce women faster and more efficiently or maybe they needed help in expressing their feelings Tommy wrote: Of course I was in love but it was purely hormonic or ferromonic matter. i take it it didnt last-it can be transient-doesnt mean cant happen again-hormonic,ferromonic, cupidmonic or any monic for that matter i wish you love. love, love and nothing but love

fentonThreads: - Posts: 8 Joined: Mar 13, 08	Mar 13, 08, 19:01 / #
you hav a few good years yet

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Mar 13, 08, 20:10 / #
Age is not a problem for all Polish men. I suspect his family is just one of those families that happens to have a problem with it. I don't agree that you should leave him over this. You only live once and no one has any guarantees. Just have fun.

sapphireThreads: 28 Posts: 1,418 Joined: Dec 7, 06	Mar 20, 08, 03:10 / #
Tommy wrote: a biological instinct of breeding, angel wrote: no no no no no this is not true-what about people who "fall in love" when "breeding" is impossible- same sex couples, disabilities which cannot accomodate chid-bearing-or couples who choose not to breed Sounds like you guys have been watching one too many animal programmes on TV. :)

Wyspianska	Mar 20, 08, 03:21 / #
angel wrote: hello i have this dilema with my polish guy (see post). i have text him to say i would come and see him for a few days in poland because he is there waiting for work in england so i decided to go see him-he text back "jestes fantastic buska". but when i spoke to him yesterday he said please dont come to poland wait till i am in england-it turns out the age difference is a problem he is 30 i am 40-we had talked about this before and our feelings are strong for each other-but he said age maybe problem-ok in england but not poland-i am upset by this -does this mean he never wants to be seen in poland with me-he said maybe problem with his family-but i said we would meet in a hotel away from his village-i said was my age a problem for him he said maybe-i said i thought we were ok with age difference-i told him maybe we should stop seeing each other if he had a problem with my age-he said no way was i crazy-he didnt want to look for anyone else either in poland or england-i am confused i love him very much but if my age is such a problem for him i am not sure what to expect. advice please Did he at least tell his family about you and your age? If he hides it, then fukk that, find another man, obviously he's not worth ANY effort. And never have issues about your age please.