Poking tongue out at a Polish girl - is it considered rude/offensive?

The Codfather:

The context is......I was right about something at work,and a Polish female workmate ( a good friend) was wrong.So when I got complimented by the boss,I stuck my tongue out at her,in a joking " Nana na nana" way.

She then muttered something at me in Polish ( it might have been " You wish",but I doubt that).And wouldn't speak to me for the rest of the day.

Did I offend her?,or was she just ticked at being wrong?.

The CodfatherThreads: 1 Posts: 6 Joined: Nov 14, 07	Dec 2, 07, 14:49 / #
The context is......I was right about something at work,and a Polish female workmate ( a good friend) was wrong.So when I got complimented by the boss,I stuck my tongue out at her,in a joking " Nana na nana" way. She then muttered something at me in Polish ( it might have been " You wish",but I doubt that).And wouldn't speak to me for the rest of the day. Did I offend her?,or was she just ticked at being wrong?.

AvJoeUK	Dec 2, 07, 14:54 / #
Dont Worry Cod, Some people take being Wrong alittle harder then is needed!

miranda	Dec 2, 07, 14:56 / #
Quoting: The Codfather Did I offend her?,or was she just ticked at being wrong?. the fastest way to find out is to ask her:)IMO good job ADM

The CodfatherThreads: 1 Posts: 6 Joined: Nov 14, 07	Dec 2, 07, 15:00 / #
Hehe.I darent ask her! A slap in the face with a large dead fish hurts....a lot! Oh well,a trip to the florist and the chocolate shop should help ;-)

AvJoeUK	Dec 2, 07, 15:05 / #
Quoting: The Codfather Oh well,a trip to the florist and the chocolate shop should help ;-) That wont cut it, the only way to make ammense would be to confess she was right all along! :D Joking.

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Dec 2, 07, 15:09 / #
Quoting: The Codfather a trip to the florist and the chocolate shop should help ;-) if you buy them chocolates and flowers everytime they go in a huff, they will learn a valuable lesson on how to behave in order to get treats ha ha. just ignore her for a while too.

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Dec 2, 07, 15:10 / #
I just had to check whether or not the lady at work (not the most lady-like one ever) who does occasionally stick her tongue out at people, has caused either offense or 'the wrong idea' to someone Polish. Luckily, there's enough in common between the cultures when it comes to tongue-poking. I did once hear that 'nyaa-nyaa-nya-nyaa-nyaa' (sometimes 'ner-ner-ne-ner-ner' and other variants) is assumed to have originated amongst the Romans. Where their empire never reached, the people either are unfamiliar with it, or have only historically recently been introduced.

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Dec 2, 07, 15:12 / #
Quoting: The Codfather the chocolate shop Go on - treat yourself - you did the noble thing by asking us on the forum.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,948 Joined: May 17, 07	Dec 2, 07, 15:26 / #
Quoting: The Codfather stuck my tongue out at her,in a joking " Nana na nana" way. You should better fart.

MichalThreads: - Posts: 2,408 Joined: Feb 27, 07	Dec 2, 07, 15:30 / #
You will find that women in generally do not like being proved wrong. When in your life has a woman ever said to you "I am sorry, my fault?" Women are always right be they Polish or not. Mind you, there are quite a lot of nasty ones in Poland and several have escaped on to this Forum too!

MufasaThreads: 24 Posts: 445 Joined: Oct 21, 07	Dec 2, 07, 16:13 / #
Huuuuuuuuuge generalisation! There is nothing better in this life than to BE ABLE TO SAY YOU'RE SORRY! Goes for men even more!

pamlarougeThreads: 4 Posts: 68 Joined: Oct 27, 07	Dec 2, 07, 16:51 / #
Quoting: JustysiaS e old fart likes a bit of a rant every now and then, about how things are and how things should be. I've noticed that! And I regularly say "I'm sorry! It's my fault"...and I often end up saying it to my boyfriend. Being right is less important than being happy

MufasaThreads: 24 Posts: 445 Joined: Oct 21, 07	Dec 2, 07, 17:20 / #
Quoting: pamlarouge I regularly say "I'm sorry! It's my fault"...and I often end up saying it to my boyfriend Do you say this to him, even though you sometimes might be right, but he wouldn't accept that?

pamlarougeThreads: 4 Posts: 68 Joined: Oct 27, 07	Edited by: pamlarouge Dec 2, 07, 18:33 / #
Well, I haven't run into that situation with him yet, he doesn't care about being right either (this is why I love him!) so it hasn't been an issue. :) We're both really good about respecting the other's opinion, and we both try hard to understand the other's point of view if we do disagree. So far, it's been very successful, and we've had some hard talks about subjects where we held very different opinions. I think we've had success because we're both willing to compromise. You can't compromise in every situation, some things you have to stand firm about. But I think in most situations you can find a middle ground...both people just have to be willing to look for it.

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Dec 2, 07, 16:12 / #
oh hello, i believe im one of these nasty Polish women! ahh, he only talks this way cos he had Polish chicks standing him up a lot. the old fart likes a bit of a rant every now and then, about how things are and how things should be.

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Dec 2, 07, 16:19 / #
exactly, i cant remember the last time i heard a bloke who would genuinely admit he was wrong and apologised. people like Michal who for some reason have issues with women and especially Polish women correcting their mistakes all the time should get over themselves and have some self-critisism, too.

pamlarougeThreads: 4 Posts: 68 Joined: Oct 27, 07	Dec 2, 07, 18:44 / #
One more thing I forgot to add, really, it doesn't matter if you don't completely understand the other person's reasons for thinking it's your fault. A lot of times you just have to respect the fact the reasons they have are legitamite reasons for them-you don't have to understand those reasons for them to be legitamite. So, if my boyfriend was hurt by something I did, even if I thought it was silly and that I was in the right, I would still apologize. Sometimes it's better if it smooths things over. You just have to weigh whether or not your pride or reasoning for standing firm is worth the happiness in the relationship.

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Dec 2, 07, 18:59 / #
Surely you only poke your tongue out at someone you think will be good humoured enough to take it. If it turns out they're not, at least you should be able to say sorry you didn't mean to cause offense.

pamlarougeThreads: 4 Posts: 68 Joined: Oct 27, 07	Dec 2, 07, 19:08 / #
Quoting: osiol If it turns out they're not, at least you should be able to say sorry you didn't mean to cause offense. Ditto!

EraAtlantiaThreads: 3 Posts: 128 Joined: Sep 3, 08	Sep 5, 08, 20:13 / #
bro, its the easiest thing in the world to offend a polish girl. yawn without covering your mouth, not saying hello first, fending your own corner, proving your right, even friendly name calling, pretending to be gay, laughing out loud, acting childish for laughs, laughing actually, doing something wrong....seriously, man, they are generally a boring, whiney bunch......steer well clear....

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Sep 6, 08, 03:32 / #
EraAtlantia: its the easiest thing in the world to offend a polish girl sounds like somebody's been told off by a Polish girlfriend one time too many. just cos she dumped you for being a slob and useless doesn't mean she was wrong :) EraAtlantia: they are generally a boring, whiney bunch......steer well clear.... only when we come accross a useless slob ;)

SomerledThreads: 6 Posts: 106 Joined: May 31, 07	Sep 6, 08, 03:43 / #
Why not just ask her if you caused offense and if so say you're sorry. As for being right, my girl (a Polka) often apologizes, even if she is right. It's a tactic I'm still learning.

SwiteziankaThreads: - Posts: 525 Joined: Jun 17, 08	Sep 6, 08, 04:03 / #
When you poke your tongue out in a Polish kindergarten, it's considered rude. But when an adult doing that might be considered a bit retarded.

Lir	Edited by: Lir Sep 6, 08, 04:27 / #
I think poking your tongue out at anyone is childish , rude, bad mannered and well pretty common too ! Nothing to do with what nationality you are . I think we should start making guesses as to who Michal really is ? I think its another PF member who likes to wind people up ? :)

MareGaeaThreads: 45 Posts: 5,527 Joined: Feb 6, 08	Sep 6, 08, 05:10 / #
Poking your tongue out and saying nanana is universally regarded as childish and slightly retarded :) So, I don't see the point of the asker: why do many (especially the British and Irish) consider Polish ppl like from another planet? Is it some form of hidden racism (like for example saying about black ppl: hey, they look after their children too!) under cover of interest; one doesn't really like them or is prejudiced against them and tries to mask it by asking ridiculous questions like if poking a tongue out to a girl is rude. YES OF COURSE IT IS RUDE! It's also childish. When, lord, when, do ppl stop asking stupid questions like this...and take everybody for what they really are: humans. With all their faults and good things. M-G (sees that Osiol has turned into a golden donkey)

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Sep 6, 08, 05:19 / #
poking your tongue out at someone is not rude, i find it funny. do it at work all the time and nobody gets offended. if somebody poked their tongue out at me in town or something i'd just laugh. but hey that's me.

MareGaeaThreads: 45 Posts: 5,527 Joined: Feb 6, 08	Sep 6, 08, 05:23 / #
Yes, Justice, that's you :) M-G

Arise_St_GeorgeThreads: 15 Posts: 572 Joined: Mar 8, 08	Edited by: Arise_St_George Sep 6, 08, 05:45 / #
The Codfather: The context is......I was right about something at work,and a Polish female workmate ( a good friend) was wrong.So when I got complimented by the boss,I stuck my tongue out at her,in a joking " Nana na nana" way. She then muttered something at me in Polish ( it might have been " You wish",but I doubt that).And wouldn't speak to me for the rest of the day. Did I offend her?,or was she just ticked at being wrong?. Nothing rude or offensive about poking your tongue out at someone. It's just a playful act. It tends to get used by girls though, not guys. You didn't flick your tongue up and down did you lol? We all know that means "I want to lick your pus5y!"

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Sep 6, 08, 10:29 / #
* Donkey enters, pokes his tongue out at everyone present, then leaves *

Lir	Sep 6, 08, 12:00 / #
Yeah but you're just a dumb donkey and animals don't know any better LOL I was brought up proper like, not dragged up like some :) Sticking your tongue out at other people should be banned and punishable by Law . :)