Polish men and marriage.

petrushka:

My Polish byfriend freaks out when I speak about marriage. He says that he wants children with me, but he's very sceptical about marriage. How come he is like that? I think that having children is a more serious matter than getting married....

petrushkaThreads: 5 Posts: 21 Joined: Aug 23, 08	Aug 31, 08, 15:56 / #
My Polish byfriend freaks out when I speak about marriage. He says that he wants children with me, but he's very sceptical about marriage. How come he is like that? I think that having children is a more serious matter than getting married....

Warsaw8Threads: 7 Posts: 227 Joined: Jul 23, 08	Aug 31, 08, 16:05 / #
Polish men are loose cannons, they want to secure their name, but still have fun ;) No but seriously, there is a thread here somewhere about german men vs. polish, and polish girls were talking about that stuff. Saying german men make good spouse... I carry german traits over my polish ones, so im available! :) JK

petrushkaThreads: 5 Posts: 21 Joined: Aug 23, 08	Aug 31, 08, 16:19 / #
haha.. no, I am sure that my boyfriend is serious about our relationship, and he is the only one that I want...

BartolomeThreads: 2 Posts: 1,345 Joined: Sep 14, 06	Aug 31, 08, 16:35 / #
It's rather an individual trait... My parents are married :)

petrushkaThreads: 5 Posts: 21 Joined: Aug 23, 08	Aug 31, 08, 16:38 / #
I guess that he will marry me some day.. it is not something that should be easily done.. I was married once before, and if I should marry again, I want it to last for the rest of my life.

MistyThreads: 6 Posts: 196 Joined: Jul 20, 08	Aug 31, 08, 17:20 / #
petrushka: My Polish byfriend freaks out when I speak about marriage. He says that he wants children with me, but he's very sceptical about marriage. How come he is like that? I think that having children is a more serious matter than getting married.... Well, I don't know that you should worry too much about it. If he isn't sure about getting married but wants children and you are saying having children is more serious than getting married...where is the problem? Unless he won't have children until he is married? That's where the problem could lie. Is there a large age gap between you? You're right, you should make sure he is the absolute one for you before marrying again.

petrushkaThreads: 5 Posts: 21 Joined: Aug 23, 08	Aug 31, 08, 17:34 / #
he is one year younger than me. Well, I guess there is no problem:) he says that he wants children before getting married, but I prefer to be married first.. but I guess that I can't expect that everythin will be the way I want..

zoogleThreads: 6 Posts: 47 Joined: Nov 21, 07	Aug 31, 08, 22:01 / #
Perhaps he doesn't want to rush into something that hasn't worked out for you in the past?

petrushkaThreads: 5 Posts: 21 Joined: Aug 23, 08	Sep 1, 08, 09:44 / #
maybe.. but he knows about the circumstances in my first marriage, and he understands why things went like they did. I will say that the situation between my boyfriend and I are completely different.

SofieThreads: 2 Posts: 9 Joined: Nov 17, 08	Nov 17, 08, 08:16 / #
Well, i kinda need some help.. This friend of mine, are going to marrige a girl, her name is martyna. But, i realy realy realy dont like the tought. He loves another girl, and they are men to be, i swear. It is his parents idea, and he is only 22?

urszulaThreads: 2 Posts: 362 Joined: Aug 31, 07	Nov 17, 08, 08:23 / #
Oh yeah, they get married later divorce. He loves someone else, he will never be happy with arranged marriage. He's an adult, it willl take guts but he has to stand up for himself. It is his life not his parents and only has control over it.

LisicaThreads: - Posts: 7 Joined: Nov 7, 08	Nov 18, 08, 09:04 / #
Frm my own experience if you decide to have children at some stage he will want to tie the knot straight away. Maybe it has something to do with our culture - you don't really see Polish not being married when having kids. You are lucky to have a Polish boyfriend. When they say they want to marry you they keep their promise (well, at least the ones I know). You wouldn't like to try to figure out Irish boyfriend who tells you at the age of 31 he's not ready for commitment and kids yet has a child with someone else already... :))

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07	Nov 18, 08, 09:16 / #
petrushka: I think that having children is a more serious matter than getting married.... Apparently he doesn't want to bother with trivial matters ;)