Age difference in our relationship. I'm 41, my girlfriend is 27.

ShelleyS:

markcooper:
......but life is a little bit more complicated than that. Take for example the two girls i mentioned ( i know them to say hello but not all thier personal circumstances).
It could be the case where they are moving on because they are of the belief that they have found somone with better material prospects. ( which in my opinion would be wrong). On the other hand they could be moving on becasue thier husbands are alcoholics, no job and sat in front of tv all day. ( in which case then they would be justified to look for somone else).
Because the wives were such high flyers ;0)

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06	Apr 29, 09, 10:09 / #
Get to know her, nothing wrong with that, meet her parents and see what happens. But this is what usually happens: you guys get married, maybe have a few kids here and there, in about 7 years the marriage gets boring, she starts talking to this Polish guy. You have no idea what they're talking about. You post her emails and text messages on the forum. We translate them for you. Some of us translate them wrong. She is unhappy, kids cry, and you end up with a broken heart.

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Apr 29, 09, 10:48 / #
krysia: But this is what usually happens: you guys get married, maybe have a few kids here and there, in about 7 years the marriage gets boring, she starts talking to this Polish guy. You have no idea what they're talking about. You post her emails and text messages on the forum. We translate them for you. Some of us translate them wrong. She is unhappy, kids cry, and you end up with a broken heart. To be honest from what I see here in London it is the other way away. The two cleaners where i currently work have recently left thier husbands for english guys. Two years ago when they both came over neither could speak english. They have changed beyond belief ( in confidence etc). I don't think the guys made much effort with learing the language. I think this to be half the problem.

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Apr 29, 09, 12:15 / #
boumbam: Having been married for a good 20 years to an independent high flying Wester girl you can imagine how I crave for such great Eastern promise!!! Go for it Marc boy They are sat all around me in Canary Wharf ( high flying western girls). All like somthing of a game show. It's not for me.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Apr 29, 09, 12:20 / #
markcooper: The two cleaners where i currently work have recently left thier husbands for english guys. Two years ago when they both came over neither could speak english. They have changed beyond belief ( in confidence etc). I don't think the guys made much effort with learing the language. Oh that makes it alright then :0(

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Apr 29, 09, 13:13 / #
ShelleyS: markcooper: The two cleaners where i currently work have recently left thier husbands for english guys. Two years ago when they both came over neither could speak english. They have changed beyond belief ( in confidence etc). I don't think the guys made much effort with learing the language. Oh that makes it alright then :0( Not saying it makes it right. Just saying that it goes on........on both sides of the fences so to speak. In this case the two ladies in question picked up the language very quickly, started socialising quite alot ( as now there was no language barrier) anf basically changed direction with there lives.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Apr 29, 09, 14:23 / #
markcooper: Not saying it makes it right. Just saying that it goes on........on both sides of the fences so to speak. In this case the two ladies in question picked up the language very quickly, started socialising quite alot ( as now there was no language barrier) anf basically changed direction with there lives. Yeah it goes on...personally I'm a believer that marriage is for life, not just for xmas ;0) or in this case when you find someone with better prospects!

HarryThreads: 62 Posts: 8,508 Joined: May 2, 07 [Suspended]	Apr 29, 09, 14:25 / #
markcooper: is age gaps in relationships more common than here over in poland ? The average age gap in a Polish wedding is larger than that in the UK. From memory the average age difference in Poland is four years and in the UK it is one year. markcooper: Do you think the age gap is so large that at some point differences will occur and it will be difficult to keep things going ? Highly unlikely. One last thing: get in there my son!

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Apr 29, 09, 14:57 / #
ShelleyS: markcooper: Not saying it makes it right. Just saying that it goes on........on both sides of the fences so to speak. In this case the two ladies in question picked up the language very quickly, started socialising quite alot ( as now there was no language barrier) anf basically changed direction with there lives. Yeah it goes on...personally I'm a believer that marriage is for life, not just for xmas ;0) or in this case when you find someone with better prospects! ......but life is a little bit more complicated than that. Take for example the two girls i mentioned ( i know them to say hello but not all thier personal circumstances). It could be the case where they are moving on because they are of the belief that they have found somone with better material prospects. ( which in my opinion would be wrong). On the other hand they could be moving on becasue thier husbands are alcoholics, no job and sat in front of tv all day. ( in which case then they would be justified to look for somone else).

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Apr 29, 09, 15:26 / #
markcooper: ......but life is a little bit more complicated than that. Take for example the two girls i mentioned ( i know them to say hello but not all thier personal circumstances). It could be the case where they are moving on because they are of the belief that they have found somone with better material prospects. ( which in my opinion would be wrong). On the other hand they could be moving on becasue thier husbands are alcoholics, no job and sat in front of tv all day. ( in which case then they would be justified to look for somone else). Because the wives were such high flyers ;0)

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Apr 29, 09, 16:13 / #
ShelleyS: markcooper: ......but life is a little bit more complicated than that. Take for example the two girls i mentioned ( i know them to say hello but not all thier personal circumstances). It could be the case where they are moving on because they are of the belief that they have found somone with better material prospects. ( which in my opinion would be wrong). On the other hand they could be moving on becasue thier husbands are alcoholics, no job and sat in front of tv all day. ( in which case then they would be justified to look for somone else). Because the wives were such high flyers ;0) i know them, within the cleaning world may be considered high flyers, otherwise not.

freebirdThreads: 3 Posts: 638 Joined: Jun 8, 07	Apr 29, 09, 17:16 / #
ShelleyS: Some women just used men like stepping stones, firmly placing a foot on the next one before lifting the preceding foot off the other.... very true unfortunitely

Pani_PolskaThreads: - Posts: 94 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Edited by: Pani_Polska Apr 30, 09, 01:19 / #
plk123: boumbam: This is Untrue. rofl... yeah it is.boumbam: Follow your heart as once you experience the family values and lifestyle in Poland you will not regret it . or you'll run so fast you won't know when to stop. I second the "you'll run so fast you won't know when to stop"

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,955 Joined: May 17, 07	Apr 30, 09, 01:20 / #
ShelleyS: ome women just use men like stepping stones, firmly placing a foot on the next one before lifting the preceding foot off That is why you have to get away and set them off balance.

lalkaThreads: 2 Posts: 8 Joined: May 29, 09	May 29, 09, 17:05 / #
I am Polish 26-my ex is 42 best relationship ever dont worry about anything enjoy

time meansThreads: 9 Posts: 2,306 Joined: Apr 21, 08	Apr 29, 09, 16:27 / #
markcooper: in which case then they would be justified to look for somone else). In which case they should end the marriage first, and then look for someone else.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Edited by: ShelleyS Apr 29, 09, 17:15 / #
time means: In which case they should end the marriage first, and then look for someone else. Some women just use men like stepping stones, firmly placing a foot on the next one before lifting the preceding foot off the other....

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,604 Joined: Aug 10, 06	Apr 29, 09, 22:06 / #
ShelleyS: Some women just use men like stepping stones, firmly placing a foot on the next one before lifting the preceding foot off the other.... True, and some guys do the same until they're at the death bed crying coz they're all alone..

sausageThreads: 25 Posts: 1,053 Joined: Sep 21, 07	May 29, 09, 17:09 / #
lalka: my ex is 42 best relationship ever it couldn't have been that good if he is now an ex ;)

trinagoThreads: - Posts: 3 Joined: May 31, 09	May 31, 09, 05:52 / #
every individual is different so it is very hard to give advice or make judgement on others.

foxtrot1213Threads: 2 Posts: 49 Joined: Aug 29, 08	May 31, 09, 12:40 / #
No. I am almost 30 and my polish girl is 20 years old. We talked a lot about age difference and the possible future problems. She's fine by that. and no, she's not after money or something. She is brutally honest which I like. She just wants some support, and visit to me in Finland once in a while.

Adam MatthiasThreads: - Posts: 1 Joined: May 31, 09	May 31, 09, 12:51 / #
Hey, don't worry at all... I'm 34 and my GF is 23... some of my students gave me advice. They told me that age here isn't an issue. I would happen to agree. :)

pussycatsbearThreads: 1 Posts: 47 Joined: Apr 15, 09	Jun 2, 09, 07:00 / #
[quote=McCoy] Do you think the age gap is so large[/quote) The age gap between my bf and I is larger than you do ;) DOn't worry age doesnt matter really for me, do you?

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Sep 28, 09, 21:15 / #
Dude dont worry be happy. if she makes you happy. **** age it doesnt mean nothing if you are happy. I am 27 and my Polish boyfriend I live with is almost 50. so live and be happy good luck.

OsiedleRuda	Sep 28, 09, 22:32 / #
LAGirl: Dude dont worry be happy. if she makes you happy. **** age it doesnt mean nothing if you are happy. I am 27 and my Polish boyfriend I live with is almost 50. so live and be happy good luck. Depends on how old you both are though, innit? I can't see myself going out with someone still at school!

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Sep 28, 09, 22:39 / #
LAGirl: I am 27 and my Polish boyfriend I live with is almost 50. so live and be happy good luck. Is this the one that went MIA? Did he go and visit his grand children? OsiedleRuda: I can't see myself going out with someone still at school! You could, but we'd call you Gary Glitter! ;0)

OsiedleRuda	Sep 28, 09, 22:45 / #
ShelleyS: You could, but we'd call you Gary Glitter! ;0) I just couldn't!! How wrong would that be... the last time I met a girl "after school" was when I was 16! :D

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Sep 29, 09, 21:09 / #
I am 27 and in colleg some of you act really dumb.

polskyThreads: 5 Posts: 98 Joined: May 26, 09	Nov 8, 09, 11:12 / #
If your girl is 27, she;s definitely too old. You should get a 17 one... fast!