Difficult Polish girlfriend - how long would you put up with her? My story.

Would you put up with all the above, almost daily, for 15 months? I doubt it. I've already had one cheating wife, and another controlling relationship, so I learned how (and when) to get out before it was too late, before all my self-esteem was destroyed. I got out just in time. I don't expect you to understand.

jump_bunnyThreads: 8 Posts: 332 Joined: May 14, 09	Jun 22, 09, 22:18 / #
Jihozapad: It may have been more bearable if there was more frequent sex, but there wasn't. So why stay? Yes, why stay if ona nie daje dupy. Congratulations. Good decision.

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 22, 09, 22:20 / #
jump_bunny: ona nie daje dupy. is that all there is to a relationship?

jump_bunnyThreads: 8 Posts: 332 Joined: May 14, 09	Jun 22, 09, 22:20 / #
plk123: is that all there is to a relationship? Obviously that's what both of you think.

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 22, 09, 22:23 / #
jump_bunny: Obviously that's what both of you think. i never said that but YOU did.

jump_bunnyThreads: 8 Posts: 332 Joined: May 14, 09	Jun 22, 09, 22:26 / #
I wasn't talking to you plk in the first place and I would recommend you to stay away from me.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jun 22, 09, 22:27 / #
Why do men not lay down groundrules and then let themselves get trodden on? Geez, I'm beginning to believe in those Americans that say affirmative action leads to situations where help is not appreciated and they just want more and more. It's the same with some women. If the guy encourages that kind of behaviour, he's a lot to blame and isn't much of a man by giving more and more. For what? A piece of rump, pff...

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 22, 09, 22:28 / #
jump_bunny: I wasn't talking to you plk in the first place and I would recommend you to stay away from me. well you know.. you can recommend whatever the hell you want.. surely doesn't mean i have to comply.. besides.. you're proving the original posters point with that attitude of yours.

johncardwellThreads: 3 Posts: 117 Joined: May 3, 09	Jun 22, 09, 22:34 / #
I left three weeks ago Glad to hear it. Sorry I didn't get it from your post. Maybe she will kill herself someday and make the world a better place. I hope she does not have any more children. Would you put up with all the above, almost daily, for 15 months? I doubt it. I've already had one cheating wife, and another controlling relationship, so I learned how (and when) to get out before it was too late, before all my self-esteem was destroyed. I got out just in time. I don't expect you to understand. I understand perfectly. I have seen this happen to may people, men and women. Jihozapad, if you don't mind my asking, which city do you live in? I want to avoid this city? Were all your bad experiences Polish Women? I hope not. thank you

sadieannThreads: 4 Posts: 320 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Jun 22, 09, 22:36 / #
Jihozapad Jihozapad: I left three weeks ago Move forward with your life. You vented on PF. Try not to generalize all women. Obviously, you made a decision, reflect on the 'righteousness ' your conveying......Jihozapad Jihozapad: whereas I need and always got plenty - even with other Polish women! lol) - sorry darling, ???

scrappletonThreads: - Posts: 1,365 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Jun 22, 09, 22:39 / #
plk123: besides.. you're proving the original posters point with that attitude of yours. lol, yeah basically.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jun 22, 09, 22:45 / #
Men have really got to sniff out the princesses. There are so many good and decent women here, why chase the princesses? They are self-seeking turds but I don't see them often. Wanna know why? I avoid where they go and ignore them when they enter open areas.

April ValentineThreads: 4 Posts: 15 Joined: Mar 30, 09	Edited by: April Valentine Jun 22, 09, 23:26 / #
you know the answer otherwise you wouldnt need confirmation on this thread. i feel for you though, i know what its like never feeling good enough. Its up to you what you do, you just gotta ask, whatever decision you make, are you going to regret it? can you live with yourself if you carried on this bully/victim relationship? she has problems deep within herself which no matter how nice or horrible or forgiving you'll be will make that change, she has to change for herself, and why would you wait for her to change? shes been like this most of her life i assume, why would she change now? you loving and respecting her OBVIOUSLY wasn't good enough reason for her to change. You sound sweet and like a gentleman, shes not for you and if you have your heart set on only Polish women (more in common i understand) then just keep being yourself because sooner or later real peronalities always show themselves whether that be good or bad. p.s keep an open mind with other nationalities, more opportuinities and chances, i hope i helped :)

jump_bunnyThreads: 8 Posts: 332 Joined: May 14, 09	Jun 22, 09, 23:33 / #
scrappleton: lol, yeah basically. How? What do you know about me apart from Nothing? :) I only pointed out the author of this thread makes himself look like a victim while in fact he was no angel himself.

tornado2007Threads: 20 Posts: 3,497 Joined: Jul 11, 07	Jun 22, 09, 23:38 / #
this thread is turning into a bit of a farse isn't it, lol, i mean are we even talking about the original post anymore :)

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Edited by: ShelleyS Jun 22, 09, 23:34 / #
PlasticPole: Sounds like you two are incompatible. I thought that too, funny old world isn't ;0) Jihozapad: Would you put up with all the above, almost daily, for 15 months? I doubt it. I've already had one cheating wife, and another controlling relationship, so I learned how (and when) to get out before it was too late, before all my self-esteem was destroyed. I got out just in time Jihozapad: let me just add that I've spent 12 years in relationships with Polish women. But never have I come across one as abusive like this. Hmmmm, so the rest just cheated and controlled you...maybe try another nationality? Just an idea... Jihozapad: (b) hoping I meet another Polish woman soon, because they are still my first choice of partner Oh dear :0(

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jun 22, 09, 23:35 / #
I know that you are a teacher, howzat? :) What do you teach? Do you have a difficult Polish girlfriend too? ;)

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 22, 09, 23:36 / #
jump_bunny: I only pointed out the author of this thread makes himself look like a victim while in fact he was no angel himself. that's more of the same bs.. you're judging and all of a sudden you know the OP.. sure, sure..

sadieannThreads: 4 Posts: 320 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Jun 22, 09, 23:39 / #
tornado2007 tornado2007: this thread is turning into a bit of a farse isn't it, lol, i mean are we even talking about the original post anymore Time to move to random chat- agree...

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 22, 09, 23:40 / #
yes we are.. it's all related

jump_bunnyThreads: 8 Posts: 332 Joined: May 14, 09	Jun 22, 09, 23:46 / #
plk123: that's more of the same bs.. you're judging So are you. You have never met the described woman yet you are free to criticise her.

Jihozapad	Jun 22, 09, 23:47 / #
ShelleyS: Hmmmm, so the rest just cheated and controlled you...maybe try another nationality? Just an idea... ONE other Polish woman cheated, the controller was of another race altogether. Two bad ones out of about 20 exes isn't too bad! No malice towards any of the others. I love the way that all of a sudden I'm the bad one. You lot don't even know 10% of what happened. And yes, I'm not perfect, but I put in the proverbial Alan Sugar 110% into that relationship, and got little back out of it. Too many false promises. I was right to leave. Call me a loser/cheat/liar if you like, I and my family know the truth, and that's all that matters.

pgtxThreads: 48 Posts: 6,269 Joined: Feb 14, 09 [Moderator]	Jun 22, 09, 23:48 / #
jump_bunny: you are free to criticise her. of course... we'd criticize her as long as we hear her story.... soo....

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,160 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jun 22, 09, 23:49 / #
You escaped, Jihad, and that was a good decision.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Edited by: ShelleyS Jun 22, 09, 23:50 / #
Jihozapad: I love the way that all of a sudden I'm the bad one. I didnt say that, I merely said that you might like to try another nationality...I couldn't really care less, it's your life. Jihozapad: Call me a loser/cheat/liar if you like, We could add gay to that? ;0)

Jihozapad	Jun 22, 09, 23:52 / #
ShelleyS: I couldn't really care less, it's your life. then why reply?

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,410 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 22, 09, 23:52 / #
jump_bunny: So are you. You have never met the described woman yet you are free to criticise her. i figure that woman is you. :D :D :D

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,868 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Jun 23, 09, 02:06 / #
ok you left her, you're supposedly over it, so why come and cry about it online?? just a thought...

Patrycja19Threads: 76 Posts: 3,877 Joined: Oct 31, 06	Jun 23, 09, 07:28 / #
Jihozapad: Good riddance. I deserve better. And I've never wanted to date a model anyway. Or puste blachary. WOW kudos!! good thing you did that, it did sound like abusive relationship. I dont think /condone women being abusive to men ( mentally or physically). that could be my brother or cousin, and I certainly would not tolerate someone treating my brother so mean. she would have to get kicked to the curb. dont worry though, you did the right thing, people like her, they think they deserve silver platters, but really deserve shyt on shingles. my best advice is , look around you and I bet someone you know who is close to you is prob the one who cares the most and maybe you didnt see her before because you had your eyes on the one you thought was good for you. take care :)

tornado2007Threads: 20 Posts: 3,497 Joined: Jul 11, 07	Jun 23, 09, 11:35 / #
JustysiaS: ok you left her, you're supposedly over it, so why come and cry about it online?? just a thought... While i do have a lot of sympothy for the OP i do have to agree slightly, well maybe more than slightly with this sentiment. If you are over it now why would you want to go on discussing it?? I'm sure you'll find yourself another wonderful lady in the not to distant future

aphrodisiacThreads: 19 Posts: 3,907 Joined: Apr 15, 09	Jun 23, 09, 11:59 / #
why post? PF allows for pity threads, so why not.