Friendship With a Polish Women

Zero Cool:

I have met this really nice polish girl at work. I have been speaking with her for around 2-3 weeks and she seems like a really nice girl. I myself am 21 year old Asian and she is 26. The thing is i really want to become good friends with her to the point where i can i meet up with her outside of work and do stuff but its so damm hard for me to understand her. Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. The fact that we do night shifts doesent really help. Sometimes i think that she may just look at me as a kid because of the age difference but after reading some posts on this forum that does not seem the case. I really want to get to know her better and maybe she will even open up to me in the future. What do you all think?

Zero CoolThreads: 1 Posts: 3 Joined: Dec 23, 09	Dec 23, 09, 01:24 / #
Hi, I have met this really nice polish girl at work. I have been speaking with her for around 2-3 weeks and she seems like a really nice girl. I myself am 21 year old Asian and she is 26. The thing is i really want to become good friends with her to the point where i can i meet up with her outside of work and do stuff but its so damm hard for me to understand her. Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. The fact that we do night shifts doesent really help. Sometimes i think that she may just look at me as a kid because of the age difference but after reading some posts on this forum that does not seem the case. I really want to get to know her better and maybe she will even open up to me in the future. What do you all think?

IronsideThreads: 56 Posts: 6,196 Joined: Feb 26, 09	Dec 23, 09, 01:27 / #
Zero Cool **** me, not again!!!!!! I think you should become a monk or smoke more weed!

BrutalButcherThreads: 1 Posts: 623 Joined: Nov 10, 09	Dec 23, 09, 01:29 / #
Zero Cool: I have met this really nice polish girl at work. I have been speaking with her for around 2-3 weeks and she seems like a really nice girl. I myself am 21 year old Asian and she is 26. The thing is i really want to become good friends with her to the point where i can i meet up with her outside of work and do stuff but its so damm hard for me to understand her. Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. The fact that we do night shifts doesent really help. Sometimes i think that she may just look at me as a kid because of the age difference but after reading some posts on this forum that does not seem the case. I really want to get to know her better and maybe she will even open up to me in the future. What do you all think? You can´t understand her because you can´t speak English. First ,it´s not "friendship with a Polish women" but "with a Polish woman". You are 5 years younger than her. She is much more mature than you are. Therefore, you can´t understand her. STop thinking Polish women are like this...ALL women are hard to decipher. Grow up, kiddo.

f stopThreads: 28 Posts: 2,682 Joined: Dec 9, 09	Edited by: f stop Dec 23, 09, 01:35 / #
you really have figure out if this girl is into you or not. Be cold and objective, because even if everything else fits, if there in so physical attraction, your odd are not good. Unfortunately, and this is a gross generalization I know, a lot of Polish girls are attracted to more of a neandrethal type, and anything less than that they usually think they can control.. not that there is anything wrong with that!

BrutalButcherThreads: 1 Posts: 623 Joined: Nov 10, 09	Dec 23, 09, 01:41 / #
f stop: a lot of Polish girls are attracted to more of a neandrethal type, They are into THIS?

Zero CoolThreads: 1 Posts: 3 Joined: Dec 23, 09	Dec 23, 09, 01:50 / #
Ironside LOL i have already smoked too much weed i think its time i became a monk!

jonniThreads: 26 Posts: 4,189 Joined: Nov 27, 07	Dec 23, 09, 01:55 / #
Zero Cool Watch her body language. Not her eyes - that's a man thing, but how she sits, what she does with her legs, etc. You will know very soon. BrutalButcher: They are into THIS? Mmmmm, give me his phone number!

Zero CoolThreads: 1 Posts: 3 Joined: Dec 23, 09	Dec 23, 09, 01:59 / #
You can´t understand her because you can´t speak English. First ,it´s not "friendship with a Polish women" but "with a Polish woman". You are 5 years younger than her. She is much more mature than you are. Therefore, you can´t understand her. STop thinking Polish women are like this...ALL women are hard to decipher. Grow up, kiddo. Firstly i can speak English it was a simple spelling mistake i made. Secondly you say i cannot understand because she is 5 years older then me. I belive this not be true. If you put the effort in with any woman and listen to her and get to know well i belive you can understand anyone. So you telling me i can't understand her because of 5 years age difference in my eyes is total BS. At what point in my first post did i say that i think 'All 'Polish women are like this'. Maybe you should read my post properly first before presuming what i think. Cheerio

f stopThreads: 28 Posts: 2,682 Joined: Dec 9, 09	Dec 23, 09, 02:02 / #
BrutalButcher That's weird coming from you. Neandrathal was a nod to what I perceived you're trying to represent. But I might be wrong: I am curious about your name; are you a meat cutter, or a fan of wrestling or in a heavy metal band? How did you come up with your name?

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,105 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Dec 23, 09, 02:29 / #
Zero Cool: Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. Realistically, she's probably not interested in you. If she were interested, her feelings of happiness would genuinely outweigh her displays of coldness. Honk if you love PF :)

noreenbThreads: 3 Posts: 952 Joined: Apr 22, 09	Dec 28, 09, 17:58 / #
Sokrates Fck no F yes. Not after 2 weeks!!!

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Dec 28, 09, 18:00 / #
noreenb: F* yes. Not after 2 weeks!!! Actually from second one, i hate folk sayings but there's one thats good "a woman chooses the man who chooses her" so if she doesnt give a broken tampon about him after 2 weeks she just doesnt care.

noreenbThreads: 3 Posts: 952 Joined: Apr 22, 09	Edited by: noreenb Dec 28, 09, 18:09 / #
Sokrates if she doesnt give a broken tampon about him after 2 weeks she just doesnt care Oh how much I disagree!!! She doesn't know him well, he doesn't know her too. And there are still somewhere people who look for relations, also friendship, not just f*!!! You can call it "certain cultural template".

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Dec 28, 09, 19:18 / #
noreenb: Oh how much I disagree!!! Thats because you're 15 and stupid. noreenb: She doesn't know him well, he doesn't know her too. But you know him well so thats ok. noreenb: And there are still somewhere people who look for relations, also friendship, not just f*!!! Yeah homosexuals.

Zero CoolThreads: 1 Posts: 3 Joined: Dec 23, 09	Edited by: Zero Cool Dec 23, 09, 02:36 / #
beckski I don't think i mentioned previously if her happiness towards me outweighed her display of coldness towards me. Presuming without knowing the facts.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,105 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Dec 23, 09, 02:41 / #
Zero Cool: Presuming without knowing the facts. Time for a reality check guy, if you can't accept comments or advice from PF members. Honk if you love PF :)

FargoThreads: 2 Posts: 3 Joined: Dec 23, 09	Dec 23, 09, 08:53 / #
Zero Cool: What do you all think? I think you should just take the bull by the horns. Break down the language barrier and ask her out on a date.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 12 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09	Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Dec 24, 09, 00:19 / #
Zero Cool: Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. Sounds like a typical beginning of friendship. My advice: Take a step back and observe the situation. Don't do so much at all, just treat her as a normal colleague, don't show so much feelings. Then you will see how she acts and you can determine how interested she is.

noreenbThreads: 3 Posts: 952 Joined: Apr 22, 09	Edited by: noreenb Dec 28, 09, 17:40 / #
beckski Realistically, she's probably not interested in you. If she were interested, her feelings of happiness would genuinely outweigh her displays of coldness Some girls are reserved, some are spontaneous. SzwedwPolsce My advice: Take a step back and observe the situation. Don't do so much at all, just treat her as a normal colleague, don't show so much feelings. Then you will see how she acts and you can determine how interested she is. It's a good advice imo. Body language is hard to decipher both for women and men. Sometimes people act, woman for sure now and then, because they are afraid of showing true emotions (maybe he is just kind and just likes me a bit, maybe most of Asians are always nice). It's a fear of being rejected. We don't know if men want to be in particular situation just a friend or "more than friend". We sometimes read your (men) signals but we can't be sure what they mean. From your description Zero Cool I would say that she is just careful. And maybe she needs time to know who you are for her. Zero Cool Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not interested and almost cold. Mood swings. So natural for girls. It doesn't have to have a connection with you. Maybe she just has some problems.

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Edited by: Sokrates Dec 28, 09, 17:49 / #
noreenb: Some girls are reserved, some are sponteneous. Fck no, if a woman fancies you she's gonna go into fireworks mode regardless of what she's like everyday, ofc some spark more some less but in every case its obvious. Zero Cool: STop thinking Polish women are like this...ALL women are hard to decipher. More then 90% of all Polish women born in Poland are raised to a certain cultural template, suck it up she's probably not interested in you for a variety of reasons but age might be pretty high. Zero Cool: Firstly i can speak English it was a simple spelling mistake i made. Secondly you say i cannot understand because she is 5 years older then me. I belive this not be true. Thats because you're a moron but thats allright, people grow out of it, 5 years is a lot of times especially when its a guy thats younger. Now for your post, the girl seems utterly uninterested in you and her mood is dependent on the outside life so no you dont get to fck her. noreenb: From your description Zero Cool I would say that she is just careful. And maybe she needs time to know who you are for her. Yes because all females are fyck-o-mats just waiting to be screwed and could never reject a guy so they're obviously just careful.

noreenbThreads: 3 Posts: 952 Joined: Apr 22, 09	Edited by: noreenb Dec 28, 09, 19:35 / #
Sokrates Yes, yes, I am 15 and I am very stupid. But you are 17 and you are very smart. Because looking at woman as at a "fyck-o-mats" who just want to fck or "f off" in other case, is a sign of being really adult and smart! Have fun with "fyck-o-mats" who "just waiting to be screwed" mate!

NikaThreads: 3 Posts: 651 Joined: Jul 21, 09	Dec 28, 09, 19:53 / #
BrutalButcher: You are 5 years younger than her. She is much more mature than you are. it's not always the case. Maturity is much more about what you've done/achieved in your life, the knowledge and experience that you've gained, the responsibilities that you have than about your age. A 21 years old who takes care of himself or/and his family is more mature that a 33 years old who still lives at home with mama and papa, food & drinks provided by the latters. Zero Cool: If you put the effort in with any woman and listen to her and get to know well and here is the answer to your question, if you want to know if she's interested, you have to talk to her. Wait for the right time and place and ask her if she'd consider to be more than friends with you. It's the only way. Sokrates: if a woman fancies you she's gonna go into fireworks mode regardless of what she's like everyday, maybe she fancies him but for some reason she's not sure if she wants to start something with him, so she prefers to keep the distance? Maybe it's because he's her colleague and she doesn't want to get involved with someone from work, maybe she's got someone back home, maybe it's because he's Asian, not PL, not chirstian (if it's the case)? Anyway Zero Cool, you won't know until you ask her.

BrutalButcherThreads: 1 Posts: 623 Joined: Nov 10, 09	Dec 28, 09, 19:55 / #
Nika: it's not always the case. Maturity is much more about what you've done/achieved in your life, the knowledge and experience that you've gained, the responsibilities that you have than about your age. A 21 years old who takes care of himself or/and his family is more mature that a 33 years old who still lives at home with mama and papa, food & drinks provided by the latters. The boy sounds very childish, to be honest.

NikaThreads: 3 Posts: 651 Joined: Jul 21, 09	Dec 28, 09, 19:58 / #
BrutalButcher: The boy sounds very childish, to be honest. he sounds more confused than childish to me...

BrutalButcherThreads: 1 Posts: 623 Joined: Nov 10, 09	Dec 28, 09, 20:05 / #
Nika: he sounds more confused than childish to me... Let´s agree that he´s both....but to me..asking for advice on a forum is among the silliest things you can do. I mean, ask to friends or your uncle Ronnie, but a bunch of strangers on a forum might not help you succeed in your personal life.

NikaThreads: 3 Posts: 651 Joined: Jul 21, 09	Dec 28, 09, 20:10 / #
BrutalButcher: asking for advice on a forum is among the silliest things you can do. in some cases it may be silly, in some cases it may be the only place where you can ask. I was talking about maturity in general, not about this particular guy. I don't know him so can't tell anything about him.

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,181 Joined: May 28, 09	Dec 28, 09, 20:12 / #
Sometimes she is really happy and nice and sometimes she just seems not intersted and almost cold. I hate to be the one to tell you...chances are she's not interested and almost cold when she realizes you might want more than a work relationship. This thought enters her mind and she doesn't like you in that way, so she wonders what she can do without hurting your feelings. She might be thinking this guy is really getting on my nerves, I don't really want to be with him outside of work. Why can't he take a hint?

noreenbThreads: 3 Posts: 952 Joined: Apr 22, 09	Dec 28, 09, 20:13 / #
Nika and here is the answer to your question, if you want to know if she's interested, you have to talk to her. Wait for the right time and place and ask her if she'd consider to be more than friends with you. Couldn't agree more. Right time and place + an honest talk. Observing the situation might help you to know her better, but waiting too long might cause being more and more uncertain about her.

mephiasThreads: 15 Posts: 811 Joined: Nov 14, 08 MEMBER	Edited by: mephias Dec 28, 09, 20:33 / #
Zero Cool: The thing is i really want to become good friends with her to the point where i can i meet up with her outside of work and do stuff but You really want to be good friend or date with her ? Zero Cool: but its so damm hard for me to understand her. It can be difficult with a girl you don't understand. Zero Cool: age difference but after reading some posts on this forum that does not seem the case. Only believe % 10 of the things you read in this forum. And forget this % 10 in next 48 hours (That's what doctors say). Zero Cool: I really want to get to know her better and maybe she will even open up to me in the future. Generally it is not a good idea to date with someone from work. But if you really want to know her better you can already do it at work. If you want to date her don't care what will be the result and talk to her and forget everything in 48 hours if the result is negative (Again doctor's advice). It's best practice for a man to talk to a girl he likes and acting before thinking a lot. Wish you success