WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO LOVE?

espana:

one member of this forum (WB) told me the other day that he was a distinguished gentleman with a succesfull business, nice car, family and a grand palace of residence ,before that ,by pm he said that he have a bmw and asked me , what do you have?

Polonius3Threads: 1,005 Posts: 4,833 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Oct 12, 08, 11:15 / #
People are talking about gold-digging, exploitation, being attracted to a millionaire, improiving one's station in life, credit cards, fianncial beenfits and things, but what ever has happend to just plain love? That all-encompassing feeling that conquers all, rises above biology and makes one unreservedly devoted, loyal, supportive and faithful to the end?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 12, 08, 11:19 / #
Eh, easy, they co-exist Polonius. Also, I hasten to remind u that u created the gold-diggers thread. Love can be attained through living a balanced life. When ur like goes out of kilter, u aim for lower level needs like stability. When u find urself and become calm again, u let love in as Nick Cave would say. So, balance is the word

Lodz_The_BoatThreads: 58 Posts: 2,314 Joined: Sep 7, 08	Oct 12, 08, 11:20 / #
Seanus: for lower level needs like stability Maslows Needs Pyramid?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 12, 08, 11:23 / #
Exactly, the Hierarchy of Needs idea. I don't believe in it 100% but its logic is fundamentally sound.

polishgirltx	Oct 12, 08, 11:28 / #
Polonius3: People are talking about gold-digging it's you who wants to talk about it... Polonius3: what ever has happend to just plain love? That all-encompassing feeling that conquers all, rises above biology and makes one unreservedly devoted, loyal, supportive and faithful to the end? i agree...hard to find... i think it's easier when you are young... it becomes harder when you get older, more experienced and you know what (who) you are looking for... Polonius3: gold-digging, exploitation, being attracted to a millionaire, improiving one's station in life, credit cards, fianncial beenfits and things sounds pretty sad...

sausageThreads: 25 Posts: 1,053 Joined: Sep 21, 07	Oct 12, 08, 11:29 / #
Polonius3: fianncial beenfits the benefits of having a fiance? ;)

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 12, 08, 11:32 / #
I think he just combined Gaelic and Dutch with fianncial beenfits (sic), lol

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Oct 12, 08, 14:21 / #
yeah I am woundering what happened to love, its sad people look at materials rather then love I belive in love.

espanaThreads: 40 Posts: 2,233 Joined: Feb 28, 07	Edited by: espana Oct 12, 08, 14:38 / #
one member of this forum (WB) told me the other day that he was a distinguished gentleman with a succesfull business, nice car, family and a grand palace of residence ,before that ,by pm he said that he has a bmw and asked me , what do you have? he also spoke about how much money he has in the bank (pathetic) i really feel sorry for the ginger guy:(

shopgirlThreads: 7 Posts: 1,446 Joined: Apr 6, 07	Oct 12, 08, 14:41 / #
Polonius3: That all-encompassing feeling that conquers all, rises above biology and makes one unreservedly devoted, loyal, supportive and faithful to the end? Its still around. You just have to find the person that matches your values. Everyone has something inside of them.....boundaries that cannot be crossed. I think Dr. Phil calls then "deal breakers"...behaviors that are unacceptable and break the union.

melanieThreads: - Posts: 1 Joined: Oct 13, 08	Oct 13, 08, 02:54 / #
Love is still around : ) Just got over my ex after a year of being broken up and bam! An amazing Polish man.

polishcanuckThreads: 10 Posts: 583 Joined: Feb 11, 07	Oct 13, 08, 07:56 / #
Polonius, welcome to the 21 century. In the past (i think) religion and strong cultural practices guided people along the path you speak of (ie: love, faithfulness, loyalty etc.). Our society has evolved. Welcome to the liberal world.

BubbaWooThreads: 46 Posts: 4,438 Joined: Sep 26, 06	Oct 13, 08, 09:59 / #
phew that was close almost quoted a rod stewart song

urszulaThreads: 2 Posts: 362 Joined: Aug 31, 07	Oct 13, 08, 10:22 / #
There is more to life than just love. There is something called "reality". Unfortunately, there are those credit card bills, financial benefits and things. They will never go away with "love". This so called "Love" is nothing but a trap. It traps you into marriage and by the time you clear your head - wtf happened? you're over your head in bills bills bills.

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 [Moderator]	Oct 12, 08, 14:46 / #
espana: one member of this forum (WB) told me the other day that he was a distinguished gentleman with a succesfull business, nice car, family and a grand palace of residence ,before that ,by pm he said that he have a bmw and asked me , what do you have? Are you trying to point out that your love for each other should have deeper meaning ? :)

espanaThreads: 40 Posts: 2,233 Joined: Feb 28, 07	Oct 12, 08, 14:52 / #
LAGirl: yeah I am woundering what happened to love, its sad people look at materials rather then love I belive in love. true

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 12, 08, 15:25 / #
No need to feel sorry for me espana, I love my hair colour.

BabinichThreads: 1 Posts: 1,054 Joined: May 26, 08	Oct 13, 08, 15:14 / #
urszula: This so called "Love" is nothing but a trap. It traps you into marriage and by the time you clear your head - wtf happened? you're over your head in bills bills bills. Is it love that clouds one's head leading to poor judgment like spending beyond one's means?

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 28, 09, 23:14 / #
What has happened to Love? which love? all seen is a big platonic love. people, in this big platonic love, think theirs is the real love as they use this love to live. then, time comes and this platonic love turns back and shout this "dont stalk me!"

ZIMMYThreads: 10 Posts: 2,353 Joined: Feb 21, 09	Oct 29, 09, 00:05 / #
People are talking about gold-digging, exploitation, being attracted to a millionaire, improiving one's station in life, credit cards, fianncial beenfits and things, but what ever has happend to just plain love? -------------------------- In western societies the feminists killed it!

tornado2007Threads: 20 Posts: 3,497 Joined: Jul 11, 07	Oct 29, 09, 00:08 / #
I don't want to stick a huge missile in the hull of your big love boat, has 'love' actually been proved?? is there really such a thing?? To me the only love that really exists as that between parents and their children.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 29, 09, 00:13 / #
tornado2007: the only love that really exists as that between parents and their children. you'll not trust even your own children. when you get older and older you learn this better.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 29, 09, 00:14 / #
Yeah, it's all about materialism. Spend, spend, spend. As a Scot, I look for cheaper options. Rather than buy Dolce Gabbana, I look for those diluted alternatives like Dolce Jebana :)

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 29, 09, 00:19 / #
Seanus: Yeah, it's all about materialism. good to hear confession. and, next behave. platonic love says: "do not stalk me!" what to do now?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 29, 09, 00:23 / #
I am the last person to be materialistic. Well, almost :) Love is more important. Unrequited love is the bane of our existence. For too many people, life is a fight and that's unfortunate. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2pZAPFOupo4, James with Lose Control. A very good song for this thread. 'Where is the love, where is the love?'. WB is a major fan of this group and I can see why. They have so many good songs.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 29, 09, 00:26 / #
Seanus: A very good song for this thread. 'Where is the love, where is the love?'. probably sold good.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 29, 09, 00:29 / #
James are a brilliant group. They join a traditional of immense English groups. England has produced some of the best bands ever!

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 29, 09, 00:31 / #
Every richness has a reason. A love song too is one of reasons.

JevThreads: - Posts: 2 Joined: Oct 20, 09	Oct 29, 09, 00:36 / #
I have nothing but student dept to my name, im not much of a looker and in no way am i charming and yet i am "with" an amazing girl "with" - while i study, there are 900 miles between us :/ but we do better than fine :) i hope to call this love that i feel, but who knows....

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 29, 09, 00:58 / #
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOXIEQL-g90&feature=related, Five-O by James. They raise a very interesting question which is of direct relevance to the thread. 'Is the power of love worth the pain of loss?'. I'd have to say yes. Life was designed to be painful for sensitive souls. Those who cannot place loved ones and animals in their hearts are not following the code of God and the tide of real emotion. Denying love to fulfil social obligations is what will burn a hole in us all eventually :(