wildrover: Sadly , we all experiance bad relationships , which cause damage to us , and we take that damage onto the next relationship , giving it slightly less chance of success.... I don't think it is necessarily 'damage'. Pain, disillusionment, rejection etc. can be the result of a relationship which fails; but experiencing such things can also make us a stronger, but hopefully not a harder, person. Also, we can learn that the pain we were caused is something we should learn not to cause others. It is strange, but sometimes the pain we feel from a bad relationship may seem unbearable at the time but later brings us a clearer understanding of ourselves and we can realise that it was a positive episode in our lives although it might not have felt that way at the time. We should approach each new relationship with optimism and not allow previous experiences to dull the excitement of the new love we may have found. Good luck in your search...
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