Help! How do I get to the sex talk?

Eurola:

Why would you want to "discuss" sex with your friend you have a crush on? This things just happen without discussion. :)
It sounds like she does treat you like a friend only and not a potential sex partner. You can make her uncomfortable if you start a sex talk..she may laugh it off or like I said be uncomfortable, no need to jeopardize the friendship.

PolishCrushThreads: 1 Posts: 8 Joined: Aug 6, 09	Aug 6, 09, 04:05 / #
Hello PF-verse, I have a very sweet crush on my very beautiful and funny Polish friend (this is something that is very obvious - she is aware of it). We have very nice conversations about all kinds of topics and almost anything is up for discussion without reservation...except, sex (we hardly talk about it). What's the best way to get her to open up about sex? (Note: She's not my girlfriend but a good SINGLE friend I have a crush on).

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Aug 6, 09, 05:07 / #
PolishCrush: except, sex (we hardly talk about it). Maybe she doesn't feel too comfortable talking to you about sex right now. Icebreaker suggestion: Take her to a movie for a first date. Afterwards, discuss the movie a bit. Try to mention in your conversation, something sexual that may have occurred in the movie. So... be sure the movie has a few romantic scenes. Good luck A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

EurolaThreads: 6 Posts: 2,647 Joined: Dec 2, 06	Aug 6, 09, 05:15 / #
Why would you want to "discuss" sex with your friend you have a crush on? This things just happen without discussion. :) It sounds like she does treat you like a friend only and not a potential sex partner. You can make her uncomfortable if you start a sex talk..she may laugh it off or like I said be uncomfortable, no need to jeopardize the friendship.

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,429 Joined: May 28, 09	Aug 6, 09, 05:17 / #
Maybe she doesn't want to talk about sex with you?

pavel2Threads: 1 Posts: 7 Joined: Jul 27, 09	Edited by: pavel2 Aug 6, 09, 05:30 / #
oh man, free your mind and the ass will follow if she's aware of your crush you should make a move, sex talk ain't relevant at this point. start from getting her heart or confidence. i'm sure you'll talk about that after a wild night.

markcooperThreads: 6 Posts: 113 Joined: Apr 27, 09	Aug 6, 09, 11:29 / #
Eurola: Why would you want to "discuss" sex with your friend you have a crush on? This things just happen without discussion. :) It sounds like she does treat you like a friend only and not a potential sex partner. You can make her uncomfortable if you start a sex talk..she may laugh it off or like I said be uncomfortable, no need to jeopardize the friendship. " This things just happen without discussion" ?? I think somthing has got to be said.. ?!!!

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09	Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Aug 6, 09, 16:57 / #
pavel2: if she's aware of your crush you should make a move, sex talk ain't relevant at this point.start from getting her heart or confidence. i'm sure you'll talk about that after a wild night. Exactly! markcooper: I think somthing has got to be said.. ?!! If both want to have sex there will be sex. Someone has to "take a step forward", but you don't have to discuss the sex so much itself. It would probably just feel unnatural.

PolishCrushThreads: 1 Posts: 8 Joined: Aug 6, 09	Aug 6, 09, 22:54 / #
Thanks for the advice. This actually helped a lot; I don't think the magic is there or else it would feel like a natural thing. Besides, I haven't had a crush in years and the last one did not end well so why spoil a good thing. Last thing I want is a boring / lack-of-intimacy relationship. There is no magic. Thanks again I appreciate all the help.