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I'm on Exchange in Poland and I need advice for me and my boyfriend

ajaynatorownsalThreads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: Apr 7, 09	Apr 7, 09, 20:20 / #
I've been living in Poland for 8 months now and I met this guy back in January and totally fell head over heels. I'm not being overdramatic. I love him and I've never felt like this before but I go back to America in 3 Months and I don't know what to do. We're both young and have a lot ahead of us but I dont feel like I want anything else. We already live in different cities so we dont see eachother much but that's totally different than living in different countries. We havent really talked about it, he always says "we'll talk when the time comes for it" but I dont know whats best for us. If I stay with him when I go home it might strain the relationship and rip us apart, if we break up it could end the same. I dont want to loose him i've never had someone mean this much to me before. Advice.?

gumishuThreads: 17 Posts: 3,943 Joined: Apr 6, 09	Apr 7, 09, 21:07 / #
if you are sure of your feelings there is always a way to be together what about marriage here or in the States? I know there are many various factors involved.

ajaynatorownsalThreads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: Apr 7, 09	Apr 7, 09, 21:12 / #
believe me i've thought about it A LOT but like i said we're both really young so until i can decide that time comes i dont know how to keep us together without hurting us you know?

gumishuThreads: 17 Posts: 3,943 Joined: Apr 6, 09	Apr 7, 09, 21:59 / #
you know people meet for a reason; and it is not just being together though it is also a value in itself (not absolute value but still) well it is a question of decision, and there is a lot of uncertainty involved in making such a decision - should I go further to learn how I am and what I actually want in life or should I accept that I have met the right partner for my life and settle for it and commit myself to the relationship. It is your decision and nobody else's. of course there seems to be always more uncertainty on the side of choosing to commit oneself to a relationship cause you need to change a lot of things in your life. But fear and doubt are not good advisors. So you have to ask yourself questions and listen to yourself often beyond fears and doubts. First of all you should strive to surrender the fear of making mistake. It is by mistakes we learn. I know the world offers so much opportunities it is hard to know what you really want and what you should settle for. This said a relationship is not as much a value in itself as it is as an opportunity to help you follow more important goals in our lives (sometimes it is just growing more balance in ourselves) Well this is what I believe at least. I don't know if this will make it any easier for you but from a deeper spiritual point of view you don't have to be with one person for life. But it's not the volatile minds of ours who are in position to jugde such things but a deeper layer of our beings.

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