I'm in love with a nice Polish; she's from another country and religion..

still_wisher wrote:

she keeps telling me that its will be nice to meet her family,but i dont know im worried about this .. just because im from another country and another religion .. i just want to know if some one knows how her family will deal with that ? or it depends on how is this family and its different from family to another ?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 12:56 / #
i met a nice polish girl ,she was here in my country .. and we r so in love .. im going to visit her next month in poland .. she keeps telling me that its will be nice to meet her family,but i dont know im worried about this .. just because im from another country and another religion .. i just want to know if some one knows how her family will deal with that ? or it depends on how is this family and its different from family to another ?

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Mar 9, 08, 13:00 / #
still_wisher wrote: she keeps telling me that its will be nice to meet her family,but i dont know im worried about this .. just because im from another country and another religion .. i just want to know if some one knows how her family will deal with that ? or it depends on how is this family and its different from family to another ? I know how you feel. I'm a girl and polish and my boyfriend is from a strict asian household and one day I will have to meet his parents and that is very scary. But, I bet it means a lot to her for you to meet them. If i might ask where are you from?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 13:04 / #
im from Egypt

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Mar 9, 08, 13:06 / #
still_wisher wrote: im from Egypt Does he family know you are dating? If they do and she wants you to come meet them they probably won't be shocked. Is she an only daughter?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 13:10 / #
no she hs older sis ... and no mby her mam hs some doubt about that she might dating someone but she hs no idea about me and she didnt tell them anything yet because some issues she hs these days ..

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Mar 9, 08, 14:07 / #
still_wisher wrote: and no mby her mam hs some doubt about that she might dating someone but she hs no idea about me and she didnt tell them anything yet because some issues she hs these days .. It seems strange that she hasn't told her mother about you. Has she said what she would do if her mother doesn't approve? Will she still stay with you?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:09 / #
yes she said that she will stay with me no matter because her family dosnt decide for her life !!!! but im just worried , i dont want to make any troubles in her life ..

angelThreads: 17 Posts: 88 Joined: Jan 8, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:28 / #
you are going to see her in poland and she wants you to meet her family-but you say her mother doesnt know you are dating-so does her mother just think you are a friend?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:33 / #
im not going to her place ... we will stay in warsaw and her parents living in another city , her mam dosent know anything about me beside that her doughter dating someone

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Mar 9, 08, 14:41 / #
still_wisher wrote: yes she said that she will stay with me no matter because her family dosnt decide for her life !!!! but im just worried , i dont want to make any troubles in her life .. You're not the one who would be making trouble in her life. It would be her family if they don't accept you.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Mar 9, 08, 14:53 / #
Absolutely none, women like men who are slightly older and can take the lead. My girl is 4 years younger than me (30 and 26).

angelThreads: 17 Posts: 88 Joined: Jan 8, 08	Mar 10, 08, 17:58 / #
still_wisher wrote: if u dont mind , can u tell me what happend with u ?? i followed my heart . its nor been easy-there are still issues-i have not met his family yet-i think this is wise at the moment. because wanting to please the familt can interfer with your relationship-best to develop your relationship first-make sure its a strong bond-then together you can support any negativity the family may cause. i ask your age- because i am 40 and my guy is 30. i got married at your girlfriends age-i had only known my x-husband 1 year-we were in love-i thought-BUT his family eventually came between us-take time to make sure you and your girlfriend will stand together not alone. at her age i felt guilty if i -went against my parents wishes-many times i pleased them more than i should have. in a relationship the two of you are the most important -this is my view

cfmThreads: - Posts: 5 Joined: Mar 3, 08	Edited by: cfm Mar 10, 08, 18:33 / #
Filios1 wrote: I don't think it will be as major of a problem as an Egyptian going to a Polish household. You even look Asian yourself. Filios1 wrote: I don't think it will be as major of a problem as an Egyptian going to a Polish household. You even look Asian yourself. find the diffrences: Poles: przegladligowy.pl/public-files/mecze/wgp-polska-usa/wgp_polska_usa_8.j pg Turks and romanians: img.romerican.com/post060823_romanians_and_turks_dance_hora_in_caliman esti.jpg Greeks: tribuneindia.com/2004/20040830/olympics/closing/images/cl19.jpg for me turks and greeks are same arabs hehehe

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Edited by: Filios1 Mar 10, 08, 18:35 / #
still_wisher wrote: what do u think?? how it might be Well, sorry to be pessimestic, but a lot of the older Polish folks aren't really used to seeing their kids, especially daughters, marry outside of their race and religion. I don't know who this girl is, and what her family is like, but I would be prepared if I were you, to recieve some hostility at first. If you are a good guy, eventually that will pass and you will be accepted. Hell, you might be lucky, and hit some liberal family that really doesn't care about ethnicity/religion etc... Go meet her parents with an open mind, and be prepared for the worst. If you find it hard to communicate, and find some similar views with her family, then just take the girl aside and ask her about their personalities, about what they like etc.. get some gifts for them. I'm not saying to buy their love, but be very kind and honest, and I don't see why they wouldn't like you. What religion do you practice, if you don't mind my asking? cfm wrote: Poland: przegladligowy.pl/public-files/mecze/wgp-polska-usa/wgp_polska_usa_8.J PG Turkey: img.romerican.com/post060823_romanians_and_turks_dance_hora_in_caliman esti.jpg Greece: tribuneindia.com/2004/20040830/olympics/closing/images/cl19.jpg hehehe Turks, Greeks the same as Arabs? Yes, go on living and thinking that, little Polish friend. That would be like me saying that Poles and Germans are the same thing. Would you enjoy having that comparison?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:44 / #
its the same , i mean im the reason..

angelThreads: 17 Posts: 88 Joined: Jan 8, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:49 / #
you like each other you say you are in love how old are both of you? please dont worry about it go and visit her and enjoy each others company-i have a similar situation

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:51 / #
im 28 and she is 24 .. makes any difference??

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 9, 08, 14:57 / #
if u dont mind , can u tell me what happend with u ??

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 10, 08, 18:14 / #
angel wrote: i followed my heart i just want to thank u ,, u really helped me i needed someone to tell me what u just wrote ...

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Mar 10, 08, 18:15 / #
Dzhaklin wrote: I'm a girl and polish and my boyfriend is from a strict asian household I don't think it will be as major of a problem as an Egyptian going to a Polish household. You even look Asian yourself.

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 10, 08, 18:25 / #
Filios1 wrote: I don't think it will be as major i think u r right ,, what do u think?? how it might be ?? i already a gree with what angel said but i just want to know just in case ..

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 10, 08, 18:41 / #
Filios1 wrote: Well, sorry to be pessimestic im a muslim ... and thank u for ur ideas

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Mar 10, 08, 18:45 / #
still_wisher wrote: im a muslim As long as you have good intentions for her, and no plan of forcing her to convert or adapt to some conservative Muslim rules, like a veil, then her family should have no problem...

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 10, 08, 18:49 / #
Filios1 wrote: As long as you have that didnt even cross my mind , and by the way her parents dont speak english and the only way to talk with them is their doughter , i hope that wont make them nervous ...

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Edited by: Filios1 Mar 10, 08, 18:51 / #
cfm wrote: and greeks themselfs dancing their natrional arabish dance lol, silly you. Go read up on something more about the Greek culture other than a "arabish," (which isn't even a word), dance. still_wisher wrote: that didnt even cross my mind , : ) still_wisher wrote: i hope that wont make them nervous ... I don't see why it would... they will still be looking at you directly as you speak, and it isn't your fault that they don't speak English, or that you don't speak Polish.

cfmThreads: - Posts: 5 Joined: Mar 3, 08	Edited by: cfm Mar 10, 08, 18:55 / #
Filios1 wrote: Filios1 go and read somethink about asian look, maybe see some pictures in wikipedia btw i dont see a problem turk guy going to greek houshold, they really look the same

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 10, 08, 18:59 / #
Filios1 wrote: I don't see why it would i really want to thank u filios , u were so helpfull :)

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Edited by: Filios1 Mar 10, 08, 19:56 / #
cfm wrote: go and read somethink about asian look, maybe see some pictures in wikipedia lol. I need to read to see some similarities? All I said was that she looked somewhat Asian. Many Eastern Europeans, especially Ukrainians, and Russians have a somewhat Asian look to them. Turks and Greeks may look similar, just like Germans and Poles, but their cultures are entirely different. That is the whole point I was making... still_wisher wrote: really want to thank u filios No problem : )

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Mar 13, 08, 17:43 / #
Filios1 wrote: I don't think it will be as major of a problem as an Egyptian going to a Polish household. You even look Asian yourself. Haha yeah except I'm 6'4 and almost a foot taller than both the parents :)