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Jealously between girls?


northropThreads: 4
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Joined: Nov 30, 08 		Edited by: northrop   Apr 2, 09, 09:22 /  #
Ok, this is kinda random, but here it goes.

Imagine this scenario. Some random guy, let’s call him ‘X’ is friends with a girl ‘A’ for few years now. Nothing has ever happen between them. The girl is few years older then the guy, and has the kids of her own. They’re just friends.

So far so good, and now try to follow me on this one:

Now, the guy meets a new girl, call her ‘B’. And ‘A’ doesn’t like ‘B’ with passion. Even though ‘X’ thinks ‘B’ is the right girl for him, ‘A’ thinks the world evolves around her, and she get’s the last word in. So ‘A’ decides to meet with ‘B' without first notifying ‘X’ about her plans, and literally calls her names and brings her down as best as she can.

After everything is said and done, the guy ‘X’ finds out about everything from the crying voice of ‘B’. Stumped, the guy apologizes but just can’t get through to the girl. Not only does he now know what is he apologizing for, but after a brief conversation over the phone with ‘A’, he’s even more confused.

‘A’ tells him “I don’t think she’s good enough for you, so I took care of it for you. You can’t thank me later.”

‘X’ still has no freaking idea what did ‘A’ tell ‘B’ and probably will never find out. Why do girls do that to each other? Wtf?

And what should the guy do? ;)
krysiaThreads: 26
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Joined: Aug 10, 06 		  Apr 2, 09, 09:38 /  #
Get a "C" girl. Since both "A" and "B" are pi$$ed at you.
Just kidding.
Looks like "A" has feelings for you. Maybe she was waiting and hoping for a chance for something to come from your relationship. She feels like she owns you after knowing each other for so long and you never established where your realationship is going. Are you going to be together some day? You have left that open and now this "B" chic comes to the picture so "A" gets possesive of you.
Sometimes it's hard to have a female as a friend and be in love with another. Maybe you have to tie up the lose end with "A" so she understands that there will never be any future of togetherness with her.
northropThreads: 4
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Joined: Nov 30, 08 		  Apr 2, 09, 09:59 /  #
‘A’ is some 7 years older then I am. And although she’s widowed, she damn well knows nothing would have ever happened between us. We were never “that” close. And the boundaries have been established well before I even met this girl.

This is all screwed up. I hope I’ll be able to get some sleep over this. But I just can’t wrap my mind around this.
mafketisThreads: 15
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Joined: Mar 31, 08 		  Apr 2, 09, 10:18 /  #
I think there are two major possiblities:

1. In a nutshell. More often than not men and women get jealous about different things.

Men are prone to sexual jealousy while women are prone to emotional/intimate jealousy. Even if A doesn't want a physical relationship, she doesn't like the idea of you being close emotionally to another woman.

2. She did you a favor. Basically, it's pretty easy for women to fool men and it's much harder for them to fool other women. It could be that A sussed out that B is bad news a long time before you ever would and was acting in your best interests (whether she should do so unasked is another issue).


Without knowing any of the three of you it's impossible to say which of the above is the more likely but unless there's more info you're holding back I'd go for one or the other (or some combination thereof).
DoubtfulloveThreads: 4
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Joined: Aug 5, 08 		  Apr 6, 09, 15:01 /  #
I think your friend A just overstepped the mark of friendship. If my friend went behind my back and talked to my new boyfriend about me, which led to the boyfriend not wanting to know me, then friend A would be getting the boot...or at least a very serious talking. Friend A has no right to tell you who is right for you. That is something you need to work out for yourself. I think my relationship with my friend would no longer be the same. She just stopped respecting your relationship when she went behind your back.
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Joined: Nov 5, 08 		  Apr 6, 09, 16:00 /  #
"A" sounds like a real jerk. If I knew someone that stuck their nose in my business like that I would be soooo pissed. No joke! She has no business being a vigilante. I would tell her to keep out of my business for one thing. She sounds like a control freak! What, she doesn't think you are capable enough to handle your own life? You should chew her out for alienating the other girl. If you don't like the other girl it's up to you to tell her yourself, not up to some petty, jealous friend.
Next time you meet someone, don't tell girl "A" unless you want a repeat.
PennBoyThreads: 147
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Girls do get really jellous, if a new girl comes to the group and is pretty, gets guys attention it's like they turn into devils. Plus they get mad over nothing and hold a grudge for a long time, guys beat eath other up and the next day they're friends again.
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