Love my polish girlfriend alot but under pressure from family

JustysiaS:

i would disagree, if someone invites you out they should at least buy you a drink.

JustysiaS:

in the 3 years of my relationship i had to pay for almost every meal and drink we had, even when he took me out

aphrodisiac:

in the 3 years of my relationship i had to pay for almost every meal and drink we had, even when he took me out to apologise and make up. no wonder he's my ex ;).

that is awful. SHould be a red flag from the start;)

SteveramsfanThreads: 2 Posts: 401 Joined: Nov 22, 09	Nov 29, 09, 14:46 / #
Amathyst: Very true, but its not just a Polish thing, any decent man will do this. I'm a decent man, I listen to what my gf wants. The first few times I paid even though she asked me not to, when I got home she had slipped the money into my pocket. Am I not decent because I did not pay for the meal?

time meansThreads: 9 Posts: 2,306 Joined: Apr 21, 08	Nov 29, 09, 15:08 / #
Amathyst: in the 6 years with my ex I didnt pay for one drink or one meal. No wonder he's your ex. Amathyst: I just believe that a man should pay if he's taking me out. Amathyst: Im not a gold digger No you are just tight!

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Edited by: JustysiaS Nov 29, 09, 15:39 / #
time means: Amathyst: in the 6 years with my ex I didnt pay for one drink or one meal. No wonder he's your ex. in the 3 years of my relationship i had to pay for almost every meal and drink we had, even when he took me out to apologise and make up. no wonder he's my ex ;). time means: No you are just tight! i would disagree, if someone invites you out they should at least buy you a drink. it's like i was cooking dinner, invited my date over and got him to pay me 50% of what i spent on the food. now THAT would be tight.

AmathystThreads: 30 Posts: 3,967 Joined: Nov 10, 06	Edited by: Amathyst Nov 29, 09, 15:41 / #
time means: No wonder he's your ex. I finished it with him...As kind as he was he was a miserable fecker, plus his relationship with his mum was a bit too close...he brought her to the pictures with us once! time means: No you are just tight! How rude! I can assure you he received a nice £5 book token for every birthday! Steveramsfan: Am I not decent because I did not pay for the meal? time means: No you are just tight! JustysiaS: i would disagree, if someone invites you out they should at least buy you a drink. it's like i was cooking dinner, invited my date over and got him to pay me 50% of what i spent on the food. now THAT would be tight. Very true on both counts L'll Mss J

aphrodisiacThreads: 22 Posts: 3,998 Joined: Apr 15, 09	Edited by: aphrodisiac Nov 29, 09, 15:42 / #
JustysiaS: in the 3 years of my relationship i had to pay for almost every meal and drink we had, even when he took me out to apologise and make up. no wonder he's my ex ;). that is awful. SHould be a red flag from the start;)

time meansThreads: 9 Posts: 2,306 Joined: Apr 21, 08	Nov 29, 09, 15:44 / #
Amathyst: a nice £5 book token for every birthday I take all back :-)))

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,955 Joined: May 17, 07	Nov 29, 09, 15:45 / #
Amathyst: As kind as he was he was a miserable fecker That's why he had to pay. aphrodisiac: that is awful. SHould be a red flag from the start;) Bonjour,gold digger.

SteveramsfanThreads: 2 Posts: 401 Joined: Nov 22, 09	Nov 29, 09, 15:50 / #
Amathyst I'm not decent because we went out for dinner and nobody invited the other out to dinner. We just went out together and ended up having dinner.

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Nov 29, 09, 15:56 / #
aphrodisiac: that is awful. SHould be a red flag from the start;) should've been, but love is blind eh, and i felt bad about making him pay cos he was always in debt (another red flag right there ha ha...) Amathyst: As kind as he was he was a miserable fecker, plus his relationship with his mum was a bit too close...he brought her to the pictures with us once! i find it highly uncomfortable when you only just start going out with someone and they introduce you to all of their mates and family right at the start before you're even remotely sure that it'll last. and oh dear, a mommy's boy. i probably wouldn't give the miserable fecker the time of day, but hey, love IS blind ;)

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,955 Joined: May 17, 07	Nov 29, 09, 16:04 / #
I never present girls to my mom except they ask for this(till now only polish asked).I don't understand this women's obsession with moms.

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09	Edited by: SzwedwPolsce Nov 29, 09, 16:16 / #
loveMYcountry: 'CAUSE a real Polish guy disallow ALWAYS that the girl pay!!! Usually it's normal that the man pays when a couple is on a date. It's not only in Poland, but in many other countries too. But we should remember that in Poland, culture and customs are different depending on where you live. If you ask young people about culture and customs you will often get different answers from those who live in big cities and those who live in villages. More and more Polish girls really want to pay from time to time when you're out eating, drinking etc.

time meansThreads: 9 Posts: 2,306 Joined: Apr 21, 08	Nov 29, 09, 16:19 / #
JustysiaS: if you like someone then it kinda feels right to treat them as much as they treat you. I could not have put it better myself. southern: My mom is generous and gives girls lots of cosmetics,so then they become spoiled and forget their duties :-) Gotta love southerns posts :-)))

time meansThreads: 9 Posts: 2,306 Joined: Apr 21, 08	Nov 29, 09, 16:09 / #
JustysiaS: i would disagree, if someone invites you out they should at least buy you a drink. I agree. If i asked someone out then i would expect to foot the bill but even then just the offer of "i will get the next round in" goes down well, but amathyst didn't pay for one drink in 6 years. Short arms and deep pockets. JustysiaS: in the 3 years of my relationship i had to pay for almost every meal and drink we had, even when he took me out Probably amathysts brother, the tight git. aphrodisiac: in the 3 years of my relationship i had to pay for almost every meal and drink we had, even when he took me out to apologise and make up. no wonder he's my ex ;). that is awful. SHould be a red flag from the start;) Lol look who's talking.

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Nov 29, 09, 16:09 / #
southern: I don't understand this women's obsession with moms. i always got on really well with my bf's moms but i never asked to be introduced, i let them introduce me in their own time

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,955 Joined: May 17, 07	Nov 29, 09, 16:11 / #
My mom is generous and gives girls lots of cosmetics,so then they become spoiled and forget their duties.

JustysiaSThreads: 15 Posts: 2,869 Joined: Oct 14, 07 MEMBER	Nov 29, 09, 16:13 / #
time means: If i asked someone out then i would expect to foot the bill but even then just the offer of "i will get the next round in" goes down well, that's what i tend to do, if we go out for a meal and the guy pays, i'll pay for drinks if we move on to the bar, or take them out and pay next time. if you like someone then it kinda feels right to treat them as much as they treat you.

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,955 Joined: May 17, 07	Nov 29, 09, 16:19 / #
SzwedwPolsce: villages. Village girls are like a breath of fresh air.