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Meeting my Polish girlfriend's parents for the first time, any tips!!

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flettonboyThreads: 1 Posts: 1 Joined: Dec 1, 07	Dec 1, 07, 09:41 / #
Next year i am going with my girlfriend to a wedding in poland. I will meet her parents then for the first time. Besides the obvious, speak the language, be polite is there anything traditional i should do?

helloThreads: 37 Posts: 1,104 Joined: Dec 5, 06	Edited by: hello Dec 1, 07, 09:46 / #
Nice bucket of flowers for the Mother and a good vodka or foreign whiskey for the Father won't hurt. Be sure not to show fake smile - they will notice that and probably won't appreciate that too much. Be natural. Oh, and try to eat the food they offer so go there with empty stomach.:)

flettonboyThreads: 1 Posts: 1 Joined: Dec 1, 07	Dec 1, 07, 09:49 / #
Thanks i can eat anything thats for sure so no worries there.

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07	Dec 1, 07, 09:50 / #
Quoting: flettonboy i can eat anything thats for sure so no worries there. Hey! Was that meant as an offense? :)) (j/k)

helloThreads: 37 Posts: 1,104 Joined: Dec 5, 06	Dec 1, 07, 09:52 / #
Also, ask your girfriend if there are to be any other members of her family (like sisters, brothers etc.) - then a good box of chocolates won't hurt to carry with you; they will find it nice.

sanaThreads: 2 Posts: 48 Joined: Nov 29, 07	Dec 1, 07, 09:54 / #
Quoting: flettonboy Thanks i can eat anything thats for sure so no worries there. yeah, the food part is important for the girl mother, so better like it :-)

miranda	Edited by: miranda Dec 1, 07, 10:00 / #
have a drink with the father/brother and eat the food her mother prepare+gifts, even if small will be greately appreciated.

AvJoeUK	Dec 1, 07, 10:00 / #
Talk about football with the Father and accept the Jammydodgers and tea from the Mother, Pet the dog and all is good!

miranda	Dec 1, 07, 10:02 / #
Quoting: AvJoeUK Pet the dog forgot about that:P

AvJoeUK	Dec 1, 07, 10:03 / #
Hey worked for me! :D

tomekcatkinsThreads: 13 Posts: 173 Joined: Oct 9, 07	Dec 1, 07, 10:22 / #
Quoting: hello Nice bucket of flowers for the Mother (Make sure to give an odd number.)

osiolThreads: 59 Posts: 4,714 Joined: Jul 25, 07	Dec 1, 07, 10:26 / #
Quoting: AvJoeUK Pet the dog Making friends with the dog is important. I stayed with a family in Poland and I very quickly became the dog's best friend. The others probably thought I was mad, spending nearly all my time running round the garden throwing a stick around. So don't spend too much time getting to know the animals. Quoting: tomekcatkins (Make sure to give an odd number.) Any particular reason?

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Dec 1, 07, 11:06 / #
Quoting: flettonboy Meeting my Polish girlfriend's parents for the first time, any tips!! If you're going to their house, compliment them on how nice their home looks. (Even if it may look like it's been to hell & back.) A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

irishdeanoThreads: 11 Posts: 492 Joined: Oct 23, 07	Dec 1, 07, 11:26 / #
just be yourself.........

Merry WandererThreads: 3 Posts: 16 Joined: Nov 4, 07	Dec 1, 07, 13:52 / #
lol I really wish I'd known all this before I met my friends' parents. I'm sure I culturally put my foot in it a few times. I don't approve of discrimination but the "Oh only he's foreigner" excuse dose help when my ignorance shows. :-) But I'm learning and trying so alls well (I hope) :-P

ianbrownThreads: - Posts: 1 Joined: Jan 23, 09	Jan 23, 09, 17:15 / #
Thread attached on merging: meeting girlfriends mum i am meeting my polish girlfriends mum for the first time soon, and i was wondering if there are any dos or donts any advice would be great. thanks

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 [Moderator]	Jan 23, 09, 17:23 / #
This thread might be useful: Meeting family and staying with my Polish friends parents

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07	Jan 23, 09, 17:30 / #
ianbrown: meeting my polish girlfriends mum Take her some flowers , dress smartly , take your shoes off before you go in the house , and be polite....thats all you need...relax and smile a lot...you will be fine....

BrokenOwlThreads: 5 Posts: 7 Joined: Jun 23, 09	Oct 2, 09, 02:28 / #
Is it true that an even number of flowers are only given at funerals??

DavidTThreads: 1 Posts: 14 Joined: Sep 23, 09	Oct 2, 09, 09:27 / #
Language can be a problem. Do you speak Polish, or do they speak English? My Polish is rather poor, but better than when I arrived 2 1/2yrs ago. My other half's parents speak no English (just things like "Happy Birthday" at Christmas time etc). It makes it difficult and added to that pressure of when we first met. As other said be polite, dress neatly and also be respectful to them. As mentioned houses/flats may look like it's "been to hell and back", but look past the condition of walls and appreciate the home they've made. Not often large by some standards though I've some friends with places that are enormous and beautiful. My gf's family home is only a small flat and what people have or don't have should not at all form a part of your judgement. It's always a well received gesture to take something such as flowers for the Mum and possibly a bottle of vodka - may depend if they do drink as some don't ("mine" do). Just about everyone I've met here, from the gf's family to extended family... their extended family and friends are extremely welcoming and great hosts. Once the ice breaks, at least any discomfort in having just met especially if there are language barriers I think you should enjoy it. Flowers and funerals... been to my fair share of funerals here this year and flowers are certainly big, bigger than back home (Australia). It's not only funerals at all so feel free to take flowers. There isn't necessarily a hard 'n' fast rule on it. If you have something more interesting, different or shows your culture/background (trinkets, whiskey, wines/liqueurs etc) I'd think those would be fine instead of just flowers and vodka. Those are my thoughts anyway. Note. I'm also best friends with the dog.

g60editionThreads: 12 Posts: 292 Joined: Jan 18, 09	Oct 2, 09, 09:36 / #
I remember going to my now wifes parents for the first time.She had taugt me how to hello and nice to meet you to her Mother and Father and I just said hello as I was a little nervous using my new found words(not any more). hello: foreign whiskey for the Father won't hurt I did a bottle of glenmorangie he hated it (didnt tell me to my face ) osiol: Making friends with the dog is important I tried its an Alsatian it tried to fn bite me.(we are now friends) sana: yeah, the food part is important for the girl mother, so better like it :-) Could not agree more.This was not a problem for me as I love my food.(I draw the line with sour milk and flaki) Like others have said be youself and enjoy the experience and do make an effort on a few basic words in Polish like Thank you,Good Morning/Good night,Yes please and no thank you.It will go along way for you

DavidTThreads: 1 Posts: 14 Joined: Sep 23, 09	Oct 2, 09, 09:37 / #
i only just realised most of this thread is near 2 yrs old now! It sprung up on Twitter and I just thought... interesting.

g60editionThreads: 12 Posts: 292 Joined: Jan 18, 09	Oct 2, 09, 09:46 / #
DavidT: this thread is near 2 yrs old now! So it is.I wonder how he got on?

RyszardThreads: - Posts: 123 Joined: Aug 7, 07	Oct 5, 09, 18:38 / #
BrokenOwl: Is it true that an even number of flowers are only given at funerals?? It's true. So once again, when giving flowers as a gift to someone make sure it's an odd number

RevokeNiceThreads: 21 Posts: 2,766 Joined: Jun 20, 09	Oct 6, 09, 05:00 / #
Tell them you are a terrorist supporter. As I did with a Czech acquaintance. After, show them that you are normal. Bring them out for a bite to eat.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Oct 6, 09, 05:21 / #
RevokeNice: Tell them you are a terrorist supporter Or ask the parents if they've got some extra condoms they can spare; because you've run out of your own supply. Afterwards, tell them you're just joking, if they don't sick their dog on you first. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

scrappletonThreads: - Posts: 1,365 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Oct 6, 09, 05:32 / #
beckski: Or ask the parents if they've got some extra condoms they can spare; because you've run out of your own supply. lol.. Okay Bride of Southern over here..

RevokeNiceThreads: 21 Posts: 2,766 Joined: Jun 20, 09	Oct 6, 09, 05:57 / #
beckski: Or ask the parents if they've got some extra condoms they can spare; because you've run out of your own supply. Afterwards, tell them you're just joking, if they don't sick their dog on you first. Nah, ask them where is the nearst Brit embassy.

rich55Threads: 3 Posts: 67 Joined: Jul 27, 09	Oct 6, 09, 17:51 / #
Apparently if they give you duck's blood soup to eat it means that they don't want you seeing their daughter again!...at least that's what my Polish workmate told me the first time I went to meet my Polish g'friend's father. Was he winding me up or is that true?! (I got pierogi and home-made cake so I guess I passed inspection...)

Marek11111Threads: 49 Posts: 1,954 Joined: Aug 6, 09	Oct 6, 09, 18:38 / #
flowers and vodka would be good idea, do not refuse anything to eat or shoot of vodka, after you get drunk with her father and eat dinner you be in.

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