i need advice - I just found out my boyfriend has a wife and children.

dcchris:

They guy is obvious a cheating bastard. Firstly he has been cheating on you on his wife and kids. Secondly it took him a year to tell you. These are not good character traits. What he is doing to her he could easily do to you in the future. Run away fast.

wildrover:

There are lots who will say they are single.....oh , sorry , you already got one of them....!

irishchicThreads: 1 Posts: 1 Joined: Jan 30, 09	Jan 30, 09, 08:31 / #
i have been seeing a polish guy in Ireland for the lasy year. I was totally crazy about him. Last week he just informed me he has a wife and children in Poland. He wants to carry on the relationship as normal. I really love him but now i dont think i can be with him. Is it normal for Polish guys living away from home to be with other women? I am so tempted to staqy with him, but i guess i will be hurt in the long run. He is the best lover i have ever had.......are all polish men this good in bed???? Wat do u all think i should do? I winder why he does not feel guilty about this?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Edited by: Seanus Jan 30, 09, 08:48 / #
That's the kind of thing you do when you are away from home. It is unfortunate that he feels the need to betray his wife, esp when they have kids together but this is not a new phenomenon. I had the same in reverse. My first Japanese girlfriend was married and, even though I wasn't the one cheating, I felt that it was wrong. I'm not one of these conservative traditionalists but I'd like to think that I'd never ever cheat on my married partner. Marriage should be, as much as possible, for the long course. As much as I loved her, it had to stop. Self gratification comes in many forms. Treat it for what it is worth. I've heard countless stories in the past on the same topic and the woman has ended up disappointed. His future should be with his wife and it is the right thing to do to let him go. Just my version but I hope that it is sound advice.

dcchrisThreads: 11 Posts: 687 Joined: Oct 29, 07	Jan 30, 09, 08:52 / #
They guy is obvious a cheating bastard. Firstly he has been cheating on you on his wife and kids. Secondly it took him a year to tell you. These are not good character traits. What he is doing to her he could easily do to you in the future. Run away fast.

MrBubblesThreads: 13 Posts: 768 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Jan 30, 09, 08:57 / #
irishchic: Wat do u all think i should do? Dump him. Shag him a few times and them dump him.

irishchicThreads: 1 Posts: 1 Joined: Jan 30, 09	Jan 30, 09, 09:01 / #
yes maybe i will do that??? Any nice single polish boys in Ireland out there????

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07	Jan 30, 09, 09:41 / #
irishchic: Any nice single polish boys in Ireland There are lots who will say they are single.....oh , sorry , you already got one of them....!

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Jan 30, 09, 09:50 / #
Seanus: That's the kind of thing you do when you are away from home. Not it's not, it's the kind of thing low lifes do. dcchris: They guy is obvious a cheating bastard. Firstly he has been cheating on you on his wife and kids. Secondly it took him a year to tell you. These are not good character traits. What he is doing to her he could easily do to you in the future. Run away fast Seconded! MrBubbles: Dump him. Shag him a few times and them dump him. Definately not, fuck him off! is the only fuck he'd get from this corner! irishchic: yes maybe i will do that??? Any nice single polish boys in Ireland out there???? Glutten for punishment?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 10:21 / #
Well, I should qualify what I said. I meant that when you have no ties and you got abroad and pick up sb, it's normal enough.

nikttakiThreads: 6 Posts: 89 Joined: Sep 5, 08	Jan 30, 09, 12:24 / #
This is not nice - he cheated you and his wife - but probably she does not know about your existence whatsoever! That's not fair towards you and his wife! Hmmm, have just read about well known polish politician - he moved to London in the past, got to know a woman there and ... now he is about to divorce with his wife - who was living in PL during the time when he was appointed to work in UK. the news was revealed when he was "caught" buying a ring for his wife to be :) Hmmm, Valentine's Day is coming soon, see what happens :)

pawianThreads: 90 Posts: 5,395 Joined: May 30, 08	Jan 30, 09, 13:28 / #
dcchris: They guy is obvious a cheating bastard. Firstly he has been cheating on you on his wife and kids. Secondly it took him a year to tell you. These are not good character traits. What he is doing to her he could easily do to you in the future. Run away fast. Correct. wildrover: There are lots who will say they are single.....oh , sorry , you already got one of them....! Correct.

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Jan 30, 09, 18:22 / #
Seanus: Well, a clear opinion there by Bzibby ;) Being at the losing end of such equation gives you that clarity forever. And let me tell you: it hurts like hell.

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07	Jan 30, 09, 18:49 / #
Seanus: last for around a week every month, wildrover? Its hard to remember back to when i was married....but i did get an uneasy reminder from a crazy latvian girl recently.....

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Jan 30, 09, 19:00 / #
Seanus: I learned from my past and saw it for what it was, part of a learning curve. Good for you. It's called growing up. Besides; why go for a married guy? Not enough singles around? Why go for a complicated situation from beginning? Okay, I'm stepping down off of my sunshine-filled soapbox now, lol! Carry on!

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jan 30, 09, 20:45 / #
Seanus: Are you married, plk123? hell NO. :D :D

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jan 30, 09, 15:39 / #
irishchic: Wat do u all think i should do? I winder why he does not feel guilty about this? don't even waste another breath or key srtoke. just move along.

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Edited by: Bzibzioh Jan 30, 09, 18:15 / #
irishchic: I am so tempted to staqy with him, but i guess i will be hurt in the long run. Yes, you will. And also a whore.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 18:16 / #
Well, a clear opinion there by Bzibby ;)

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 18:32 / #
Oh, I saw the potential when I was with a married woman. If your soul is pure, you know what you have to do. I told myself that her husband was a rat and an ignorant prat, which he was. I towed that line for too long. Now I see a future with a magnificent Silesian woman, only a fool would jeopardise that. I learned from my past and saw it for what it was, part of a learning curve.

wildroverThreads: 180 Posts: 8,188 Joined: Jun 7, 07	Jan 30, 09, 18:34 / #
Being with a married woman can be hell.......especially if you are the one she is married to.....

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 18:36 / #
Does this last for around a week every month, wildrover? (or just all month, lol)

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 19:04 / #
Well, you know, things like that happen. It's fine to be high and mighty but people are people. I don't regret what I did but I made the right decision to bail out.

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jan 30, 09, 19:16 / #
wildrover: Being with a married woman can be hell.......especially if you are the one she is married to..... haha.. well said. rofl

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 19:17 / #
Which is why many put the brakes on at the very mention of the word, present company very much included.

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jan 30, 09, 19:22 / #
lol x2.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jan 30, 09, 19:28 / #
Are you married, plk123?

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Jan 30, 09, 19:56 / #
nikttaki: he cheated you and his wife He also cheated his children. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Jan 30, 09, 21:58 / #
wildrover: Being with a married woman can be hell.......especially if you are the one she is married to..... plk123: haha.. well said. rofl For some strange reason I remembered old saying that man is like parking space; all good ones are taken, the ones left are handicap and too small. If I were a betting woman, I'd guess ... handicap ... and handicap!

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Edited by: plk123 Jan 30, 09, 22:05 / #
you lose! i am just not into some piece of paper.

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Jan 30, 09, 22:10 / #
Fear of commitment is a handicap. I win.

childwithinThreads: 15 Posts: 220 Joined: Nov 18, 08	Jan 30, 09, 22:17 / #
Bzibzioh: good ones are taken everybody should find someone that is right for him