Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend.

kaze:

Me and this polish girl have been friends for about four months and recently we have been getting closer. We went out all day at the weekend and I told her that I had feelings for her and on the way back home that night she fell asleep on me.

A couple weeks later we went out again to a bar and she kept telling me that she likes me, looks at me a lot. We ended up kissing a lot that night and I would like to take things further with her.

The main problem is that she has a polish boyfriend (and has done for 3 years) and she has told me that they don't do much and that she is confused. She also seems to be very insecure and can't accept why I like her over other girls and worried that i'll get bored of her etc.

I'm not too sure what to do at this point, we've both established that we like each other but I don't want to get closer to her if she will never leave her boyfriend or want to take things further.

tornado2007Threads: 20 Posts: 3,497 Joined: Jul 11, 07	Jul 29, 09, 18:30 / #
Seanus: Don't f*ck off between the vodka and the snacks/hors d'ouevres? can somebody explain the meaning of this saying because i just cannot figure it out!!! lol

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jul 29, 09, 18:31 / #
I've never heard it, tbh. It's a new one on me :)

michalekThreads: - Posts: 59 Joined: Jun 14, 09	Jul 29, 09, 18:35 / #
tornado2007: can somebody explain the meaning of this saying because i just cannot figure it out!!! lol i will try, when you drink vodka and than you eat something (or drink some juice after) you don't want to being disturbed by anything :P 'wódka' and 'zakąska' are inseperable :)

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jul 29, 09, 18:38 / #
Aha, we don't have any expressions like that. We just go straight to the chaser without asking any questions or saying anything special.

SweetsThreads: 2 Posts: 3 Joined: Jul 30, 09	Jul 30, 09, 03:21 / #
kaze: Me and this polish girl have been friends for about four months and recently we have been getting closer. We went out all day at the weekend and I told her that I had feelings for her and on the way back home that night she fell asleep on me. A couple weeks later we went out again to a bar and she kept telling me that she likes me, looks at me a lot. We ended up kissing a lot that night and I would like to take things further with her. The main problem is that she has a polish boyfriend (and has done for 3 years) and she has told me that they don't do much and that she is confused. She also seems to be very insecure and can't accept why I like her over other girls and worried that i'll get bored of her etc. I'm not too sure what to do at this point, we've both established that we like each other but I don't want to get closer to her if she will never leave her boyfriend or want to take things further. Hmm, I have the right answer for you. You need to find her boyfriend and tell him that he either needs to start treating HIS girlfriend better and spending more quality time with her or, risk losing her to you. Yes, I know it is ballsy but honestly who cares what he thinks or does. Make HER choose or walk away man. Just walk away before both of you guys start hating and fighting yourselves over a girl that might be getting further and further away from you both. Think about it.

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jul 30, 09, 03:29 / #
Seanus: Aha, we don't have any expressions like that. We just go straight to the chaser without asking any questions or saying anything special. the expression here that similar goes like this: don't f*ck with a man's beer/car/remote.. but as michalek said, you do not want to get in between drink and food. ;)

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jul 30, 09, 11:13 / #
We know the ones you listed above, plk123. Don't mess with the beer flow :)

southernThreads: 116 Posts: 10,955 Joined: May 17, 07	Jul 30, 09, 11:16 / #
kaze: Need advice with Polish girl, I like her but she has a boyfriend. Do an MMF.

Akslop_AcesThreads: 1 Posts: 3 Joined: Jul 29, 09	Aug 1, 09, 02:26 / #
You should never f#ck around with a girl who has a boyfriend. That is "not done" ... However ... I also did twice AND I kept a relationship with them for some years, so they were not one-night stands; but still ... it is "not done". Especially as one was a rather good friend of mine. He was the bassman in my band; but okee, enough about me. On the other hand, IF she falls for TopicStarter, her love for her boyfriend is not strong enough; so there are many way's to look at such a situation.

tj123Threads: - Posts: 104 Joined: Jul 31, 09	Edited by: tj123 Aug 1, 09, 06:53 / #
Anyone who cheats or partakes in cheating as the "other" person is a giant gob of shite. It is repulsive and disgusting behavior and idiots like the OP pursuing someone who is not free to be pursued ** me off. The girl on the other hand, is a manipulative ** who is having her cake and eating it too. This too is very common and disgusting.

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Aug 1, 09, 11:41 / #
Who says it's just the two guys...there could be many many more...

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Aug 2, 09, 00:25 / #
tj123: Anyone who cheats or partakes in cheating as the "other" person is a giant gob of shite. Except if its a man, women are soulless sex objects so nothing you do to them can be wrong, also its proven women enjoy being cheated on. tj123: This too is very common and disgusting. We should drop her feet down into a giant meat grinder while plucking her nose hair with pliers, 80s horror slasher flick style!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111111ONE

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Aug 2, 09, 08:59 / #
that is fucken sick what you said you need your head examed. I have been cheated on by guy should I say that about men? I dont think so because there are alot of wounderful men and women left.

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Aug 2, 09, 14:21 / #
LAGirl: I have been cheated on by guy should You need to ask yourself what have you done to push him to such drastic measures, you're just heartless, poor guy had to go through a horror of getting laid with another woman and all you can do is blame him! You're just awfull.

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,429 Joined: May 28, 09	Aug 1, 09, 07:03 / #
tj123: It is repulsive and disgusting behavior and idiots like the OP pursuing someone who is not free to be pursued **** me off. She must be really cute and fun and the OP must be terribly alone. The OP probably has no other prospects, no other Polish women to date and he want's to be with someone who's Polish so he is clinging to her.

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Aug 1, 09, 10:34 / #
I agree with TJ123 she is and thats not right to play two guys like that. I belive in being only with one man monogomy is the best.I cant stand women who mess like that.Dude you ned to get another girl. I like what micalek said good one dude.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Aug 2, 09, 14:36 / #
Seanus: Don't f*ck off between the vodka and the snacks Thats classi Sokrates: Except if its a man, women are soulless sex objects so nothing you do to them can be wrong, also its proven women enjoy being cheated on. We love it, but we love cheating even more. Sokrates: You need to ask yourself what have you done to push him to such drastic measures Have you read her posts? I actually sympathise with the guys that go off with other women...

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,429 Joined: May 28, 09	Edited by: PlasticPole Aug 2, 09, 15:52 / #
If I were this guy I would stay with this woman until someone else came along then I would wean myself away from her. If someone is using you what you should do is use them in return until your prospects improve.

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Aug 2, 09, 23:16 / #
ShelleyS: We love it, but we love cheating even more. Nobody's perfect:) ShelleyS: Have you read her posts? I actually sympathise with the guys that go off with other women... Thats because you're evil immoral twisted and probably you drink beer out of the bottle!!!!!!!!!

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Aug 3, 09, 08:51 / #
I think Sokrates is a greek gay mother **** that women rejects him and I see why. no i should of used him or use men or cheated but no I have morals and belive inlove and hving a honest relationship. I will say this the next mothe**** man the cheats or hurts me will be very sorry.

SokratesThreads: 19 Posts: 4,464 Joined: Jan 19, 09 [Suspended]	Aug 3, 09, 13:44 / #
LAGirl: I will say this the next mothe****** man the cheats or hurts me will be very sorry. You're going to cut the bastard up with an inflatable banana!

Patrycja19Threads: 79 Posts: 3,974 Joined: Oct 31, 06	Aug 4, 09, 05:06 / #
plk123: the expression here that similar goes like this: don't fck with a man's beer/car/remote.. thats so negative ;) LAGirl: I think Sokrates is a greek gay mother *** that women rejects him and I see why. no i should of used him or use men or cheated but no I have morals and belive inlove and hving a honest relationship. I will say this the next mothe**** man the cheats or hurts me will be very sorry. LAgirl, you need to stop for a moment and think.. why are they cheating? is it habitual? was he married prior to you> once a cheat always a cheat? do you continually go after boys that are bad?? bad boys are nice for a moment but not for the long haul. as they say, nice guys always finish last, maybe you need to go to the last part of the line instead of the front of the line! sometimes people go for the wrong choices and if you keep seeking in the same net, the fish will all be the same.. sounds corny, but its true.

kazeThreads: 6 Posts: 18 Joined: May 2, 09	Aug 9, 09, 23:34 / #
I've decided to take most people's advice and end it with her, which I will do later this week when I see her next. I would rather talk and do it to her face than over the phone. I know it's going to hurt but I think it's time I realised (probably a long time ago) that nothing will come of this.

LAGirlThreads: 13 Posts: 598 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Aug 9, 09, 23:38 / #
Good decision Kaze. and youa re right Patrycja19 I am not looking for a man I dont have time I am have my life to live now.