Polish man- why they do not make a move??

z_darius:

Wherever I worked in the last 10 years (mostly large corporations) they had an employee manual - general rules, dress code and $hit were important, but one chapter had to be actually read aloud during the first day of employment. Then a bunch of forms had to be signed that the employee fully understood what sexual harassment was, even what they called, "in very subtle forms".

boticaThreads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: May 14, 08	Jun 11, 08, 16:21 / #
How straight forward are Polish man?? How do you recognize if they are interested? I am in Poland right now. I have a colleague from work I like but I have no idea if he is just beeing nice or if he is interested ! I think I have shown interest, how direct I should be??

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Jun 11, 08, 16:29 / #
hmm I think it is more of a personality trait than it is a cultural trait. I'm guessing you will not know until you are direct

boticaThreads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: May 14, 08	Jun 11, 08, 16:30 / #
That's good advice, but would you really tell a man (not a youung boy) you like him and want to go out?

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Jun 11, 08, 16:32 / #
botica: That's good advice, but would you really tell a man (not a young boy) you like him and want to go out? Yes I would and have done so and from the guys I have been direct with they seemed to really like it. But everyone is different. Where are the guys opinions?

PinkJewel	Jun 11, 08, 16:35 / #
botica: I think I have shown interest, how direct I should be?? Is he married? If you have shown interest and he has not shown ANY back then chances are there is nothing there, no spark. botica: Polish man- why they do not make a move?? They do, if they are interested, believe me ;)

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Jun 11, 08, 16:40 / #
botica: I think I have shown interest, how direct I should be?? hmm, how have you shown "interest"?

boticaThreads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: May 14, 08	Jun 11, 08, 16:45 / #
Well vary vague, but that would be enough for man from another countries ( I had very good results just with a smile or a vague remark). Maybe you are right and he is not interested, jhow sad is that?? I am confused because he will always approach me if I am near by, but that;s it!! Even though I am frindly and I look available! If he is married, is it a big difference? If it is, it has to be the polish way.

PinkJewel	Jun 11, 08, 16:50 / #
botica: Maybe you are right and he is not interested, jhow sad is that?? It's not sad. He's not interested, so what? Move on. botica: and I look available! No, I won't ask how you "look available" botica: If he is married, is it a big difference? If it is, it has to be the polish way. Huge difference. Keep away from him if he's married. He's not yours. What's this "Polish way"?

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Edited by: Dzhaklin Jun 11, 08, 16:54 / #
botica: Well vary vague, but that would be enough for man from another countries ( I had very good results just with a smile or a vague remark). Well if you have been vague I do not think it is a lost cause. botica: If he is married, is it a big difference? If it is, it has to be the polish way. Married= stay away for your own good. Also I think it is not solely a polish way of thinking...

plk123Threads: 30 Posts: 6,412 Joined: Aug 29, 07	Jun 11, 08, 17:01 / #
is he married?

PinkJewel	Jun 11, 08, 17:11 / #
Dzhaklin: and are still active in polish community outside of poland. Exactly! botica: Of course I am asking this on a furum where most people is not in Poland and have never been. Living in Poland does not mean you know all about the place or it's people, that's proven because you've come here to ask a question about Polish men. So please don't get frustrated because the answer you wanted wasn't given. Dzhaklin: You are very lucky. I find that things are never this black and white. Also, men aren't always as perceptive as we think they are... I've never found this about men either. They say women are complicated but so are men. However, in relation to botica's thread title, they will make a move if there is a woman they are interested in.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Jun 11, 08, 22:10 / #
Some of the Polish guys I've dated, have been a bit shy at first. After you get to know them better, watch out! Their animal instinct comes out eventually. Lol. A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

croatianThreads: - Posts: 16 Joined: Jun 13, 08	Jun 13, 08, 21:00 / #
hm...polish guys are good.they are really polite and well mannered, however i dont think they take forever to make a move. i know one at work and he always calls me to remind me when do i start work lol even though i start work every week at the same time. its really cute, except i am not sure if he has a girlfriend. if he doesnt, then i would totally go for him lol. and i have an old buddy from college...that asked me out million times already, but its just strange to be friends with someone for 7 years and then date them.

bubblegumlady87Threads: - Posts: 2 Joined: Jan 29, 09	Feb 27, 09, 05:25 / #
I like a polish man and it his been equal in the "making the moves" departmet so I think it is a matter of personality...

boticaThreads: 1 Posts: 4 Joined: May 14, 08	Jun 11, 08, 17:02 / #
No ring at least. It is not solely a polish way of thinking...true. Still I found confusing how caring, warm and nice he is and how he does not make a clear move... I am just trying to find out if they are usually shy, and they are definetely different on their public approach to woman than other countries. Of course I am asking this on a furum where most people is not in Poland and have never been. I have never been confused before, either they like you or they don't and it's pretty clear.

DzhaklinThreads: 3 Posts: 190 Joined: Dec 3, 07	Jun 11, 08, 17:04 / #
botica: Of course I am asking this on a furum where most people is not in Poland and have never been. Well yes a majority of us have been or have lived there and are still active in polish community outside of poland. botica: have never been confused before, either they like you or they don't and it's pretty clear. You are very lucky. I find that things are never this black and white. Also, men aren't always as perceptive as we think they are...

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Jun 11, 08, 21:01 / #
botica: I am just trying to find out if they are usually shy, and they are definetely different on their public approach to woman than other countries. Some of them are very shy but only because they're shy, not because they're Polish. And sometimes they want to make a move but they don't because of the shyness and they would go out with you if you just ask. It sounds like he's interested if he's always trying to be near you.

puercoespinThreads: 1 Posts: 155 Joined: Jun 8, 08	Jun 11, 08, 22:21 / #
he just want to make sure that you are interested too. after that you'll see how shy he is..lol

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07	Jun 13, 08, 21:17 / #
botica: I have a colleague from work I like but I have no idea if he is just beeing nice or if he is interested ! Could it be that in this day and age it just scares the living crap out of many decent men to make the first move. Some have honest romantic intention and the next thing they know they are accused os sexual harassment. Wherever I worked in the last 10 years (mostly large corporations) they had an employee manual - general rules, dress code and $hit were important, but one chapter had to be actually read aloud during the first day of employment. Then a bunch of forms had to be signed that the employee fully understood what sexual harassment was, even what they called, "in very subtle forms". Guess how many felt like picking up a date with someone at work? :)

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Jun 13, 08, 21:46 / #
z_darius: Wherever I worked in the last 10 years (mostly large corporations) they had an employee manual - general rules, dress code and $hit were important, but one chapter had to be actually read aloud during the first day of employment. Then a bunch of forms had to be signed that the employee fully understood what sexual harassment was, even what they called, "in very subtle forms". so true. some places even prohibit romance between coworkers. one of them has to quit if they want to go out romantically.

moonlightThreads: 7 Posts: 115 Joined: Nov 10, 08	Feb 27, 09, 12:20 / #
at first reading this I though - shy!!! no way, but then I remembered the first date I went on with my guy, I asked him out and he was shy and a little bit afriad (that didn't last long :) but I think sometimes as women we can forget how intimidating we can be to some men. its all to do with personality. wondering will drive you mad! what have you got to loose? ask him out :)

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Feb 27, 09, 12:36 / #
PinkJewel: They do, if they are interested, believe me ;) even if they r not interested :)

JacekinLAnNYThreads: - Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 10, 08	Mar 1, 09, 08:30 / #
moonlight: I asked him out and he was shy and a little bit afriad (that didn't last long :) but I think sometimes as women we can forget how intimidating we can be to some men. its all to do with personality. wondering will drive you mad! what have you got to loose? ask him out :) Guys are not mind readers. Just because you talk to him or smile at him might not be enough to get the message across. Ask him out for a drink.

TyskieThreads: 1 Posts: 30 Joined: Mar 2, 09	Mar 16, 09, 02:31 / #
He might be married, even if he's not wearing a ring. You could check with him, in a casual way, if he's married. Most Poles over 25 are married. It's more traditional that way.

David_18Threads: 111 Posts: 1,212 Joined: Jan 4, 07	Mar 16, 09, 04:59 / #
botica: I think I have shown interest, how direct I should be?? Maybe you should just explain your feelings to him, instead of waiting for him to make a move?