Any polish women who are married to muslim people?

DzikaRoza020:

Allah was a profit, NOT GOD!

Allah wasn't a prophet, Allah is god, Allah means god. That's just like saying Jesus wasn't god, he was a prophet.

I don't think he would be lying to me, he hates lies. He also knows a lot about his religion, as well as all the others, and he likes to explain it all to me. He's not trying to force me into anything, he is just telling me to look at things with an open mind.
I also don't think he's trying to control me. He doesn't want me to convert just to be with him, but he actually wants me to understand his religion and follow it, which I intend to do. He is trying to make me as happy as possible, not miserable.

would you convert if you aren't be with him?

I don't know if I would convert to Islam if i wasn't with him, but I would definitely convert from catholicism. I'm always myself, and he's not trying to make me a different person. We have a lot of communication and honesty in our relationship, and we like to compromise.

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Mar 16, 09, 18:57 / #
still_wisher: i'm muslim married to polish we r togther for almost 2 years Lovely. Are you planning on taking more wives later on when first one will get boring?

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER	Mar 16, 09, 18:58 / #
Bzibzioh: Are you planning on taking more wives later on when first one will get boring? why are you attacking him?

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Mar 16, 09, 18:59 / #
pgtx: why are you attacking him? Show me attacking part again?

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER	Mar 16, 09, 19:00 / #
Bzibzioh: Show me attacking part again? being sarcastic...call it whatever... just asking what's your point?

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Mar 16, 09, 19:02 / #
Is it not allowed by Muslims to take more than one wife?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Edited by: still_wisher Mar 16, 09, 19:09 / #
ok , i will keep going with hiding sarcastic move ..:) yes it's allowed ( if she is a muslim) , but only if u able to share ur heart honestly (i dont think that this part is possible)and also if the wife will agree also , bc if she dosent she can divorce the man simply and easy .. and i don't think i will get bored !!! so that what u think about marriage (getting bored) !!!!

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07	Mar 16, 09, 19:15 / #
Under sharia, a woman much prove her case before a judge if their husband objects. Muslim en can divorce their wives by saying "I divorce you" three times to his wife. How many husbands can a woman have?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 16, 09, 19:28 / #
ok ..usually muslims get this question all the time .. but just how is ur feeling when u ask a question like that !! mby u should ask someone in porno movies for sure u'll hv an answer.. "i divorce you" 3 times means the guy is not allowed to touch this woman again unless she'll get married then divorced to another man .. "much prove her case" in getting married to another women without telling the 1st wife there is no much to prove ..

ragtime27Threads: 1 Posts: 245 Joined: Feb 20, 09	Mar 16, 09, 19:28 / #
DzikaRoza020: Allah was a profit, NOT GOD! Allah wasn't a prophet, Allah is god, Allah means god. That's just like saying Jesus wasn't god, he was a prophet. I don't think he would be lying to me, he hates lies. He also knows a lot about his religion, as well as all the others, and he likes to explain it all to me. He's not trying to force me into anything, he is just telling me to look at things with an open mind. I also don't think he's trying to control me. He doesn't want me to convert just to be with him, but he actually wants me to understand his religion and follow it, which I intend to do. He is trying to make me as happy as possible, not miserable. would you convert if you aren't be with him? I don't know if I would convert to Islam if i wasn't with him, but I would definitely convert from catholicism. I'm always myself, and he's not trying to make me a different person. We have a lot of communication and honesty in our relationship, and we like to compromise. You're right Allah means God. some people are ignorant,Allah in Arabic,God in english. some people think that Mohamed is God,he's a prophet. Muslims,Christians,Jews worship same god. your partner sounds like a good Man. If you haven't met him,probably you won't consider Islam,that's not a problem he introduced you to Islam and now it's down to you.

z_dariusThreads: 22 Posts: 5,091 Joined: Oct 18, 07	Mar 16, 09, 19:39 / #
still_wisher: "i divorce you" 3 times means the guy is not allowed to touch this woman again unless she'll get married then divorced to another man .. Not "allowed"? Poor poopsie. He's not allowed to touch a woman he doesn't want to touch in the first place. That is a cruel and unusual punishment by any standards. I'd say these Muslim men are masochists ;)

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Mar 16, 09, 20:41 / #
Still Wisher, if I were to move to Saudi-Arabia, as a converted Muslim, how hard would it be for me to find myself 4 wives, who appreciate my manhood, equally? How wealthy must I be?

niejestemcapitaThreads: 3 Posts: 666 Joined: Jan 3, 09	Mar 16, 09, 20:46 / #
Bzibzioh: Why Muslim men need multiple wives? Sexual inadequacy, sexual boredom, status symbol? Which Muslim men are u talkin about? I never met any with more than one wife.

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 16, 09, 20:49 / #
Filios1: Still Wisher, if I were to move to Saudi-Arabia, as a converted Muslim, how hard would it be for me to find myself 4 wives, who appreciate my manhood, equally? How wealthy must I be? if u r wealty enough i dont think u'll hv a problem to find that kind of "wives" anywhere not in Saudi only ..

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Mar 16, 09, 20:49 / #
Daisy: you told me 2 was more than enough for you I feel that Allah has blessed me with certain gifts and talents, and that I must take full advantage of them. I believe 4 wives would be a sufficient number to fulfill my destiny.

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 16, 09, 19:41 / #
z_darius: Not "allowed"? Poor poopsie. He's not allowed to touch a woman he doesn't want to touch in the first place. That is a cruel and unusual punishment by any standards. I'd say these Muslim men are masochists ;) sounds funny :) but u dont know "i divorce you " r just 3 words you can say them if u r so angry !!! then later u'll cry a river on the wife when u can't come close to her !!

SzwedwPolsceThreads: 13 Posts: 1,915 Joined: Feb 21, 09	Mar 16, 09, 19:43 / #
Bzibzioh: Are you planning on taking more wives later on when first one will get boring? What did he wrote to make you wonder that? Or is it just a stereotype?

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Mar 16, 09, 19:44 / #
pgtx: why are you attacking him? She isn't attacking him... just asking a simple question.

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER	Mar 16, 09, 19:47 / #
Filios1: She isn't attacking him... just asking a simple question. of course...

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 16, 09, 19:49 / #
SzwedwPolsce: What did he wrote to make you wonder that? i wrote i'm a muslim :)

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Mar 16, 09, 20:21 / #
still_wisher: so that what u think about marriage (getting bored) !!!! You should know that better than me. Why Muslim men need multiple wives? Sexual inadequacy, sexual boredom, status symbol?

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 16, 09, 20:26 / #
Bzibzioh: You should know that better than me. Why Muslim men need multiple wives? Sexual inadequacy, sexual boredom, status symbol? oh !! all this bc in islam u can marry 4 women !! can u tell me how many muslims u know already with few wives ? even if u know which i think u don't in my country i know no one , it's not that easy as it sounds to do it !!

BzibziohThreads: 6 Posts: 3,657 Joined: Oct 15, 08 [Suspended]	Mar 16, 09, 20:31 / #
still_wisher: it's not that easy as it sounds to do it !! But it's still in the books! And now answer my question.

still_wisherThreads: 7 Posts: 186 Joined: Mar 9, 08	Mar 16, 09, 20:36 / #
mby u should find someone feels like he is one of these kind of ppl u said .. simply i don't need few wives !

DaisyThreads: 16 Posts: 2,172 Joined: Apr 28, 07	Mar 16, 09, 20:47 / #
Filios1: how hard would it be for me to find myself 4 wives 4!? you told me 2 was more than enough for you

DzikaRoza020Threads: - Posts: 13 Joined: Mar 14, 09	Mar 16, 09, 22:03 / #
My mistake I knew what I meant, Jesus is the son of god, not a prophet by the way! You might think Jesus is the son of God, but not everyone agrees with that. I think Jesus was more like a prophet, as is written in the quran. relegions respect and love around ... don't you guys hv any good stories ! I'm waiting to hear some good stories myself, I know they are out there. Not every muslim marraige is horrible. It's depressing seeing all this negativity. It's nice to hear your marriage is working out =). I know my love for my companion is strong, and i'll have a happy story to share one day. your partner sounds like a good Man. Thank you, I believe he is too. Too many people are trying to make him seem like a monster, even though he is one of the most decent guys out there.

Filios1Threads: 15 Posts: 1,953 Joined: Nov 13, 07	Mar 16, 09, 22:11 / #
DzikaRoza020: DzikaRoza020 Tell me, honestly. Why do you need seek reassurance? If this man was so great, you wouldn't have any doubts, and you certainly wouldn't be asking us what we thought about this relationship.

DzikaRoza020Threads: - Posts: 13 Joined: Mar 14, 09	Mar 16, 09, 22:46 / #
Tell me, honestly. Why do you need seek reassurance? If this man was so great, you wouldn't have any doubts, and you certainly wouldn't be asking us what we thought about this relationship. I'm not seeking reassurance, I'm just trying to get some people's perspectives. Who said anything about me having doubts? I don't have any doubts, I'm happy with what i'm doing. And it's not bad to ask for opinions on a relationship, some people have some interesting things to say.

King SobieskiThreads: 7 Posts: 1,106 Joined: Jan 22, 07	Mar 17, 09, 04:15 / #
DzikaRoza020: Ragtime, I did read a lot about Islam already, and I understand it. I'm not just going to convert for him, but for myself. I'd like to follow the religion, it makes more sense to me than catholicism. how does it make more sense? it is just a mixture of the jewish torah and catholic bible spread as the word of god.

mafketisThreads: 17 Posts: 1,880 Joined: Mar 31, 08	Edited by: mafketis Mar 17, 09, 08:29 / #
What I think (what everyone has been waiting for). I think she's trying to convince herself. There are some warning signs here and I think she's subconsciously picked up on them (I think there's things she's not telling us). Simultaneously, she's trying to prove to herself that there's nothing to worry about. A woman from a western Christian background (even if she's not very religious) needs to be careful about marrying a Muslim man. This is not to slam Muslims, most Muslims I've known are very kind, wonderful people (my sample skews heavily to the highly educated and secular leaning). They also are not happy with some entrenched attitudes in their home countries. Some things to be aware of (nb when I say "many Muslims" I mean just that, not all, maybe not most, but many) Many Muslims approach observance of Islam not only as a religion but as a badge of group membership. One result is that customs and cultural traditions that have no relation to Islam are firmly believed to be part of the religion. The Taliban claims education of girls is against Islam even though the Koran specifically calls for female education. That's one example, there are lots, lots more. In other words, he'll think of way that women are mistreated in his culture as being part of Islam even though it isn't at all. (reread that several times) Many Muslims have a 'when in Rome' attitude. This means that apparently enlightened Muslim men in the west subconciously retreat to local standards when visiting or returning the home country. A Muslim man who doesn't care if his wife uses a form of head covering while in the US may fully expect her to cover up back home (his home not yours). This has happened many, many times and the stories are easy to find. You say he has no family in the Middle East, his family might disagree. Muslim women (not a meek or docile group IME) know what they're getting into when they get married and they usually know how to work the system to their advantage (or miminum disadvantage). You don't and you won't be able to learn fast enough. You're also unlikely to be able to create the bonds of female companionship and solidarity with his female family members that many Muslim women depend on. Finally, remember that marriage does not ease tensions in a relationship IT MAKES THEM WORSE. Forget any romance novel or romantic comedy ideals you may have picked up. People do not act nicer to each other after marriage. The legal bond aggravates longstanding tensions and brings resentments that neither knew existed out into the open (I've known a bunch of longterm live together happy couples who break up within a few months of getting married). Many couples can work through this but it's not quick, fun, easy or romantic and you'll be playing by his rules, not yours which means you'll be at a disadvantage.

mephiasThreads: 15 Posts: 812 Joined: Nov 14, 08 MEMBER	Mar 17, 09, 10:06 / #
King Sobieski: how does it make more sense? it is just a mixture of the jewish torah and catholic bible spread as the word of god. Do you really think there will be any point to discuss religion itself ? mafketis: What I think (what everyone has been waiting for). I mostly agree with you. Only missing point. She knows him but we don't. She can talk everything with him she is not totally sure and can clear her doubts. Trying to persuade her not to marry him without knowing anything about this relationship is childish and prejudicial.