Polonius3: Which do you believe produced more happy couples, stable families and kids with a normal childhood?
Well, ofcourse there's always the perfect couples, and social control. (Social control is becoming a bit less of an issue these days though!) I mean, you don't have to be Einstein to figure out that most couples will always try to show outsiders the brightest side of themselves. Most of us just don't like to talk about our issues do we?
So happy? I don't know who's really happy and who isn't. No one is perfect, and I don't think any relationship will ever be perfect. (We all have our ups and downs I think!) It's cool to grow up with people, and it's a good thing for anyone to have stability, a sense of belonging and trust..
So yes, it could be that back in the days, people were a bit happier with their social environment. I think the media does help a lot to screw things up between all kinds of people though! I usually get the impression that working class isn't good enough anymore, and that we're looked down upon by quite a few people. (Houses get more and more expensive, cars need to be big, bigger, biggest! People need to study more and more, and you have to look, act and behave like you're perfect if you believe your television!)
Back in the day, men had more security. You would leave school, get a job, and you would have had a permanent contract within 3 months. (Sometimes even one month!) You were able to buy a house and start a family if you were 23 or something. My generation, needs to work for two years before they get a permanent contract, and in most cases you'll find yourself ditched just before the end of your contract.. (Once again!) So this is what honest work does for you in a lot of cases these days. A lot of social problems are caused by a lack of opportunity, and a lack of security.
Most of you probably don't have a clue of what I'm talking about, but I think some of you might..
Polonius3: Of ciourse, I realise there are those contradictious souls who may claim that a "normal" family is his kids, her kids and our kids or two dads and an adotped orphan!
I don't think two dads (As you've put it!) should be allowed to adopt an orphan either, (Because I believe a child needs a mother too!) but I would like to add that, his kids, her kids and/or our kids would be a pretty normal situation, and if the parents can provide for their children, then I really don't see why this should be frowned upon?
See, we've got housing problems almost everywhere. So if all the divorced men, and divorced women or even widows out there would want to try being a family again with someone else, then I'd say that's very good news!
Divorced people usually take the appartments which would normally be meant for all the younger singles out there, who need to start with a smaller appartment because they don't have a partner yet! (I mean having two salaries usually enables a couple to aim a little higher when it comes to houses!)
Besides, who am I to tell people they should spend the rest of their lives alone just because their first marriage or relationship didn't work out? Live and let live.
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I think arrogance, too much expectations, too much demands, extremely high prices and selfish, egocentric behaviour are wrecking Western European societies in a lot of different ways. I see a lot of people complaining about what they've created themselves, (Usually the older generation, and the establishment!) but I rarely get to meet any people who can actually look in the mirror, or atleast admit they're being a bit greedy at the expense of the community.. (I'm not going to point my finger at anyone in particular, or place the blame on a few individuals, but I would like to add that your own children will have to deal with all this crap sooner or later if nothing will be done about this. (You can blame a large group of younger people for not having much of a purpose, but you should be honest enough to admit that their purpose has been gradually taken away from them.) You can't force this **** down our throats and tell us we're not ''competitive'' enough, or even worse, ''lazy''.
No my friend, I've always worked for my money, (Always worked hard I might add!), and I still don't have a permanent contract. So I ask you, is it our fault that employers want to profit from our efforts and hard work, but want to give us as little as possible in return? I mean, to get somewhere, you'll need atleast a little bit of stability, and not change jobs (And salary!) every couple of months!
Anyway, **** this, I can finally do my study now. I just feel sorry for all these guys and girls who can't..
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Yup, rant over!
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