What does the silence mean?

nomaderol:

I thought this too. Most likely so. I've tried to shake her other stuffs (biz works) to wake her up, but, got her silence punchs to my stomach as a reflexive reaction(?) But, that's it. I can interpreate her punchs as no? I can. But, not sure. Anyway, she kept silence. I think either she is ignoring my snoring or she sleeping.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 20, 09, 15:21 / #
Offered her friendship, very beginning of relationship. Long time past, neither yes nor no. Just silent. Gals and experienced guys, What does the silence mean?

drew128Threads: 3 Posts: 64 Joined: Jun 3, 07	Oct 20, 09, 15:24 / #
peace and quite

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 20, 09, 15:39 / #
Quite? But, it's as if a too loudy voice making one a deaf.

mafketisThreads: 17 Posts: 1,880 Joined: Mar 31, 08	Oct 20, 09, 15:53 / #
It means "I refuse to dignify that lame-ass offer with a response, try again."

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 20, 09, 16:11 / #
Most probably, you are correct. I thought I was really a real lame-as*. Have tried again, again, again. Same again. Silent. This is the only thing I've not done. Cupping some coins in my hands and shaking them vigorously, making the coins ring in the silence. But, hesitating to do that not to disturb her silence.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Oct 20, 09, 16:11 / #
It means that it's not a major priority for her. She is likely busy with other stuff.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 20, 09, 16:41 / #
I thought this too. Most likely so. I've tried to shake her other stuffs (biz works) to wake her up, but, got her silence punchs to my stomach as a reflexive reaction(?) But, that's it. I can interpreate her punchs as no? I can. But, not sure. Anyway, she kept silence. I think either she is ignoring my snoring or she sleeping.

Ebony1972Threads: - Posts: 11 Joined: Oct 15, 09	Oct 20, 09, 20:23 / #
It means she doesn't want you again, so better go for another girl instead of wasting your time waiting,am sure she's out there busy with another dude. Anyway good luck.

sadieannThreads: 4 Posts: 320 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Oct 20, 09, 20:34 / #
Take a hint: She's not interested. OK, so you've been called crazy and now the silent treatment?nomaderol nomaderol: I thought this too. Most likely so. I've tried to shake her other stuffs (biz works) to wake her up, but, got her silence punchs to my stomach as a reflexive reaction(?) But, that's it. I can interpreate her punchs as no? I can. But, not sure. Anyway, she kept silence. I think either she is ignoring my snoring or she sleeping. I really don't think your shaking her 'biz works'. She's telling you 'she doesn't want sex until marriage' and oh, the engagement ring or she walks?<LOL>

sadieannThreads: 4 Posts: 320 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Oct 20, 09, 20:56 / #
Disclaimer, sorry Nomaderol, I mistook you for Master. I wasn't able to edit. She's either sleeping, your not shaking her 'biz works', or there is other underlying problems in the relationship. Your the one sleeping and in the relationship with her. Only you can figure it out.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 20, 09, 21:42 / #
Dont miss. This is only very early stage of a potential relationship. Just a friendship offer. A collision occured on the road that scattered us far away and the only comm tool is the internet now. If I were a girl, I'd say No easily. I can imagine hard to say yes. But, no, this loves to stay in silence. She suddenly became unreachable after first shocks of collision. No, reachable. But, you can't reach even a reachable when you have no money, you know. Sadieann, I've been questioning for months. Who sleeping, who crazy, who idiot, and so on. Hard to figure it out on the net. Ebony, being with another dude is sure a good possibility. But, pls, don't kill this very small hope in this silence. See all threads on the forum, all unhappy relations (btw, why so? this discouraging.) At least there is a very small of hope of happiness in this silence as things unknown yet. I think she has to pull the trigger here. Then, happiness may spread all over the forum. I'm sure about this, but, she is a blonde.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Oct 21, 09, 02:05 / #
nomaderol: Just silent nomaderol: What does the silence mean? Without sounding too harsh, I think she probably means see you next lifetime! A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 21, 09, 09:18 / #
beckski No harsh. This a marsh. Ok, why doesn't she say a simple No or two then, instead of pulling herself into a silent marsh? See next lifetime? We aren't on the same sphere anymore? Half of 10 billion legs on this same sphere we are on are not very different than her legs. Next (v) girl, please.

SamRenThreads: 2 Posts: 9 Joined: Nov 19, 07	Oct 21, 09, 09:40 / #
hey, silence could also mean SHE IS NOT SURE!!! and is in between YES or NO...

drew128Threads: 3 Posts: 64 Joined: Jun 3, 07	Edited by: drew128 Oct 21, 09, 09:41 / #
Her hearing aid batteries of love are flat, thus cannot hear the twilight flutterings of the boggy marsh, as it takes 2 to tango, you are a dancing partner short. Been there, done that and have the tee shirt, which thankfully does not fit anymore. Egg on face aside, I would say probably not going to happen really, have a mope, no harm in that, we all do. Plenty more fish in the sea, time is a great healer etc. Last time I got a wobbly lip and thankfully that was a hundred years ago I locked myself in a room and listened to Jean Michel Jarre's "Waiting for Cousteau" 45 minutes of ambient piano doodling, water effects and no desirable tune. Did that for a few hours until me mum called me down for tea, I can recommend that. Digging yourself into a bigger hole of despair is really going to be pants for you and more importantly us on the forum.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 21, 09, 10:54 / #
SamRen, your loudy voice probably describes the stiu perfectly. Not being sure. About what? About who? Herself? Myself? I said her this short. I'm a socialist love. Not enough to tell all about me to make her sure? I did all bad things to hear a No. No, she won't say No. She is worse. I think she knows me more than me. So, she must be sure about me. Probably she's not sure about herself then. Maybe, I need to shake her biz works harder to let herself too be sure. Drew128, I got the egg on my face, broke its shell and cooked the yellow part for break fast. Reality in my stomach now. But, I think I need this egg everyday, not only today. Indeed, lots of fishes in the sea. But, only if I knew how to swim in love sea. This a novice. Yes, I can leave her to time that may heal the wound. Maybe, time knows how to love her more than me, but then, what if she is about to say Yes, then, this also jealous, can't leave her even into arms of time. Also, time isn't enough to heal the wound. It just postpone the cure into the future. Her choice if she doesn't want the cure now and then. Say No, I go then. Just desperate to hear a No. Then, I can search my cure, another (v) girl. Hint hint. I said (v) girl. Such girls are rare. Also in Poland. I'll stay in Poland. A Kocham Cie is needed to tear this silence.

SamRenThreads: 2 Posts: 9 Joined: Nov 19, 07	Oct 21, 09, 11:16 / #
nomaderol: I think she knows me more than me. So, she must be sure about me. Probably she's not sure about herself then. yep, that's what i meant to say... she knows you well, what kind of a person are you, and maybe even likes you... but is not sure of herself and her feelings... you need to help her reach a conclusion... talk to her, if affirmative good for both of you... otherwise, go silent for a while, and you will know what does she think of you... best of luck!!!

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 21, 09, 11:42 / #
Talk is impossible. Ban ban ban. It's a silence. I am able to think of only one help, if help means showing her truth to herself without talking, as no chance of talk anyway: Cupping some coins in my hands and shaking them vigorously, making the coins ring in the silence. But, hesitating to do that. I know people hate to learn their own truths. I could do that to her too without expecting yes. Normally, any person could say a no and hates you when showing her/his truth. Say btch to a btch and hear a no and get a kick on back. It's like that. But, this one may go into silence deeper whatever I do. My conclusion: I think she thinks more on how to hate me, more than thinking her own happiness. I think this lies in the ultimate historical problem in human mind that thinks hateless love impossible.

Barr_2009Threads: 1 Posts: 280 Joined: Oct 11, 09	Oct 21, 09, 13:46 / #
women love to ignore when they don't want to face something or answer questions, and well maybe it's coincidence, but I've experienced it more with some polish women

PlasticPoleThreads: 10 Posts: 5,429 Joined: May 28, 09	Oct 21, 09, 13:53 / #
nomaderol: Offered her friendship, very beginning of relationship. Long time past, neither yes nor no. Just silent. Gals and experienced guys, What does the silence mean? It means she's not interested.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 21, 09, 14:25 / #
Exactly so, Barr. But, those 'somethings or questions' must be about somethings else, most probably, their own private problems. Having experienced such things several times in the past I've run away as soon as I seen an ignore thinking I've not been interested. Maybe, I was, maybe, not. But, looking back to the past, I see those girls who have ignored me in the past are still alone and unhappy. So, there must be somethings else. This time, I am thinking to ignore ignoring. Either she will say a clear yes or no with putting her some sentences side by side as a paragraph or I'll disturb her silence by my snoring whether she likes it or not. Doing wrong?

Barr_2009Threads: 1 Posts: 280 Joined: Oct 11, 09	Oct 21, 09, 14:39 / #
Is it total ignorance? Cant you go to her place and face her? Otherwise they will reply when they want, could be weeks

SamRenThreads: 2 Posts: 9 Joined: Nov 19, 07	Edited by: SamRen Oct 21, 09, 14:56 / #
nomaderol: Talk is impossible. Ban ban ban. It's a silence. express your feelings in a letter... send by post asking for a response... nomaderol: My conclusion: I think she thinks more on how to hate me, more than thinking her own happiness. I think this lies in the ultimate historical problem in human mind that thinks hateless love impossible. try your best once more... if she doesn't respond, trust me, she doesn't deserve you... and if she really likes you and wants to be with you, she will come to you on her own... you don't deserve this silence either... you need to put your foot down...

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 21, 09, 16:28 / #
Barr, I'm fixed here. Can't go anywhere. Also, if she can't talk (the net for that), nonsense to attempt to touch. SamRen, no idea what the best means. The best I can think of is a word or two I can say and said already. Also, have tried all comm channels. Step by step, she closing every comm channel. I'm almost sure now I'm not liked at all as I've ignored her all ignores and have disturbed her in every possible way. I've done all kinds of crimes that can happen in a pre-relationship. Having done these, I deserve worse than the silence. But, probably she is unable to find anything worse than the silence. Such a soft defensive offense. Only females could do. Guys, we too primitives comparing us to these females. I already raised my white flag. Moneys, capitals,... Females, take all, yours. Give me a (v) girl, enough. Ok to even to this silent blonde.

KrystalThreads: 7 Posts: 108 Joined: Sep 17, 09	Oct 21, 09, 17:06 / #
Maybe she is slilence because: 1. She is waiting for you to say something 2. She don't have anything to say. 3. If she wear hearing aid and didn't know her battery is dead. 4. Maybe her mind somewhere else and can't concentrates. 5. She don't speak English or Polish. 6. She don't like the way her voice sound. 7. Try sign language, it is fun. You don't have to be 100% perfect. All you have to take her hands and pull her toward you and hug her. Smile and look at her eyes. Make sign that I like you or let have drink. Use you hands to sign. Use your body language too. It is very important to communicates without speaking.

sadieannThreads: 4 Posts: 320 Joined: Apr 28, 09	Oct 21, 09, 17:29 / #
Best way to handle it: Pull back. Silence in return. Trust me you will know either way. Patience. Everything doesn't have to be settled right now. No one likes smothering. It works, the good ole' silent treatment. Look at how it's affecting you?

Barr_2009Threads: 1 Posts: 280 Joined: Oct 11, 09	Oct 21, 09, 17:51 / #
yeah it works that, it's not easy, but psychologically beneficial. Even if the girl doesn't want to talk now, if you back off completely, the silence might make her change. Often with the girl I'm communicating with now, if I back off, she will contact me, I believe if you back off and be silent, it can have a positive effect

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 21, 09, 20:02 / #
I'll do this. Keep silence. Lets see what'll happen. I'll leave a note if anything changes.

nomaderolThreads: 7 Posts: 1,213 Joined: Oct 18, 09	Oct 22, 09, 11:20 / #
Stayed silence for a day. Nothing changed. Can't do this as much as her. 1 year! She very strong. He weak.

szarlotkaThreads: 14 Posts: 3,349 Joined: Feb 20, 07	Oct 22, 09, 11:30 / #
I think I would have drawn my conclusion after 2 weeks let alone a year! I think you can assume her interest is well and truly dead.