How to be sure that a girl I met at the laundry likes me?

my mate:

Aye but dinnae just ask her oot for a drink mate, ye'll blow it and right away she'll be thinking "hmmmmm, too easy".
Breeze back in the shop after a couple of days, if she gives it "oh your washing machine is broken then?" just play it cool and hit her wi "maybe I broke it on purpose to come and see you". Then turn and get on wi yer "laundry". Btw, you should do this towards closing time. When yer heading oot the door, wait and see if she starts the "hope you come back" patter. If she does, you need to tell her yer machine will be fixed soon so if she wants to see you again SHE will need to take you for a drink.
She'll either go "yeah ok" or act all shocked and give it "no, YOU take me for a drink" and all laughy or she'll just look down and think "creepy scottish fucker cannae take a bit of flirty banter without trying to ask me out"

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 11:50 / #
...but I am not very good at reading signs from women. When I broke up with my ex I was in the Laundry on Dietla using the internet and doing my laundry. This was the same day that I was in the situation that I had to find a flat or else face being homeless. So I was doing my laundry and chatting to the laundry girl and she asked where my girlfriend was (last time I was in I was with her) and so I told her we had broken up and she had gone back home. She was quite sympathetic but said with a smile, "well I can be your laundry girlfriend" and we sat folding laundry together. Later on she was asking about my stuff and I told her about my looking for a flat and she said, "well, if you don't find anything then you can stay at my house for a few nights until you do". Obviously this was the niceness and helpfulness I had been lucky enough to get used to in Krakow. Once I got my new flat I popped in to say hello on the way to work and we chatted for a bit and she said, "I've missed seeing you, I hope your washing machine breaks down, I will use my mind power for that". Now that was the last time we talked...is she just being friendly and accidentaly flirtatious or am I being totally blind and stupid to her approaches. I know with my ex it took her telling me to join her in bed before I got the message so I am not very good at this sort of thing.

Lir	Dec 10, 08, 12:01 / #
Cardno85: "I've missed seeing you, I hope your washing machine breaks down, I will use my mind power for that". To me , it sounds like she really likes you, ask her out for a drink or a coffee :)

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 12:04 / #
I thought so...but, as I say, I am quite rubbish at this sort of thing. I passed it off as more of a case of friendliness being mistranslated and sounding a bit like a line. I will ask her out methinks...and if it all goes tits up then I just hope my washing machine doesn't break.

dcchrisThreads: 11 Posts: 687 Joined: Oct 29, 07	Edited by: dcchris Dec 10, 08, 12:31 / #
maybe ask her if she has a boyfriend... after all she was asking her about your gf. if no bf or husband than ask her out. the worst she can do is say no. you never know if you dont try...

WroclawThreads: 77 Posts: 7,404 Joined: Apr 1, 06 [Moderator]	Dec 10, 08, 12:47 / #
Did you actually stay at her house for a few days ? It's not clear to me if you did. If you did you should have noticed if she were in a relationship. If she isn't. Ask her out. If you didn't stay at her house and in fact no nothing about her: Ask her out. If you don't ask... someone else will.

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Edited by: Cardno85 Dec 10, 08, 12:47 / #
I am pretty sure she doesn't have a boyfriend...I mean what would a boyfriend say if she was inviting who was pretty much a stranger to live at her house. I reckon pop in tomorrow for a quick coffee and start chatting, then just casually ask if she fancies getting a drink or a coffee sometime outside of work and take it from there. As you say, the worst she can say is no...which would be really awkward if it it in front of a full laundry. And to be fair, even that isn't that bad. And no, I didn't stay at her house, I found a flat at the last minute. I know pretty much nothing about her other than she is a very good looking girl and she works in a Laundry...so yeah...ask her out.

polishgirltx	Dec 10, 08, 14:55 / #
just ask her for a coffee... then you'll know... didn't you hear that Polish girls like to have a few bfs at the same time? you better ask her about that! haha...

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 15:10 / #
Well, it's either tits up or tits out. Roll the dice and I pray for a 6 ;)

Lotnik767Threads: 6 Posts: 210 Joined: Nov 12, 08	Dec 10, 08, 15:18 / #
Time to get your freak on man!! She like you and wants you!! =) good luck dog go get her!

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 15:31 / #
Seanus: Well, it's either tits up or tits out. Roll the dice and I pray for a 6 ;) I don't understand a word of that mate... As for wanting to have a few boyfriends at the same time. I suppose it keeps life interesting...as long as it's not a one way deal i'm happy. I think asking her out for coffee is the way forward. One of my mates had another approach: my mate: Aye but dinnae just ask her oot for a drink mate, ye'll blow it and right away she'll be thinking "hmmmmm, too easy". Breeze back in the shop after a couple of days, if she gives it "oh your washing machine is broken then?" just play it cool and hit her wi "maybe I broke it on purpose to come and see you". Then turn and get on wi yer "laundry". Btw, you should do this towards closing time. When yer heading oot the door, wait and see if she starts the "hope you come back" patter. If she does, you need to tell her yer machine will be fixed soon so if she wants to see you again SHE will need to take you for a drink. She'll either go "yeah ok" or act all shocked and give it "no, YOU take me for a drink" and all laughy or she'll just look down and think "creepy scottish fucker cannae take a bit of flirty banter without trying to ask me out" He has a way with words eh? Bit to "fonzy" perhaps?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 15:46 / #
Aye, tis nae bad fin ye whip oot the al Scots. Aye, the wee lassie soons like a braw wee quine. Fan ir ye gan back? Far ye fae btw? Hiv ye bided here lang?

MacduffThreads: 13 Posts: 86 Joined: Oct 30, 07	Dec 10, 08, 15:58 / #
fit r yi spikin about min yer nae fae roond danzig r yi?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 16:46 / #
Danzig, is at no a band fae somewye? Sult un sauce? Fit's at a aboot? Quine, LOL

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 17:05 / #
How about a corny line like, 'it looks like your trousers need washing, love?'. Then do the manly thing and whip 'em off. The rest, well, comes later.

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 15:36 / #
Should I translate it to Scottish? You said that you worried about it going "tits up". Well, if it doesn't go tits up and your efforts are met with some success, it's gonna be tits out. Gamble, take a pop. It wiz buggin yer heid that it'd gae tits up. Ach, awa, it's gonna be tits oot fir sure.

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 15:41 / #
That makes more sense now...cheers :)

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 16:00 / #
Ooooo...i hate the word quine...so east coastish! I take it you take salt and sauce too :S

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 16:52 / #
I preferred my title, this one makes me sound like a 14 year old...but I suppose it is a bit more relevant to the post. Anyway...quine...it's a rubbish word. But I don't plan on saying it to Laundry girl. So I reckon, I like my towel tumble dried from time to time...so I reckon head in when my towel needs cleaned, chat for a bit and ask her out for coffee. That's the plan.

polishgirltx	Dec 10, 08, 16:55 / #
Cardno85: this one makes me sound like a 14 year old. aren't you 14?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 16:57 / #
Nah, the wee laddie isnae 14 bit his loins hiv been stirrt. OK, back to English now. Ask her if she wants her stuff washed? LOL

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 16:59 / #
Nope, just act like it most of the time... ...and I can't read a girls "subtle signs" even when they smack me in the face. Really I wouldn't be sure unless she said something along the lines of "I just want to see our dirty laundry on your floor" and even then I'd have to think what she meant for a while. Regards Thick as Sh**

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07	Dec 10, 08, 16:59 / #
Cardno85: Cardno85 Is this new title better? ;)

polishgirltx	Edited by: polishgirltx Dec 10, 08, 17:02 / #
PolskaDoll: Is this new title better? ;) this is much better: Cardno85: How to be sure that a girl I met in the laundry basket likes me? ;)

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 17:09 / #
PolskaDoll: Is this new title better? ;) I prefer that one a bit...thank you kindly :)

polishgirltx	Dec 10, 08, 17:10 / #
Seanus: How about a corny line like he's gotta be careful if it's the only laundry place in town ...

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 17:12 / #
She might have a washing machine at her place ;)

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 17:15 / #
This is hilarious, it has gone from asking her out for coffee to whipping of her trousers in the laundry to breaking my washing machine, all the ones in the laundry and hoping that she asks me to hers to use her washing machine... ...dating advice PF style. I would have been better going to Jeremy Kyle!

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 17:18 / #
Progress must manifest itself somehow brethren. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just don't go in with Rab C Nesbitt attire and scupper your hopes.

Cardno85Threads: 33 Posts: 858 Joined: Jul 11, 08 MEMBER	Dec 10, 08, 17:20 / #
So week old sausages in my blazer pocket is not a good idea?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Dec 10, 08, 17:22 / #
Only 1 sausage will tickle her fan*y. Sorry, fancy isn't an outlawed word ;)