LIVE FORUMS / ARCHIVES / 2009
PolishForums - ARCHIVE Witamy in PolishForums Archive :
Archives / 2009 / Relationships, Marriage / posts: 9

TOLD TO SHOW "BETTER" SIDE



RomanaBrazilThreads: 2
Posts: 3
Joined: Apr 30, 09
  Apr 30, 09, 23:33 /  #
Greetings,
I am a 25yr. old African-American woman who has been involved with a 31yr. old Polish man since last Noember. We essentally hit it off right away and went out on many, many "casual dates." Only within the last couple of months have things taken a turn. We now find ourselves kissing (we both can't get enough). Right away I felt his passion behind his kiss and to be honest, I have never felt what I feel while kissing him with any other man. He is definately a true gentleman in every way that I can see. I was invited by him to a diner party and for the first time he introduced me as his girlfriend. OK, fine....now he seems to ask me many questoins about my mother and stepfather, usually about the inner dealings of their relationship....who does what...who takes care of this/that...do they have one bank account, etc. I have also noticed that he asks about my schooling (grad student) and my job. Finances seem to be on his mind for he has a regular job, as well as, an internet company. I wonder if he comes from money and/or if he believes that I have more than I actually do?? We are also on a husband/wife joke level..meaning he toasts to his "wife" (me) and I play along and say "husband." The qustions are getting more and more serious and I just do not know what he is thinking. Yesterday he asked me to show him a "better side," as if he did not like the sides that I have been displaying. What was this all about?? He tried to explain, but it still went over my head. Is this guy totally into me? I would say yes, but he leaves a little mystery. We talk everyday, morning, noon, and night...he always has 100 questions. SOMEONE PLEASE BE KIND ENOUGH TO SHARE....

whiteandproud   Apr 30, 09, 23:41 /  #
black people are not attractive so dont thnk he is physically attracted to you. It may be your personality.
KapustaThreads: 5
Posts: 120
Joined: Apr 29, 09
  May 1, 09, 00:34 /  #
RomanaBrazil:
OK, fine....now he seems to ask me many questoins about my mother and stepfather, usually about the inner dealings of their relationship....who does what...who takes care of this/that...do they have one bank account, etc.

Has he been in a serious relationship before? That statement above says he probably hasn't and he's asking you those questions because he feels he might be entering into one. What is his relationship history? Perhaps he's asking about your parents because he doesn't know much about his parents relationship, how they worked things. Is he living in a different country from his parents so it makes it difficult to ask them these sorts of relationship questions?

RomanaBrazil:
What was this all about?? He tried to explain, but it still went over my head.

What did he say when he tried to explain it?

Questions are nothing out of the ordinary, he wants to know everything about you and that's natural if he is into you, which I think he is.

Asking about finances is something that a person who worries about money does. Even some people with large bank accounts worry about money so he's probably checking out how sensible you are with money, you know, so that he knows you don't spend your entire wages on one pair of Jimmy Choos. ;)

Perhaps you need to starting asking HIM some questions of your own. Hope it all works out for you. :)
Pani_PolskaThreads: -
Posts: 94
Joined: Apr 27, 09
Edited by: Pani_Polska   May 1, 09, 00:46 /  #
RomanaBrazil:
Yesterday he asked me to show him a "better side," as if he did not like the sides that I have been displaying.

How is his english? He may have meant something which he wasnt able to articulately translate.. other than that, sounds serious! As long as you are comfortable maybe theres more in store for you!
theboywholivedThreads: 1
Posts: 20
Joined: Mar 5, 09
  May 1, 09, 05:27 /  #
@whiteandproud
Racist!



@RomanaBrazil
Maybe he just meant that few things he does not like abt you and you must change some habits. That's completely normal coz it's not possible that he likes everything abt you and vice versa.
There is no shame in changing a bit for the one u love ;) Just ask him frankly what he does not like about you.
Pani_PolskaThreads: -
Posts: 94
Joined: Apr 27, 09
  May 1, 09, 05:30 /  #
theboywholived:
@whiteandproud
Racist!

What gave it away? his name or his comments? Just ignore him
King SobieskiThreads: 7
Posts: 1,106
Joined: Jan 22, 07
Edited by: King Sobieski   May 1, 09, 05:54 /  #
RomanaBrazil:
Right away I felt his passion behind his kiss and to be honest

did it just rise from no where?

in response to your query, not all polish guys are alike like not every guy thinks the same way.

he just sounds like a control freak and no idea what he means by "show a better side".
Patrycja19Threads: 79
Posts: 3,974
Joined: Oct 31, 06
 Pictures: 1
  May 1, 09, 06:57 /  #
RomanaBrazil:
SOMEONE PLEASE BE KIND ENOUGH TO SHARE....

maybe hes hoping your feeling the same thing, like you want more serious relationship
I would doubt any man would refer to a woman he met a year ago as his wife if he
didnt really feel something, men in general dont refer to women as wifes until after
so many years of living together etc.. to me is sounds like hes wanting you to show
how you really feel, have you opened up to him? told him hey I think your the one?

hes asking alot of questions, I think if he wasnt asking I would be more worried.
I just think when he states your better side. hes prob more or less saying tell me to
how much you love me and want and need me.. thats important to any man or woman.

a clearer picture of how you feel. so maybe hes going to pop the question?
let us know if he does :)

whiteandproud:
black people are not attractive so dont thnk he is physically attracted to you. It may be your personality.

go lay on a beach , dry up and blow away
Pani_PolskaThreads: -
Posts: 94
Joined: Apr 27, 09
  May 1, 09, 09:10 /  #
Patrycja19:
go lay on a beach , dry up and blow away

Best comment I have read all week :)

Go UPtop of page


Similar discussions:

Similar to: TOLD TO SHOW "BETTER" SIDE
five-a-side football in warsaw - in /around Mokotow
Friendly game of football against English veteran side?
Friend told "just allow your son to forget Polish" by school.
Very Un-PC TV show (Ranczo)
Radom Air Show (popular in Poland)
Immigration: An Inconvenient Truth (UK show)
what does it take to organise/showcase a cultural show in poland
EU constitution: 'Strong show' for Irish No vote ?
Champions League 2009/10. Which Polish channels show it?
Poland 1939 - a great show and picnic in Yorkville on Sept 12.

Please I need advice. Are Polish Girls and Poland Westernizing for the worse?  Age difference in our relationship. I'm 41, my girlfriend is 27.

Random: Are you expert in UDP and Java?
Archives / 2009 / Relationships, Marriage /posts: 9


This forum is archived (read-only).
This thread is closed. You may not post a reply.
Category:
© 2005-2010 PolishForums.com | PolishForums LIVE | Archives | Random | Statistics