What you wanna tell your Ex-Boyfriend?

Ranj wrote:

Again, I believe there are no mistakes.....we learn from our experiences, good and bad....to quote an ex of my brother's when I ran into her at the grocery (5 years after they split)...."you know,"Ranj", I loved your brother for the person he was and how he treated me (like a lady), but I still had a lot to learn. What I found was a man who possessed every quality I could ever imagine (he was every guy I had ever met and liked, wrapped into one.....he was the "FULL PACKAGE"!)

poshnpinkThreads: 1 Posts: 20 Joined: Sep 6, 07	Feb 5, 08, 21:42 / #
I am sorry for ever hurting you... for making you believe I can take anything the world can blow on me as long as I have you... I am sorry for being scared to take chances with you... I'm sorry most of all for letting go.

beckskiThreads: 19 Posts: 2,148 Joined: May 15, 07 MEMBER	Feb 5, 08, 21:49 / #
poshnpink wrote: What you wanna tell your Ex-Boyfriend? Personally, I'd like to tell my ex-boyfriend to go to hell! A sincere thanks PF, for putting up with me FIVE terrific years, muah!

polishcanuckThreads: 10 Posts: 583 Joined: Feb 11, 07	Feb 5, 08, 21:54 / #
poshnpink wrote: I am sorry for ever hurting you... for making you believe I can take anything the world can blow on me as long as I have you... I am sorry for being scared to take chances with you... I'm sorry most of all for letting go. hmmm did you cheat on your b/f?

poshnpinkThreads: 1 Posts: 20 Joined: Sep 6, 07	Feb 5, 08, 22:00 / #
polishcanuck wrote: hmmm did you cheat on your b/f? No... its just hard to go on nurturing this feeling when after a year... we haven't even moved forward. Our situation is a little complex than the usual.

RanjThreads: 27 Posts: 1,286 Joined: Sep 29, 06	Feb 5, 08, 22:01 / #
To an ex way in the past.....nothing in this world is worth your life.....no matter what her mother said, at some point, she would have loved you for the wonderful person that you "were"......RIP, Jeremy!

polishgirltx	Feb 5, 08, 22:02 / #
poshnpink wrote: What you wanna tell your Ex-Boyfriend? waste of your time...

RanjThreads: 27 Posts: 1,286 Joined: Sep 29, 06	Feb 5, 08, 22:06 / #
polishgirltx wrote: waste of your time... No offence, polishgirltx, but no relationship is a "waste of time" as long as you learn from it:)

polishgirltx	Feb 5, 08, 22:10 / #
Ranj wrote: no relationship is a "waste of time" as long as you learn from it:) yes, i agree...i meant going back to the past; ex is the past... i've leaned that it's a waste of time... well, let's say - a mistake... :)

RanjThreads: 27 Posts: 1,286 Joined: Sep 29, 06	Feb 5, 08, 22:27 / #
polishgirltx wrote: ex is the past... i've leaned that it's a waste of time... well, let's say - a mistake... :) Again, I believe there are no mistakes.....we learn from our experiences, good and bad....to quote an ex of my brother's when I ran into her at the grocery (5 years after they split)...."you know,"Ranj", I loved your brother for the person he was and how he treated me (like a lady), but I still had a lot to learn. What I found was a man who possessed every quality I could ever imagine (he was every guy I had ever met and liked, wrapped into one.....he was the "FULL PACKAGE"!)

polishgirltx	Feb 5, 08, 22:32 / #
yes, every experience supposed to make us wiser... but if we learn from our mistakes, why to open something what was closed already....ahhh....i lost my thought....

poshnpinkThreads: 1 Posts: 20 Joined: Sep 6, 07	Feb 5, 08, 22:33 / #
Dwelling in the past is a mistake... looking back to it is not. I'm sorry if some of you wont agree, but there are things in life I wish i can undo... or change... coz I'm not perfect ;-) Though knowing that I cant, I just make sure that I end every chapter of my life in the most graceful way possible. Just so one day, if my ex bf wants to waste his time and reminisce, I wont be remembered as a selfish biatch who cares not about other's feelings.

CryptoThreads: 1 Posts: 41 Joined: Nov 10, 06	Feb 6, 08, 03:53 / #
Well, my first boyfriend, so lets call him my first ex, is marrying the girl he had before me. But thinking back, Im not sure he really left her when he was with me, so he was playing us both. So realy, I dont know what to say to him, to tell the truth, I would rather not speak to him at all.

CryptoThreads: 1 Posts: 41 Joined: Nov 10, 06	Feb 6, 08, 05:00 / #
Well, the topic does say ex-boyfriend. =P

michal85Threads: 1 Posts: 18 Joined: Feb 1, 08	Edited by: michal85 Feb 6, 08, 11:09 / #
scot wrote: I agree with you there polishgirltx...an ex boy or girlfriend should be left in the past, and that door closed shut. There is no need to shut people out of your life. If things don't work out, then that doesn't mean you still can't be friends just to share warm emotional attachment. Unless someone does something really bad to hurt you, then they deserve to be isolated.

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,834 Joined: Dec 23, 06	Feb 6, 08, 00:17 / #
poshnpink wrote: I am sorry for ever hurting you... for making you believe I can take anything the world can blow on me as long as I have you... I am sorry for being scared to take chances with you... I'm sorry most of all for letting go. That's a very nice thing to say. Not everyone gets to hear "I'm sorry" from the one who hurt them.

RanjThreads: 27 Posts: 1,286 Joined: Sep 29, 06	Feb 6, 08, 04:41 / #
Hmmmm, just an observation, but has anyone else noticed that the only ones that have responded to this thread are female? (except for Polishcanuck, who was just asking if someone cheated.....I guess men really are from Mars and women are from Venus).

scotThreads: - Posts: 8 Joined: Dec 27, 07	Feb 6, 08, 11:04 / #
polishgirltx wrote: yes, i agree...i meant going back to the past; ex is the past... i've leaned that it's a waste of time... well, let's say - a mistake... :) I agree with you there polishgirltx...an ex boy or girlfriend should be left in the past, and that door closed shut.

scotThreads: - Posts: 8 Joined: Dec 27, 07	Feb 6, 08, 11:16 / #
michal85 wrote: There is no need to shut people out of your life. If it did not work out, there was a reason for it. Why carry emotional baggage in to a new relationship?, it is time to let go of the past.

lowfunk99Threads: 18 Posts: 435 Joined: Jan 7, 08	Feb 6, 08, 11:20 / #
Out of the 5 or 6 people I have dated in my life I am only Friends with one of them. Ranj wrote: Again, I believe there are no mistakes.....we learn from our experiences, good and bad....to quote an ex of my brother's when I ran into her at the grocery (5 years after they split)...."you know,"Ranj", I loved your brother for the person he was and how he treated me (like a lady), but I still had a lot to learn. What I found was a man who possessed every quality I could ever imagine (he was every guy I had ever met and liked, wrapped into one.....he was the "FULL PACKAGE"!) I agree with this totally. Both people can love each other but they have to be at the same stage of readiness for the relation to move forward. I think one of the reasons it works for me and my g/f is that we are both at the same stage and want the same things. I think what poshnpink is trying to do is have some closure so she can move on. This is not always possible. Sometimes the best thing to do is to 'let go'.

MareGaeaThreads: 45 Posts: 5,527 Joined: Feb 6, 08	Feb 6, 08, 11:51 / #
Nothing - I don't talk or go out with exes; it has been nice and now it's over, past tense, no more. There is no point playing on in extra-time...even when it was nice...You will always feel that agonizing nagging in your brain: "what if..." and at some point even a mild form of jealousy when he/she has a new partner: that could've been me if things worked out. Well they didn't, that's why you have broken up. It's as simple as that. Like said, there is no point in playing on in extra-time. M-G (exceptions do the rule)

szkotja2007Threads: 38 Posts: 2,544 Joined: Dec 29, 06	Feb 6, 08, 13:08 / #
Ranj wrote: I loved your brother for the person he was and how he treated me (like a lady), but I still had a lot to learn. What I found was a man who possessed every quality I could ever imagine (he was every guy I had ever met and liked, wrapped into one.....he was the "FULL PACKAGE"!) Ranj wrote: I guess men really are from Mars and women are from Venus Must be, I dont understand the moral of the story...... She dumped your bro and found a guy that was the full package ? Your bro was the nice guy ? She had to dump him to find a bad guy before she realised her mistake ? Too confusing !!!

RanjThreads: 27 Posts: 1,286 Joined: Sep 29, 06	Feb 6, 08, 23:33 / #
szkotja2007 wrote: I dont understand the moral of the story...... The moral of the story is that life is a process......we live and learn (hopefully) :)

poshnpinkThreads: 1 Posts: 20 Joined: Sep 6, 07	Feb 7, 08, 00:07 / #
Ranj wrote: we live and learn (hopefully) :) True. And part of the learning process is admitting when we are at fault and ensuring to not commit the same mistakes with those who will get involved with in the future ^_^

Wyspianska	Feb 7, 08, 02:11 / #
poshnpink wrote: What you wanna tell your Ex-Boyfriend? Leave me alone finaly ! : )

impamiizThreads: - Posts: 15 Joined: Jan 7, 08	Feb 18, 08, 20:12 / #
I was young and stupid and want you back :( But obviously still stupid because every time you give me a chance I run away. I'm scared of dissapointing you. Annnd you're the hottest Polish guy to walk this Earth. In fact, hottest guy full stop :). And the kindest, sweetest, funniest (when you want to be), and I'm sorry we couldn't talk about our problems before I again, just ran away. And I hope we never lose touch. And did you or did you not fancy my best friend?! It doesn't even matter anymore, I just want him to know that I care and cared a lot more than I showed. :) p.s. reflecting on the past is never a bad thing - if you think that then it suggest you might NEED to, as there are obviously some underlying unresolved issues you don't wish to face...?

slt113Threads: - Posts: 1 Joined: May 5, 09	May 5, 09, 04:02 / #
That i miss you very much. Anytime anything good happens, i have no one to share it with. That i do not believe I will ever love another again. Its been 5 years. That i'm scared for you to marry that girl, not out of jealousy. You will not believe anything I've told you, i've tried, and it wasn't just to get you back. That i will love you forever...and always. Wish i could change that, but i've tried hating you, it just doesn't work :(.

NathanThreads: 33 Posts: 1,846 Joined: Feb 13, 09	May 5, 09, 04:14 / #
slt113: That i miss you very much. Anytime anything good happens, i have no one to share it with. That i do not believe I will ever love another again. Its been 5 years. That i'm scared for you to marry that girl, not out of jealousy. You will not believe anything I've told you, i've tried, and it wasn't just to get you back. That i will love you forever...and always. Wish i could change that, but i've tried hating you, it just doesn't work :(. I miss someone I lived with for 7 years. It is 2 years that we are separate, but I would give my life just for her to be with me for a couple of days. I tried hatred, reasoning, forgetting... - it doesn't work, because even in hatred I hate myself not her.

pgtxThreads: 49 Posts: 6,327 Joined: Feb 14, 09 MEMBER	May 5, 09, 04:17 / #
Nathan: I tried hatred, reasoning, forgetting... - it doesn't work you can't fool your heart...

NathanThreads: 33 Posts: 1,846 Joined: Feb 13, 09	May 5, 09, 04:25 / #
pgtx: you can't fool your heart... I know - you have only one.

MiryaThreads: - Posts: 8 Joined: May 12, 09	May 13, 09, 15:58 / #
I would wanna say thanks. If it wasn't for him I would never have met my now other half...