How do you dump a girl and go out with her best mate?

ShelleyS:

He should dump present g/f (as it's not really fair on her) and wait at least a month (kind of a notice period) and then get friendly with the new love interest (to see if she is actually interested)...all inoccent like :)

shewolf:

He should hire a very handsome man to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend. The handsome man should do every possible thing to lure her awayand make her dump her boyfriend. The boyfriend (your friend) should act heartbroken and seek advice from her best friend and say things like "where did I go wrong?" and "am I handsome to you?" The best friend will feel needed, important, and she'll comfort him...

Daisy:

'My best friend just dumped her loser boyfriend for someone else, now he's pestering me, how do i get rid of him'

VaFunkoolo:

Been there. Done that. Recipe for disaster. Stick with internet porn. Life will be so much easier

zoogleThreads: 6 Posts: 47 Joined: Nov 21, 07 Gender: Male	Jul 23, 08, 23:24 / #31
I've too have a "friend" that was in your shoes before and succeeded to get with said ex's friend. In hindsight the only reason she was so attractive to him is because she was "off-limits", like the apple in the garden of eden. In hindsight, she wasn't even that special, and the relationship didn't last that long. Like they always say "Grass is greener on the other side".

Patrycja19Threads: 64 Posts: 3,130 Joined: Oct 31, 06 Gender: Female	Jul 23, 08, 23:34 / #32
well I think this is like a j-geils problem.. she loves him and he loves her, and she loves someone else, you just cant win and so it goes till the day you die,, this thing they call love is gonna make you cry... Ive had the blues, the reds and the pinks... one thing for sure is.... love stinks!!! Love stinks, Hell ya.. love stinks..

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,614 Joined: Aug 10, 06 Gender: Female	Jul 23, 08, 23:43 / #33
Patrycja19: Love stinks, Hell ya.. love stinks.. oh yeah, it sure does. Better to be a zombie The person who wrote that "it's better to have love and lost, than love at all" was on drugs.

Patrycja19Threads: 64 Posts: 3,130 Joined: Oct 31, 06 Gender: Female	Jul 23, 08, 23:56 / #34
krysia: oh yeah, it sure does. Better to be a zombie in certain circumstances,, lol.. but in what Seanbm is asking, it sucks big time cause theres a girl code of honor.. I had a ex friend do the same to me and she only did it because it was fun.. needless to say , in the end, her karma came back around.. but it wasnt me who did it. krysia: The person who wrote that "it's better to have love and lost, than love at all" was on drugs. well, I dont like losing anyone, but I do know I wouldnt trade lost love of my parents, family members whom I loved very much and still do and lost them. ex's,, well, I can say I learned from the mistakes. I think when you meet a person, you kinda have a idea already what you match with,, and dont match with, so why is this guy going out with someone he doesnt match with?? just because? get some ? then go and have some more with her friend.. hes gonna end up with some problems ( karma) so best to just move on to a new relationship... smartest suggestion.. cause it could get ugly... so to speak.

krysiaThreads: 26 Posts: 3,614 Joined: Aug 10, 06 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 00:02 / #35
Patrycja19: in the end, her karma came back around.. Yes. What comes around goes around. You be deceitful and lie and the same will happen to you.

DaisyThreads: 6 Posts: 1,440 Joined: Apr 28, 07 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 00:06 / #36
PolskaDoll: The fact is, no girl will go out with her best friends ex immediately (unless she is not a true friend). So the guy might end up with no one Totally agree with PD on that one. I remember a friend's bf coming up to me and saying "I'm going out with the wrong one, it's you I should be with"....I immediately went and told my friend, she dumped him..he ended up with no one....years later my friend and I are still the best of friends, he's way out of the picture.

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,311 Joined: Dec 23, 06 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 01:11 / #37
I think he should ask advice from his girlfriend. I'm sure she'll help him decide how to do this.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,649 Joined: Jun 26, 07 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 02:25 / #38
Sloppy seconds, I dont have any friends that have ever done that - that's not to say it's wrong though. He should dump present g/f (as it's not really fair on her) and wait at least a month (kind of a notice period) and then get friendly with the new love interest (to see if she is actually interested)...all inoccent like :)

shewolfThreads: 5 Posts: 1,311 Joined: Dec 23, 06 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 02:47 / #39
He should hire a very handsome man to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend. The handsome man should do every possible thing to lure her away and make her dump her boyfriend. The boyfriend (your friend) should act heartbroken and seek advice from her best friend and say things like "where did I go wrong?" and "am I handsome to you?" The best friend will feel needed, important, and she'll comfort him...

DaisyThreads: 6 Posts: 1,440 Joined: Apr 28, 07 Gender: Female	Edited by: Daisy Jul 24, 08, 04:21 / #40
And meanwhile the best friend has started a thread on PFs 'My best friend just dumped her loser boyfriend for someone else, now he's pestering me, how do i get rid of him'

JustysiaSThreads: 12 Posts: 2,689 Joined: Oct 14, 07 Gender: Female GOLD MEMBER	Jul 24, 08, 07:04 / #49
i still haven't got the answer to my question whether the best mate fancies your 'friend' back? the 'friend' can't just expect to walk away from his gf, hang on for a month and ask the best mate out. i bet that she will be just as p*ssed off with the 'friend' of yours as the ex (if of course she truly is a best mate). is there a so called spark between the best mate and the 'friend'? there is no easy way out, the girls are obviously close, the ex will probably be still heartbroken. that might ruin their friendship. there is no easy way out of this, i recommend to end the relationship now and see what happens, how the gf will actually take it, maybe she's fed up with your friend as well, maybe she also fancies their mate?? sorted! lol

DaisyThreads: 6 Posts: 1,440 Joined: Apr 28, 07 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 07:06 / #50
JustysiaS: i still haven't got the answer to my question whether the best mate fancies your 'friend' back? When an attractive woman walks into a room, every man in the room thinks she's looking at him.

miranda	Jul 24, 08, 07:09 / #51
Daisy: When an attractive woman walks into a room, every man in the room thinks she's looking at him. he, he......maybe the friend needs a reality check?

JustysiaSThreads: 12 Posts: 2,689 Joined: Oct 14, 07 Gender: Female GOLD MEMBER	Jul 24, 08, 07:12 / #52
Daisy: When an attractive woman walks into a room, every man in the room thinks she's looking at him. now how pathetic is that? yeah that's the way to go, i fancy someone so they must obviously fancy me back. if they don't there is something seriously wrong with them! geez... they do need a reality check, miranda...

davidpeakeThreads: 18 Posts: 515 Joined: Nov 7, 06 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 04:32 / #41
sounds like a job for Jerry Springer..

VaFunkooloThreads: 7 Posts: 823 Joined: Mar 24, 08 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 04:35 / #42
SeanBM: How do you dump a girl and go out with her best mate? Been there. Done that. Recipe for disaster. Stick with internet porn. Life will be so much easier

SeanBMThreads: 35 Posts: 6,253 Joined: Mar 10, 08 Gender: Male	Edited by: SeanBM Jul 24, 08, 04:54 / #43
ShelleyS: He should dump present g/f (as it's not really fair on her) and wait at least a month (kind of a notice period) and then get friendly with the new love interest (to see if she is actually interested)...all inoccent like :) Ok now we are getting a plan of action together. Plan "A" "The month", four weeks seems to be the required period of time? shewolf: He should hire a very handsome man to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend. The handsome man should do every possible thing to lure her awayand make her dump her boyfriend. The boyfriend (your friend) should act heartbroken and seek advice from her best friend and say things like "where did I go wrong?" and "am I handsome to you?" The best friend will feel needed, important, and she'll comfort him... Also an interesting alternative, Plan "B" "rent a stud" Daisy: 'My best friend just dumped her loser boyfriend for someone else, now he's pestering me, how do i get rid of him' Yes, good point, the difference between making the friend feel needed, important, and she'll comfort him... and pestering her. A balanced approach is required. VaFunkoolo: Been there. Done that. Recipe for disaster. Stick with internet porn. Life will be so much easier Ha ha ha ha. Does that go for all relationships or just the ones when you dump your gf and hook up with her mate? I will tell my "friend" what you have all suggested. I am sure it will all end in tears too. Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07 Gender: Female [Moderator]	Jul 24, 08, 05:50 / #44
Daisy: I remember a friend's bf coming up to me Nightmare. It happened to me too. I had a friend, I was visiting her one evening and she was delayed from work so I was just sitting there, talking to her boyfriend when he said "Glynis (not real name ;) is not the girl for me PD". So I felt in a dilemma then because Glynis is my friend but I asked him why and he said "because I think I'm in love with you." I said it wouldn't happen. I told Glynis though and she didn't believe me. So we fell out, then she split up with her boyfriend anyway a few weeks later. She made a vague effort to be friends again. She was slightly nutty anyway - the last time I saw her she was tottering around Edinburgh with a small dog under her arm and pretending to be Paris Hilton.

SeanBMThreads: 35 Posts: 6,253 Joined: Mar 10, 08 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 06:11 / #45
Patrycja19: cause theres a girl code of honor.. What is the girl code of honour??? PolskaDoll: Nightmare. It happened to me too. Has it ever happened to anyone the other way round?. A girl wants to go with her bf's best friend.

PolskaDollThreads: 44 Posts: 4,134 Joined: Jun 15, 07 Gender: Female [Moderator]	Jul 24, 08, 06:13 / #46
SeanBM: Has it ever happened to anyone the other way round?. A girl wants to go with her bf's best friend. Misty wrote about it here. :)

miranda	Edited by: miranda Jul 24, 08, 06:13 / #47
SeanBM: What is the girl code of honour??? when one's bf tries to pick the other one up, she will tell her friend. Don't men do it? sorry, would your friend do it?

DaisyThreads: 6 Posts: 1,440 Joined: Apr 28, 07 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 06:58 / #48
SeanBM: Yes, good point, the difference between making the friend feel needed, important, and she'll comfort him... and pestering her. A balanced approach is required. New thread for PFs 'My best friend has just been dumped by her loser boyfriend, now the creep is coming to me for sympathy WTF!'

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,649 Joined: Jun 26, 07 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 07:12 / #53
SeanBM: What is the girl code of honour??? No going where a friend has been - wrong on too many levels...

VaFunkooloThreads: 7 Posts: 823 Joined: Mar 24, 08 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 07:12 / #54
JustysiaS: i fancy someone so they must obviously fancy me back. if they don't there is something seriously wrong with them! geez... Probably lesbians

SeanBMThreads: 35 Posts: 6,253 Joined: Mar 10, 08 Gender: Male	Edited by: SeanBM Jul 24, 08, 07:18 / #55
JustysiaS: whether the best mate fancies your 'friend' back? Yeah i suppose so. Daisy: i recommend to end the relationship now Obviously, ending the relation ship is on the cards, how do you recommend doing it in a way that he won't mess up his chances with her mate? ending the relationship might be the best way or is it....

DaisyThreads: 6 Posts: 1,440 Joined: Apr 28, 07 Gender: Female	Jul 24, 08, 07:30 / #56
SeanBM: Daisy: i recommend to end the relationship now I never said that! VaFunkoolo: Probably lesbians Yep, I've been accused of that one as well

SeanBMThreads: 35 Posts: 6,253 Joined: Mar 10, 08 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 07:37 / #57
Daisy: I never said that! But you were thinking it? Excuse me, you are right, you never said that.

plk123Threads: 28 Posts: 6,239 Joined: Aug 29, 07 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 10:21 / #58
SeanBM: SeanBM best thread on here, ever. lol

sledzThreads: 27 Posts: 2,987 Joined: Sep 19, 06 Gender: Male	Edited by: sledz Jul 24, 08, 10:32 / #59
How do you dump a girl and go out with her best mate? Tell him right away, Bro`s B4 Ho`s..dawg

SeanBMThreads: 35 Posts: 6,253 Joined: Mar 10, 08 Gender: Male	Jul 24, 08, 10:39 / #60
plk123: best thread on here, ever. lol LOL it is making me laugh. P.S. I am not my "friend", not that any of you would believe that anyway. I am much too boring for that kind of carry on. P.S.S. Nobody has suggested a monajatwa yet.