WHY DO YOUNGER POLES FEAR MARRIAGE?

ShawnH:

Can't say that it is a uniquely Polish phenomenon. Many kids today want to finish school, bum around for a year, start and get well established in a career before they settle down. There are so many more women in the workforce now (compared to 40 years ago...), and in more senior positions in corporations. They feel the need to out-compete men, just to be seen as "on the same level as them", that time devoted to family falls by the wayside. This is common in Canada and the US.

Polonius3:

Do they suspect the opposite sex of being gold-diggers (after them for their money, citizenship) or what?

Polonius3Threads: 1,005 Posts: 4,833 Joined: Apr 11, 08	Jul 5, 09, 11:57 / #
What is the reason behind the fear of and/or resistance to marriage or even any long-term commitment on the part of a growing number of younger Poles? Do they suspect the opposite sex of being gold-diggers (after them for their money, citizenship) or what? What is behind the overall change in attiude towards marriage over recent decades?

SeanusThreads: 22 Posts: 30,158 Joined: Dec 25, 07	Jul 5, 09, 12:03 / #
Marriage denies them mobility to some extent. Also, it isn't that cheap, all things included. However, Pol3, many do get married young.

ShawnHThreads: 9 Posts: 3,056 Joined: Jul 2, 09	Edited by: ShawnH Jul 5, 09, 13:49 / #
Can't say that it is a uniquely Polish phenomenon. Many kids today want to finish school, bum around for a year, start and get well established in a career before they settle down. There are so many more women in the workforce now (compared to 40 years ago...), and in more senior positions in corporations. They feel the need to out-compete men, just to be seen as "on the same level as them", that time devoted to family falls by the wayside. This is common in Canada and the US.

ShelleySThreads: 18 Posts: 3,647 Joined: Jun 26, 07	Jul 5, 09, 21:49 / #
Polonius3: (after them for their money, citizenship) Why would a Polish person be after another Polish person for citizenship?

frdThreads: 8 Posts: 1,956 Joined: Feb 3, 09	Jul 5, 09, 21:55 / #
ShelleyS: Why would a Polish person be after another Polish person for citizenship? Having 2 is always better than 1...

polishcanuckThreads: 10 Posts: 583 Joined: Feb 11, 07	Jul 5, 09, 23:41 / #
ShawnH: Can't say that it is a uniquely Polish phenomenon. Many kids today want to finish school, bum around for a year, start and get well established in a career before they settle down. There are so many more women in the workforce now (compared to 40 years ago...), and in more senior positions in corporations. They feel the need to out-compete men, just to be seen as "on the same level as them", that time devoted to family falls by the wayside. This is common in Canada and the US. Yes, shawn is right. In canada the average age of marriage now is somewhere between 29-33, while some 50 years ago it was in the low 20's. People in their 20's (both men/women) are also working on finding a career and they want to spend these best years of their lives travelling, having fun, etc. Statistically the earlier a couple marries, the higher the probability of divorce is. Polonius3: Do they suspect the opposite sex of being gold-diggers (after them for their money, citizenship) or what? ShelleyS: Why would a Polish person be after another Polish person for citizenship? This mostly applies to polish women's desperation in marrying a foreigner, not pole-pole marriage.