Behaviour of users looking for relationship

I get a little bit bored with seeing the same things over and over - do people not understand that a nationality does not dictate the way one person acts. To simplify this; Women will be what they want to be, being Polish or English or American has very little bearing on this. I understand that people are looking for answers but I think if you are in a bad relationship move on dont look to blame this on a nation or to seek answers from people who do not really hold the answers. Reasurance / answers come from dialauge from the person you are involved with in your apparent unhappiness. Men and Women are all different, good and bad behaviour is prevalent in all walkes of life.

The End.

Amathyst you ok?

Im good thanks honey, you?...I felt the need to post because people seem to blaming nations and not the person...

I can understand your frustration Amathyst. People come here with questions about their relationship with polish women or men, which should be addressed to their gf or bf directly. Instead, they somehow try to associate or explain their partner's behavior to being polish. Unless, posting is treated as therapeutic experience? :)
You know, it helps when you write down your relationship troubles on paper (well, the screen, in this case)

True. Some could try looking at themselves.

Amen!

yeesch i know! puzzlers arguements with me in particular - he felt i was discriminating him because he was a pole, that i was polonophobic et cetra et cetra.

when all it was, were his individual posts.

now, if he himself 'was' the nation poland - well then he would be correct but i dont imagine he represents 40plus million people

good call A

Daffy, it is your strong understanding that there is little difference between people per se, and nationality/culture that is such an asset to the forum. When someone says something racist, you are usually one of the first posters to "call it out", and redirect.

I know get get weary of repaeating yourself, time and time again, but I think it helps people to understand when you really spell it out with a case in point. And each time you do this, there are different people around, so your message isn't necessarily going down the drain.

I also admire Matyjasz for his cool, centered approach to those that insult and provoke. He is like someone sitting outside enjoying a drink, while some pesky gnat buzzes around his head. The gnat may be annoying, but it won't stop Maty from enjoying his drink. And if it gets too close, he'll just smile, and flick it away, and have another sip. :)

When someone wants to provoke, they want you to "play" along with them. Its just NO FUN if you won't join in, so they have to provoke someone else. Eventually they catch someone with a short fuse, and the interchange is off to a fine start! I try to change the subject, or ask another question to seek out the underlying motivation.

In the case of the DontCallMe/Becksi exchange: I think DCM is Adelup, cause they already crossed blades. Then DMC picks up right where Adelup left off, with no apparent reason for the attack.

could you quantify your statement please A i think there is more to it than that...

I think my post was quite clear Mr B, I dont have the time nor the inclination to write a essay on the above matter I was merely making a point that was short and to the point. nationality does not make a person act in one way or another.

THE ORIGINAL TITLE WAS "BEHAVIOUR" AND NOT THE NOW SHOWN TITLE OF THIS POST

Probably every person seeking a polish girl instead of seeking simply a girl is a twat.

i believe that nationality and individuals are not neccessarily linked. I am an Irishman BUT i do not fit into the Irish stereotype for eg

thanks for thekind words though SG :) as always, a star

So everybody who writes sth about polish mentality for example shows bad behaviour?
Is it a matter of behaviour?

I dont think thats what we are talking about - its not what i am talking about

simply whoever you are, whereever you are from, the fact you post good or bad things on this forum is nothing to do with your nation but your own individual experiences and it is these and no other consideration is taken when reading your posts (for eg) and determining if they follow the TOS of PF.com

for sure, I would say most of the time.
easier said than done. I try to avoid reading those posts. It seems to work.

then you are wrong A... whilst nationality does not a person make it undeniably moulds them to who they are...

Whilst it can influence, it does not make them who they are....one of my x's was from a very wealthy family and had all the advantages most people only dream of, his sister is a respectable teacher and he is probably doing another prison term...you see I believe that we make our own choices and that we cannot generalise about a nation...we're all individuals - I had a strict catholic upbringing, but Im an English women so if all that is said about English women is true that would me an overweight floosy who binge drinks, which couldnt be further from truth....

true... but whilst we are not all stereotypes, this doesnt mean that they dont exist and that braod generalisations do not hold some truth...

individual groups, nationalities, religious, male/female even, will hold characteristics that are unique, prevelant to the individual group...

My whole point to this post was because I was tired of reading "is it a trait that Polish women cheat" I personlly dont think nationality has anything to do with that, that was my point Bub and only that, its all down to who that individual is and not what nationality they are...

thats what i thought you were saying... and i gotta disagree...

whilst i am not saying that its a trait that polish women cheat, just as english woman are not overweight binge drinkers, there are traits within all nationalities that are more prevelent than in others... whatever these may be...

anyway...



i dont know the answer to this question... but there seems to be no shortage of people who seem to think it is... perhaps somebody could offer an explanation of why this might be the case, and why so many people hold this opinion...

this might help clear the matter up once and for all

[quote=BubbaWoo]

i dont know the answer to this question... but there seems to be no shortage of people who seem to think it is... perhaps somebody could offer an explanation of why this might be the case, and why so many people hold this opinion...

It is easy to explain.The point is if you are allowed to do so without breaking the rules of the good behaviour.

please expand on this southern... are you suggesting that polish woman view cheating as within the bounds of acceptable behaviour or have i misunderstood...?

No.What Amathyst says is you cannot write about polish women cheating because this is bad behaviour towards the nation,you can write only about women cheating.You cannot write about english women being fat because it is disgraceful to english nation.You can only write about your gf who is fat etc.No generalization,no national references,no heavy political discussions.If you do not do so,personal attacks folow since you are supposed to have broken the rules of decent discussion and you lose respect.Now you get it?
It is like people are not animals to watch them and make remarks how they grow,fertilize,socialize.You should respect and not bring up such issues.There is some culture here.

I understand your point Bubs...but I still dont believe that cheating is a national thing with Polish women Im sure that for the 1 Polish woman that cheats and her b/f comes on here telling the whole world, there are 10 that are in happy loving relationships, you can't tar them all with the same brush....I just think its silly, I dont know what experiences you have had with Polish women, Im guessing not good, but thats just bad luck but it doesnt mean that they all are the same.

i have not talked about my own personal experiences of polish woman on here and wont... but when more an more people post about there experiences on here i start to wonder if my experiences were "just bad luck"... just as when i walk thru my local town centre i wonder if fat beer swilling english woman are just more than a couple of individuals...



you cheeky little newbie c*nt...

I can agree with cheating not being nation specific. I think temptation exists everywhere and it's the individuals own control. People lack self control everywhere. I've been cheated on by an American and a Portuguese girl...I don't feel that it's more common for women from these 2 nations to cheat.

Nah...we have these in the US. I've always pictured there being more proper English women then slobs. But, I've never been to my homeland either. Whatever anyway......They're like biker chicks. Always a top party mate ;)

exaclty... and most americans will admit that their country has an obiesity problem...



i havent said that cheating is nation specific... what i have said is that some traits or more visible in some groups than others

Have you seen the light or something. You are the same person who generalised upon the whole of Eastern European women's approach to relationship and sex aren't you or have you been the victim of identity theft?

In English there is an expression 'the pot calls the kettle black'. You fit it exactly.