Behaviour of users looking for relationship

I would be upset too if someone launched a seemingly unprovoked scathing attack on me but <IMHO> sometimes i believe it's about how we present ourselves in a forum. If you are seen as being confrontational , you become fair game for every driveby confrontational troll (or worse, one of your so called forum friends could be the one assuming an alias to bring you down a peg or two) .
Take the two replies below for example: One of them oozes sarcasm while the other is light hearted humor.


I don't wish to make the situation worse but i would like to point out that one of the core rules of netiquette says typing in capital letters in a forum means you're shouting.



thanks :)

well that would be up to them to be honest now wouldnt it :)))






point taken, but again, she is new, probably getting a feel for the atmosphere.
I think all of us have had confrontational moments at some point, so its basically
a learning process we must endure.. at the same time, she had every right to
defend..

shopgirl

I am not DCM!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you say so, but please, please don't fight today, OK?
Please, please, please...
let's talk about something happier! :)
OK?

rightly so.

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Why Polish men cheat ?

Hi ,

I am from India and working here in europe, and was getting to know a well educated Polish man. We stay in different countries in Europe. We got to know each other in one of the seminars.

Later he tried to contact me on chat. We have been chatting for almost 6 months. We have visited each other.
I had some family issues, he helped in that.. Later he proposed me to come and stay with him. I told that there are lot of cultural differences. But he kept insisting me... He told me that he does not have anybody, and he is single. But when i recently visited his place, by mistake, i found, he has still contact with his gal friends and he exchanges some cryptic sms, chat and mail messages with them. When asked abt it, he says it is not mistake to keep in touch with his previous gal friends.. And recetly he went to Poland to visit his family, he used to cut the phone ... and everytime, he has some reasons to defend the same...
Now when i chat, he looks busy with someother things, may be he wants to talk with his other friends..When i kept asking abt this, he gets irritated and he said, "since i was telling that, there is cultural differences and so many other reasons and since i had broken down on this" he does not want me as gal friend any more....
I am not able to understand him ... I think, his girl friend is trying to find the job in his country and may be i,e the reason ?
i cannot understand why sudden change in him ?

thanks a lot for any of your opinions ....

Thanks,
Sulatha

See behavour thread and you will see that it is not only Polish but men from all nationalities, Im sure even Indian men do it.

I would throw him to the curb... slang for forget him!

when you are exculsive with someone, it goes both ways, he cant have his
cake and eat it too, meaning its ok for him to have you and some other girls
as well.

The one thing that is so freakin irritating is. all these people who are so special
that stick with one man or one woman, they dont cheat, they dont hurt others
and those are the ones who get stomped on all the time!!

when does it click in? when does this stop? how many more have to get hurt by
one idiots actions? if a man or woman is cheating, then leave them!!
if they are doing something you suspect, well you dont trust them, obviously
this isnt something new. so frickin loose the baggage!! dont let someone bring you
down with them!! thats their soul purpose, because they did something wrong
and they never meant to hurt you. but they did, and they did it not thinking it would
hurt?? so in turn, they carry the burden, and so does the person they hurt, because
they truely loved each other, yet, later on it will happen again. temptation is all
around us!

i have hear those same words, i never meant it, but someone before my husband
and I wrote this long poem, which made me feel better, because my anger was at
him, but he didnt deserve my anger, he didnt deserve anything from me.. not even
me gracing his life!

love is a two way street, why take the one way road and give give give?

and dont get me wrong here, its ok to give, but in certain circumstances, the foot
must go down!! enoughs enough!!

Sulatha, dont even mess with this guy anymore. if he cant be strait with you dont
waste your time with him, life has enough paths we have to follow, dont follow
the one that leads you to hurtful emotions, this is something we have control over
and if we choose to follow it, its our own doing.

we do learn by our mistakes, and the beginning of the mistake is showing itself,
dont crawl further into the hole.. tell him to have a nice life, and hope you grow
up soon.

a woman or man will cheat regardless of nationality. You cant blame a nation for this. Every country has its problems in varying degrees

They say that black man cheat more than any other race.loll

who is 'they'?

yur not allowed to know who they are :P or they will have to kill you

of course everyone is different ... and i agree that we always need to look at persons and not nationalities ... but the culture has a great influence on how we behave ... so also where you come from will have an impact ... noo ???

I agree with your stance on this snow. Peoples beliefs and moral is partially responsible for the actions they make. Some countries treat their women different and this treatment would effect relationships.

yes. that is why us Prarie folk are slow talkers

Completely true thought - I was reading a finnish website a while back and they were moaning in one thread about how unfaithful the women were. In another, how the men cheat.

Cheats are cheats. If you're fascinated by these edgy, dangerous people, they you get what you deserve. :)

Quite right. It does not matter what nationality you are everyone has that choice to say no. If you are in an exclusive relationship, then you should not be tempted.

Someone usually gets hurt when anyone cheats.... men cheat , women cheat.

However, there is something to be said about some cultures where it is acceptable to have a mistress? Some religions allow you to have more than one wife.

A cheat is someone that cheats in a relationship when the other person believes it is exclusive. This betrayal of trust is the damaging factor.

It must be literally a serious problem in poland...a serious lack of fun, interesting guys...for you to be posting a thread that got STICKIED about why so many guys are asking if its natural for polish women to cheat!

I guess this means more women for me.

Most, if not all, of the guys asking about Polish girls are not Polish..........so you might want to read a little slower. Why would Polish guys ask about girls they are around all the time.

And absolutely the hardest thing to win back. Trust and faith are some of the primary things a good relationship live on; take away trust -- I can't imagine a healthy relationship surviving.



Never understood those misogynistic cultures, but then again - it take three to cheat. I read in a BBC article that nearly a quarter of married people in Britain (in the poll) found their spouses by poaching them from another man or woman. If they see value in a person by whom they're with, the attraction grows stronger for some.

everyone looking for mates on here have to get up off of their asses and hit the gym...


pretty easy when you are in shape.


I used to be fat and it wasn't easy pickin up women but now, they seem to fall in my lap :) LOL j/k

I'm not supprised if thats your pic Goonie :-)

It's easier said then done though.
I would love to beable to go to the gym and get fit, as i need someone to push me to do exercise. At home i'll lay on the floor to do sit ups and then just lay there OOPS!!!
I'm a single mum so money is tight and i can't leave the boys on their own yet as they would kill each other lol.
I have managed to lose 2st since leaving my ex on eating the right things so it's a start. Still have my buddha belly a bit though. ;-)

Yep - but you have to dedicated to being in the gym for your health and not to meet someone. Otherwise when you do, you fall back into old habits. It's like the old Barenaked Ladies song:

"She's like a baby, I'm like a cat,
When we're both happy, we both get fat.
And still it's never enough, it's never enough..."

Nicely put! :D

I think that if you poached a guy/girl from another relationship, then you mustn't be surprised *if* this guy/girl cheats on you and leaves you for another person one day - even if you were completely faithful to him/her all this time. I mean, if he/she is capable of doing this once, who's to say they won't do it again?

Yay! Another Guinness drinker! Good man!!! :0D

Nationality can not give any answer.there are only man and woman,relatively good or bad,nothing more.

I completly agree with you, Pat. uhmmmmm.........
Do all polish women feel the same way? Why some of them stay in relationships knowing that BF have cheated when there is no ties like marriage or children?

Well, love does strange things to both men and women..I think its how far someone
wants to let it go before actually doing something about it.. but in some cases
the Cheaters are really good at denying and painting a pretty picture for the future
so they dont lose their cake and frosting if you know what I mean.. :)

I think in both cases , its more of a dating thing.. when you walk away from
a relationship that was long term, its hard to go looking again and trust for the
same reasons because your heart was just shattered into a million pieces and
to be able to give that again would take much longer time and its not really fair
to the other * New* possible long term to compare because everyone is different

hallo the way polish men treat there womanand the way they talk to them no wonder they have alook around they keep there head up to respect sorry doys but your missing the beuity in front of fair play to them