Behaviour of users looking for relationship

This is very-true. :) People need to realise this. That you cannot base a handful or a few people on how the entire nation is.
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People (all people)
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You have your heart-breakers, and your sweethearts.
Your noblemen and gentlemen and your ladies / darlings.
Your lairs, cheaters, abusers.. and the list goes on..
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It's the mind, heart, and personality that defines a person..
Yes, we do have a natural instinct/ attraction to certain men/women; that is embedded into our DNA.. Where this attraction of a certain nationality, or gene is naturally selective.. Where our bodies, hormones believe that this "potential-lover" could produce healthy offspring.

I never understood, why people online or in real-life settings; need to complain so-often. . or "point-fingers" at people.. accusing them of what happened in the past..
Just be happy with your life, and be grateful you have what you have..

Things can and will change for the better, if you would so-allow it.. Let-go, and understand like you had mentioned, Amathyst:



People need to stop being so "instantly-judgemental" on a group of people, based on a "stereotype." .. For all these people do-not know, is that yes. You will encounter a person for-what-ever nationality they are; was a jerk, and treated you poorly in the past.. but please, people need to understand; that there are wonderful men and women that have the same nationality, as the man / woman that was cruel or mean to you...

Yes, you will meet more then a few in a row.. that come from the same country / ethnic.
You just need to look in another area.. Good and decent men and women are just as spread-out around the world as the "bad-mean" men / women are..

There are quite a few people, that will base others from previous events. Which is understandable, since everyone remembers the face of the person they had encountered. (Most times).. For you could be thinking to yourself:

"Heck, I think all Polish-Men are cold-bitter, perverts-beyond comparison ..or stupid; due of what the last "polish-man" had done to me."

-But you can't think of his nationality or by mere appearance; because the next man that is "place-nationality here" could be a complete gentleman, and you would be very happy together. :)

People can be very "set in their ways" due that they do-not want to get hurt again.
It's a FEAR. They do not want to get caught-up in the same scenario again.. When they do-not realise, that every scenario or person is different.. and falling in-love is a "risk" and you need to do-your homework to being careful.. take your time, to etc..


..Funny... I've never been in a relationship before, and I know better then to do things like this.. ^^ loll

Start here..

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feral_child

Its the environment s.....!

Given that 2% of the worlds population live outside of the country they were born in and that even more are born in countries which they are not (if I may use the term) indigenous, it is hard to determine where people in the general case are from. Furthermore in the modern age where people are increasingly mixed-race or grew up with more than one culture how do you determine the exact cultural mix.

Siblings, twins, even identical twins more often than not differ in character. Just because your environs were stereotyped, cliched and predictable it doesnt mean that the whole planet is so. This lesson is one that I think many people who think like you have to learn (if they can) when they come to the UK.

Yes.. The simpler view is easier on the neurons and takes less effort BUT it is wrong!

Hi I am new to this forum, bur have noticed a large amount of people have the same disturbed view that Polish Boy's/Girls cheat.

What seems to be missed all the time( I am experiancing this with lover now). is that in many case's this relationships are being carried out in very unusual circumstances, I.E. in a forign land (not that boy or girls homeland or even hometown. In many case's although they may have their BF/GF's, they are and must be suffering lonliness and homesickness, even though tey may not fully know it.

Then you have the cultural differances and in many case's some language misunderstandings.
Is it any wonder then that these people will not turn to other's someone of their own culture, or some one who show's them some more understanding or sympathy. It may just be an innocent text flirt or show of emmotion, It could just be that that person is crying out for more love and as their family are many thousands of miles away they may turn to the arms of another, This does not make all polish people cheaters just underlines that moving away from home might bring out behaviour that might not be their normal behaviour. Also a dangerous assumption is that these people want to stay where they are now, most polish people I have met have a three year plan when the move away, then they fully intend to move back home, the home they were born in and love. Ever stopped to think that the thought of being in love and having to make that decision to maybe never return home might not be scarring them into cheating because that is easier than telling you that maybe they don't want to stay in your home town. Would you be prepared to follow these people back to Poland.

Please people be more understanding about the actual situations we put ourselves in.
Your partners probably do love you but there might be something else missing, Try talking about why those texts and contacts are being made rather than automatically assuming they are from a natural nation of cheats. Talk more shout less the truth might not be as bad as your minds think.

For Justyna With Love

Very well put my good man :)

With me it was the other way around, I was merely aksing if the Stereotypes are true in reguards to Loyality, family orientation, blah blah, etc etc.

You are perfectly correct in saying that People are People. But Cultural traits are also part of who we are and if said traits are positives then you become more desirabl - not that i see women as cattle you understand.

I wouldn't married some just because of the stereotypes of their nation.
But the Modern Culture of a lot of Western Women "Don't want to get married" "Don't want Children" "Don't want to be tied down" blah blah blah lol.

Whereas if the Culture, supposedly, of Eastern Europe - namely the Polish people - is set that they are very loyal / want to have and raise and look after a family / not to mention the Intelligence and Beauty.
If that's true, and most women are like that as a base, then Looking for someone there would be highly desired.

Now I'm not saying I'm going to go to Poland just to find someone on the off chance. If I find my love I find her - I hope it's soon :P
But you can understand that if the generality is that Polish Women are very loyal kind polite and want to look after their family. You would prefer that, to many of the Western Women these days who either don't want to settle down in a relationship, or if they do - Cheat often in them, and ***** and moan etc.

Is Relationship the same as Friendship? :-)

No.

Based on field research, women of the following nationalities cheat:

Polish
English
Welsh
American
German
French

(a friend tells me that Russian and Chinese women cheat too)

Research is still in progress, and the results may be periodically updated. So many nationalities to investigate, so little time. But hey, it's all for the advancement of knowledge.

Not this Polish lady!!!

pfffff.. do we even need to discuss this?

Update.
The first sentence of my previous post should have been [...]some women[...]

Add Kiwis... my mother and sister both cheated on their husbands. I've bucked the trend and retained my halo ;-)

Thank you for your important contribution to this ongoing research ;)

Eheemmm I really don't think that its a valid reason for cheating!



and another crock of tish!

Im not sure anyone got the point of the actually point I was trying to make (yes I post under Ama too)!!!!

Just seems to be a whole host of strereotyping going on again!!!!

not true - not true - not true :-)

I think a person settling down, being committed, not cheating, not wanting children - all that stuff is dictated by the person not being honest with themselves and more so settling for a relationship for the sake of being secure rather than fulfilled. The problem with our society (US) is that it has become a norm to be in a "ok" relationship so that you aren't "alone" and then the trouble grows from there. I know because I did it before I finally got clear on my crap and I have many female friends that still act that way.

So many reasons for cheating... My mother complained my father was working too hard to pay her attention. My sister claimed her husband preferred her when she was fat and frumpy, and so she wanted to regain her youth. The short story is people cheat because they feel they can't get want they want from their partner, and rather than showing strength to find it within the relationship, they choose to look outside it.

I personally want to get married and I hope that its forever... I get worried a lot of the time as my family specialises in divorce, but I want to believe I can be happy forever with the right person. I hope that it is my POH.

And I've already offered to go back to Poland with him but he's said he'd prefer to come back to NZ with me :)
(I think he's a little worried about my inability to learn any language!)

Bring back the ducking stool - that'll sort out these unfaithful women, no matter what nationality they are!!

Men are just as - if not more unfaithful no matter the nationality.....

i think that it really depends how you were raised and how you treat each other. also, people don't talk about their problems a lot or what bugs them and it continues to build. i know a few friends that did nothing but complained about how their bf/gf acted but when asked if they mentioned it, they simply said no.

there is no one person or one nationality that does something more or less than another. it's just that some people are unfortunate and keep running into the same type of person. if by coincidence it happens to be a certain type, they just generalize that all of those people are the same. just my thought anyway.

back to the top because it would appear that the newbies are talking over the same ole same ole!

My wife tells me all sorts of ongoing stories about ther town in Poland and it is worse/better than a soap opera. There a friend whose Dad is the local priest. Another male friend who is sh@gging the local bar owner's wife and has had a kid by her but the husband doesnt know its not his. Another friend whose girlfriend has left her husband and took her kids to move in with with him. As well as various comings and goings amongst the neighbours and friends.

Its great stuff and very interesting as on the surface the place looks grey and drab and the people not much better. However under the surface theres all this intrigue and sex. I think Poles love a bit of sexual intrigue at the same time as tut-tutting at the scandal.
This all happens in other countries of course, however I dont see it on the same scale as my wife's town. Naughty little place it is.

Maybe people in Catholic countries cheat more? Maybe as there is more pressure not to divorce and cheating is the only outlet for the frustration that must build and build.

is it common for polish girls to share their boy friends, fiance and husbands with other girls? do they love threesome?

NO!

Way to break down millions of hopes and dreams....

aren't you a bossy lass? :D


sure, sure. ;) :D

hey polishgirltx! what do you mean by just answering NO!? can you explain that to me?

agreed.

OK, I can do understanding. I can see the plight of poor-stricken-miles-from-home boy/girl who just can't help responding to the niceness of kindly foreigners (niceness equalling, erm, lots of sex and affection and someone falling in love with them and thinking they're in a relationship based on real feelings, honesty and genuine liking, and also thinking the relationship is going somewhere) ... well, I can just about buy that. But what about the 'sympathetic foreigner'??? And the partner left at home in Poland??? We are talking here about serious emotional hurt, wrecking of lives. Yes, wrecking. Because ... what? Someone's a bit lonely?? I think the trend of opinion in these threads isn't that it's a national characteristic to cheat, but more that given the exceptional situation of so many people being away from their usual environment, almost like the imposed exiles you'd see in some kind of wartime, then there has been a general acceptance that it's OK to, pretty much, lead a double life. It's OK. It's understandable. How could a guy not? So many weeks without sex ... and then there's one of the English girls who aren't fat falling into his arms ... well, how could he resist?

There is a general permissiveness, a forgiveness, an 'understanding'. But I say again, what of those at either end, who can't control the situation, who are both left in unbearable emotional situations, at one point or another. I dunno. One part of me says these guys (it is more the guys than the girls, let's face it) should keep it zipped up and save us all the misery, and another part of me thinks no hell, life's worth living, short but incredibly sweet is better than nothing at all.

Things really get tricky if the English girl gets pregnant, though, and refuses the traditional Catholic option of abortion ... I'll let you know how it goes : (

Abortion is NOT a catholic option, it's the option of a selfish married man! Also being away from the wife is no excuse to drop ya pants for the first willing woman lonely or not...it's called having a lack of respect for oneself and ones partner! Polish men should have a health warning "this man might get you pregnant and vacate the country" <joke>



;-) yep :-p

RIGHT,

in every country across the world there are girls who: Cheat, get pregnant at an early age, act like sluts, sleep around, it is not just a 'POLISH' or 'ENGLISH' or any other specific nationallity you can care to pick out. Please please please realise this :)

As for the behaviour of those looking for a relationship online here, well i've stated my veiws many times so i won't go into it again, however i do think that people need to leave a lone the 'looking for polish girl' sort of line and replies to girls just saying hallo like 'you sound really sexy, polish girl nice, i want polish girl and dream for many years, i speak 3 million different languages and have taken over a few minor nations so please contact me straight away so i can provide you with nice life'

SAD SAD SAD SAD SAD people :)