my boyfriend is on a polish dating site

Dont even bother, she's knows best!

all i know if i was dating someone and she was on a dating site she would be gone adios amigo:)

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You'll be single then...

zabko has to make decisions based on her own happiness. She is right, we don't know all the circumstances, so best of luck zabko. :)

so pink jewel u would stay with a guy if u were dating him and he was on a dating web site ?That like saying he is just there to make friends lmao u cant be that innoncet and blind can u?

I just said we don't know all the circumstances.

So why are you on PF? Information? To make friends?

Edit: to find a Polish princess I see...

yes but if u were dating someone wouldnt u think it would be weried if they were on a dating we site?

I'd beat him with a frying pan.

Then I'd investigate.

I got a really nice cast iron one. LOL

lol see so u agree with me

I might ask to borrow it in a minute... :)



No. I was being funny. I wouldn't hurt a man with a frying pan.

I'd use a rolling pin instead.

traditionalist

so i am right if ur dating someone dont join a dating website that like going out on a date when u have a gf and saving the other girl was just hungry lmao

I wouldn't I'd just leave!

Can't let the old traditions die out ;)



Hmm, there is the non-violent route too I suppose...

lol that is traditions to beat wih frying pan?

You need to read Andy Capp. It deals with the consequences of letting down ones loved ones. The method of correction is the rolling-pin.

:)

no it's not. the real cheating where he's actually banging someone is worse.

hey, you can turn your hearing off but what bubbawoo so elloquently said still applies even if you seem to live in denial.


so she thinks. hmm


ignoracnce is bliss from what i hear. ;)



u r


see above. good times.


maybe because they also see this situation as we all do here. open your eyes girl.


this sure doesn't seem like the best thing for anyone. and i doubt they'll support you and his cheating ways. not a good way to live at all.


hey, if she wants to be blind and put up with it, like she said, it is her decision. she will have to live with her decisions.


yup.


we may not but the part we do isn't all that peachy, yet she wants to live in denial.. oh well.

that is correct. it will be her not you living with the decision.

Actually he said pretty much all of those things and more and I do think he will be devastated if we split up. He suggested a break, but I have told him thats its all or nothing for me. We either stay together and try and work things out, including him being honest about everything and stopping all contact with people he has met online or we split for good. When I said that he said that he does really love me and definitely doesnt want to lose me, but just got addicted to the attention of women on the internet. We have started talking more now than we ever have about our relationship and where (if anywhere) it is going. One of the problems we have had in the past was that his English is not so good and my Polish is pretty non-existent so at times it has been difficult to discuss serious issues, but now that has changed. Anyway like you all said its my decision and whatever I decide I will live with it.

Good luck to you...if you are talking then you can solve most problems....its when you don,t talk its over......

i hope everything works out for you.

This is a 3 year relationship so it's not that simple. You have a strong emotional attachment to him. I think you need to reach a point where you can't stand it anymore and you really want to leave. You don't sound ready yet. I think time will take care of the situation.

You are the only one who can make that decision all anyone else can do is to give you their views/ advice.

All I know is that you need to be able to trust your partner 100% if that's not there, then there will always be cracks. You can only paper over them for so long.

Good Luck I really hope it works out well for both of you.



:)

Fair play you've made a decision whether right or wrong, you know my view and i'm not going to change my mind to suck up to you. Good luck in the future and i wish you all the best, however it turns out

T

You really have only 2 questions..

Do you believe him.?
Can you forgive him.?

If you answer yes to these questions.
Then you have no reason to justify your actions to anyone.
You came and asked for help. And it was given. Freely. And for a proportion i wont judge. Wisely.

Now its up to YOU.
Not anyone here. Including me. To decide or judge you.
Its YOUR life. Your Descion. Your Choices.

I wish you Luck.
And pray he has the sense to realise he has YOU.
And what he stands to loose if he messes up again..

Take care Zabko.

Any updates in the relationship?

Hmmm, not sure that is true. I went out with a girl once who owned up to getting drunk one night and having a one night stand with some stranger. Now that was hurtful and I was raging...but hey, she made a mistake, admitted it and was sorry. The mental imagary was pretty bad for a few weeks but it died down and we were quite happy for a while. Just grew apart and are still friends.

However when I found that my current ex had met someone on a night out, kissed him, texted him and attended a few other parties with him while still my girlfriend I was heartbroken. She sat there and, as if it was an excuse, said "But I never slept with him". The fact that she had feelings for this person and was actually conciously making desicions to be with him and text him while in a relation was a lot more hurtful than someone being stupid and having a one night stand where it's just sex.

I can relate. It is not just sex. The thought that the person you love is thinking about someone else is as hurtful as sleeping with that person.

How did you overcome the pain?

I haven't to be honest. I have become a typical bartender, just like I was before her. Flirtatious but never involved with anyone. She still texts and it hurts. There is nothing to cure that except copious amounts of vodka and lots of pretending.

The only reason I am still here is in the off chance she will change her mind...i have given myself until February. Then it's off to Norway with friends to earn a fortune...and then spend it all on stupid things.

I love/hate women...see if they could be gorgeous and not insane...that would be awesome!