Dating age difference - my 16 yo is dating a 26 yo Polish guy

Big difference between crush and actually dating someone. :-P


Exactly she is not leagal. He is 26 come on.................he is thinking something.

I'm not sure if a 26yo man is looking for a type of relationship you are describing:)

Why does he allow it to continue? My dad would have killed the guy already. (Not literally. You know what I mean.)

lmao I know - but anglo73 did say it is supervised. I'm surprised myself if he is not wanting more, like I said lol


true lol

pfttttttttttt. Not falling for it.

lol I'm not convinced either

supervised o rly?
I think anglo73 is not fully aware of the capabilities of a horny couple:)

Ohhhh totally agree. :-P

blink and she'll be pregnant :P

j/k

I am not saying that it is a good thing. Just pointing out that what we may consider to be "undesirable" or outside of our "norms" is a normal fact of life in some parts of the world.

Well of course anything can happen...I was once 16 too. But we hope nothing is going on yet. Besides, even if its not right now, isn't he a creep for going after a girl that young? It seems so weird...

I find that difficult to answer, because it is legal here for someone her age, which makes me think that "so long as she's legal - he's not a perv/creep" if he really loves her. You can't help who you fall for!

But there - is a different story because it IS illegal, so my thoughts don't apply the same way hmmmm

True. I will give you that......................

But if you "loved" someone that young, you would have to care enough to know that it wasn't the right time and they need to experince life with peers not babysitters. Let them go and let them grow up. If it was meant to be it will happen at that time.

People get arrested for these things.

I know! Thats what we said! We have a 9 year old son and there has been a girl at school stalking him already!!!! I don't want him to get involved in serious relationships until he's like 25...We put an end to this "play date" crap!

Oh come on he is 9............. he doesn't knkow the difference.

lol I'm sure that is only harmless kid fun!

Sadly it is a sign of the times. There are reports, here at least, of children aged as young as 8-9 being sexually active.

But surely it's not so common you would worry about your kid having a 'girlfriend' - normally it's just cute and harmless..!

late developers huh?

i blame the parents

That's a huge part of it.

Yea, that's why we don't let our 9 year old go on play dates with extremely forward girls that call like 6 times a day....

Is it really just harmless, or is it a spring board for something more serious later on?

True, but where do you cut it off? It's ok when your 9, but now that your 14, 15,16 (whatever) you aren't aloud to hang out and have sleep overs anymore. Why not just set the precident when they're little?

OK, so is it common for Polish men to go for younger women, in this case little girls and what "groom" them until they are ready for a real relationship?

OK you are totally freaking out now. He is 9 you are going to give the kid a complex and force him to a dysfunctional relatonship.

He can have friends thats fine he is 9 she still has cooties as far as he is concerned. Second they are the same age so if it develops in to something 6 years down the road when they can actuallly do something. You as a good parent step in and hopefull gave him some good values and you don't have to worry about some 23 year old flusie teaching him what he doesn't need to know yet.

Relax

were you ever 9 y/o? think about it. sheesh.

Don't get me wrong, he has plenty of friends that are girls, I just am not into this crazy little vixen girl that stalks him...I'm talking about calling like every 2 minutes all day long during summer break, when everyone else has forgotten about school friends and moved onto other summer things. Its just a little weird how totally aggressive this little girl is.

Yea, but I made some really stupid decisions at a young age and hurt alot of people because of them. Maybe if the people around me would have aimed my arrows at different things I could have avoided hurting all the ones I did and in the mean time going through a ton of crap that could have been uneccesary.

So end it.

But don't end it because you think she is a sexual preditor. End it because you don't think she is the right friend for your son.

THEY ARE 9 YEARS OLD!!

You have bigger problems with the 16 year old. Fix that!!

I can't control what they do in their family, but I can hopefully influence my own kid in the right direction.