Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her

I'd lvoe to know too, I hate presentations

I have taken you up on this kind offer. There are three separate emails I think. Thanks so much for offering to help. It means a great deal.


Oh, I'm definately interested in women all right. lol. I find it very difficult to communicate with anyone, male or female, its always been the case. I grew up in solitude for the most part so I guess I never really learned. Don't get me wrong, I had a very happy childhood, it was at school were the problems arose.



I delighted that you ask, I'm looking for all the help I can get. Every little bit is welcomed.

I haven't a clue what to say, how to keep the conversation going.etc. Only in the last couple of weeks have I discovered that people enjoyed being asked questions about themselves and that this was a great way of developing the conversation. You see, I hate being asked questions about myself so I assumed that everyone else was the same.



I will try and find a picture. Thats another thing, I hate having my photo taken, you will hardly find one of me anywhere. I think I look so ugly, I will go out of my way to avoid having one taken. I am terrified of what everyone will think but I am desparate to overcome this so I will find something.


As I mentioned above, all advice is welcomed, thank you for taking the time to help. You have hit the nail on the head. I am playing this whole episode in my mind, it is crazy, crazy, crazy. I don't know anything about this girl, we may be totally unsuitable, how could it be love. Yes, a very good point.
I need to battle these doubts and fears I have and move on. They are massive fears, built up over many years, I know if I can get over this first hurdle, each one after that will get gradually smaller. I know/understand the theory, its just putting it into practice is daunting. That first step is just so hard to take.

Disagree.The hardest is the last step when you have to penetrate the ***** shield.

I will. Thanks a lot!

szarlotza.. what if you cant think of anything specific in your past that scared you? I dont like public speaking either, but cant think of such an incident.

Ken, you are very good at putting your thoughts down in writing, but fear the actual confrontation.. so why dont you email her?.. could start off with a bit of jokey banter, working up to asking her out..lots of colleagues share flirty banter by email in the office, brightens up the day sometimes.. anyway just a thought. is she going out with the flash bloke now?.. sorry must have missed that bit

Then it won't work Sapphire! Lucky you if you've never been that scared!

ok thanks. I did do a skydive once and that scared me.. but dont think it scarred me for life... deep breaths and a sense of humour help me get by.. I have quite a laid back attitude to presentations and if something goes wrong I just joke about it and that seems to go down well.

southern you watch to much porn..

I wish i could find a man like southern :)

Sounds like you just have to chill and let things naturally progress without having to force it. Always remember....Never force anything ;) Maybe have a drink before you have a go at anything. You know, just to loosten up a bit :)

I dont know sapphire, sounds like hes all play no work :)))

Orlando bloom is more my style :)))) he can be my Lord any day :) LOLOLOLOLOL

ok well maybe not.. orlando bloom is a bit girly looking for me.. prefer a rough type like Vin Diesel... oh god it must be friday afternoon.....aaaaaaaaaaargh. Please post some more of your lovely descriptive comments to cheer me up.

i tried that before a driving test once.. didnt do my any favours at all.. I hit a stationary vehicel and didnt even notice.

all ya have to do is throw some mud on him, and viola!! dirty and sexy.. same time!
lol

orlando in a five o'clock shadow with a pirate outfit on? thats perfect reasons
to buy a bottle of vodka and go hunting for hidden treasures.. lol

ooops with him of course!!

patryca you need to stop watching dodgy movies.. i prefer Johnny depp myself.

hes ok, actually I dont watch much movies at all, but the ones that catch my attention
I concentrate on, johnny depp is talented though :)

southern is the one who watches to much dodgy movies, he thinks he can land a woman by licking his lips and batting his cyborg eye.. lol

don't trash his dream Pat!!!

Im sorry, was I doing that? lol

forgive me :) LOL

Words of wisdom.

yeah, speaking words of wisdom, let it be, I love this song :-)

Think it is..............although I've just changed my mind it is not at all!

On the serious note... Can men/women be trusted? Can another human being be fully trusted.... It always seemed to me that we have the ability to act on impulse and sometimes without much thinking we amaze ourselves with what we are capable of.....

Men seldom act on impulse.They are more strategic developers.

One small step for man, one giant leap for kind man.

(do you see what I've done there; mankind/ kind man, I like that! lol.)

This is a momentus day for me, I've finally done it, I spoke to the girl. I am just so proud of myself, really, really pleased that I've went and gone and done it. I will try to outline what happened: In work today I held the door open for her, she smiled and said hi, I said hi back and their was an aukward pause where I probably had an opportunity to go ahead with my plan, but I had just finished eating a bag of crisps, my mouth was full, it really wasn't the ideal time. lol.
Anyway, about an hour later, I just happened to come round the corner and she was there, having a chat with another Polish girl who works in the office (I couldn't have planned this opportunity better myself) and she said dzien dobry to me, she had obviously remembered that I had spoken to her before. It was very relaxed, it helped that there was also someone there and we had a good chat for several minutes. Then the other girl left and the two of us walked down the corridor together. I know I could have avoided saying anything but I went ahead and I asked her if this other guy in the office was her boyfriend. This amused her alot and she said that she has a boyfriend of six years and they both are over here working and hope to stay for a couple of years.
So, there you go.
A weight has definately been lifted off my shoulders. You know, I totally surprised myself at the manner in which I conducted myself. I just know I came across as really great, a super, friendly person. I didn't think I had it in me. I am just so very proud of myself, I admit, I have shed some tears of happiness. Some may think this strange as this girl isn't going to be mine but I have achieved something that for a long time I thought was beyond me, it is a massive step and has given me such a boost that I can find happiness. I have found closure on this issue, I can now move on knowing I have done the right thing and behaved in such a gentlemanly way. I feel like a proper man today.

So in conclusion to this long tale, I 'fell in love with a Polish girl, found it difficult to approach her....eventually plucked up the courage to do it and have become a better person as a result.' The End.

Well done. Congratulations on finding yourself.

Good on ya Ken. Who knows... maybe she has a Polish friend as nice as she is. :-)

Ken, I couldnt be prouder :))))))))

it is one step forward for one kind man :))))

you Accepted her answer, and that was the important thing, you are amazing
and see , you now know that you can.. :))))

Keep that outward charm coming, The next girl that catches your eye, she might
just be the one :)))) lol

(standing ovation for Ken) Yeahyaaaaa!!!

This is difficult case for you.Difficult to destroy her boyfriend.However you could ask for her number just in case...

southern. hes content, it was more then actually dating her, which is what he accomplished, hes on a road to a better place..

But it's not the end, it's not even the beginning of the end, it is just the end of the beginning.

Lol, I've always wanted to use that quote, and it's pretty apt on this occasion.
Anyone know where it is from?