Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her

Love or lust?

There seems to be a bit of confusion between the two. Do we believe we're in love when in reality we are only lusting after someone. What is love? (That was a song back in the 90's wasn't it!) The phrase 'love at first sight' can't be true love. When you meet someone for the first time and there is an instant connection it feels like love but it's more a realisation that here is an opportunity for something special to occur. Surely love is something that is built up as a relationship progresses, as the bond deepens so to speak. How can you love someone if they don't love you back? There can be a great respect for that person and an understanding that they could be one of those special people in your lives but unless the feeling is reciprecated it isn't the real thing.

Here the subject is how it is better to approach a polish girl.
Not how you marry a polish girl.
Nor how you fall in love with a polish girl.
Not how you approach girls in general.
Not if there is friendsip between men and women.
What is the best way of approaching a polish girl?That is the question.
I gave the answer talk to her,kiss and touch her.This is superficial approach?
O.K. then talk to her about Kant,Hegel and the Constitution law.probably she is more interested in that.

I agree. Provided there was only one Polish girl:)

There are some general rules.You may do sth that an italian girl would find awesome but a polish girl weird.I give some clues.I am talking about average person coming from a big city,a girl between 20-30 years old.Do you have an understanding of statistics?

No. Tell me more.

Cock blocker.When a guy comes and tells you to get away from a girl or when he puts obstacles to you to approach a girl.Sometimes done by boys who get angry because they cannot get a girlfriend for themseleves other times by boys who have an interest in a girl and do not want other men to talk to them.Cock blocking is very effective.

Otherwise known as Alf A. Posturing.
He's a chest thumping type, gets angry quickly and succeeds in making himself look foolish without the aid of a safety net.

What do you mean it's ok. Ohhhh he's one of them. That's alright then. Long as he keeps away from me. <looks macho and menacing>

What do you mean Nice shoes? You saying i'm a p... a h... er... one of them?

I'll punch his face in. <the circle is complete>

It is easier for a man to be trully friendly with a woman after you become intimate. Before, there is just too much to concentrate on in achieving intimacy. Unless the woman is not one's type. Having said that, if she is not one's type you probably don't want to spend too much time chatting...

exactly

is one girl enough to satisfy a man? probably not. this is why some men have numerous lovers and affairs.

I mean polish guys do not care to keep other men out of ladies that are not their girlfriends.Because they already have girlfriends.

what if they want to steal that girl from the other guy? because they find the girl irrestible?

That applies to all men, unless you want to get some extra staff for your hareen!

I suppose there would be a serious battle with a lot of punches.Polish guys do not hesitate to punch.

some men have more sex-drive and need much more women than 1 girlfriend

Ken Noddy
Having read a bit of your story with your saga with the Polish girl I wish you luck. Be mentally prepared however for failure as the odds are not in your favour. She will most likely be snapped up by a more experienced man. You need to go on a crash course to understand female psychology and to able to feel relaxed talking to women in a confident manner. For that I recommend you take some dance classes… honest! Especially Argentine tango if there is any of it near you…
Good luck

few trips to the brothel?

The brothel will provide you with a quick fix if you are desperate. However it would be dangerous and quite expensive to proceed for a deeper relationship...
Better find a girlfriend.

What is female psychology? Tell me more. I didn't realize all women had one psychology.

i know many men who are not desperate and they go at least once a week to brothel

Female psychology is not that different from male psychology.
Both like a bit of a chase, and people who are not immediately available.
However I don’t think women normally go for shy types, unless they are a bit older… but there are exceptions. Many of these successful ways to chat up are all a bit counterintuitive for an inexperienced man but women are better at it as they get more experience earlier on (because men go for youth). Men can only match them when they get to their thirties, but then have more potential…

Have you ever seen the show Cops? They always arrest married men who have families for trying to pick up prostitutes.

I agree that talkative men can get women easier. And their conversations don't have to be profound. Just say something, anything, and you'll be a step ahead.

my favourite pick up line is how you doing?

Well, the whole thing about prostitutes is a different subject all together. The fun there is of a purely carnal nature. I will for one not judge anybody who uses those services, specially if the girls are real pros and not just junkies… can be very addictive but ultimately frustrating as you want more than your walled can afford. That is the nature of the business…

Pick up lines are destroyers if you try to approach a polish girl.I think the best tactic is to ask her are you from Poland?
Yes.
Moges mowic po polsku?
Tak.
Szkad jestesz?
Z ....
Then everything rolls good.

Aren't girlfriends expensive, too? Because then you have to buy them dinner, gifts, etc. :)

It is not really what you say, it is what you are doing when you say it. How close you are, if you are smiling or not, and your whole mood and state of relaxation and confidence, that is really what the woman is looking at. The words are just background music…

same cost as going to a brothel

Yes girls cost money but you can get a lot more time and commitment for your money...