My fellow brits here - are "traitors" by not dating English girls?

I know there's a few other English guys here so I wanted to share my story and see if any of you other guys have been having the same issues.

There's a club I goto everyweek it's sortof like a local thing. However recently we've started to get a lot of Polish and lithuanian girls there and my ex girlfriend went around the club and told all the other english girls that I refuse to date English women and that i only date Poles and Liths.

Last weekend I was there and I got called a "traitor", "plastic pole" "male slag" "polish lover" and various other things by different English girls.

I don't want to stop going to the club, I love it there and to be honest, I like going there to dance with the Polish girls. The thing is i know theese english girls out of the club, there in my group of friends.

I can't helping thinking that when its world cup and we're all in the pub drinking together and cheering for england that the girls are going to say "no forget him, he left us and went with the poles"

It feels like some sort of divide, but its weird, because the polish guys are all ok they just have a beer with us and thats that. It's english girls that seem to be the problem.

Guys do you feel like "traitors" by not dating English girls anymore?

If the English girls treat you like that, then why would you want to be around them?
It's your life, you want to be around people who don't treat you like that, who make you happy. Blow them off. Let them say what they want, don't give in.

You're not a traiter, that is a very immature and narrow-minded gesture. Be above them all and ignore them. Who wants to be around people that put you down all the time?

The thing is they never used to put me down before, they were always very friendly. But girls are just not like guys, they get jelous too easily and when a bit of competition comes along they start throwing their toys out of the pram.

English girls are really so complicated, you need a degree in psychology just to decipher the hidden meanings behind their conversation.

I don't really want to be around them, but they are in my group of friends, plus they are in my local club.

My friend has stopped going for Polish girls because he didn't like getting abuse plus the fact that he is in love with one of those English girls and doesn't want her to think that he likes Polish girls.

It might be a bit of jealous towards the polish ladies, I agree with krysia to ignore them. Go find a better group of people who mature and open minded.

Ask them why they are racists.

i dont think its a good idea. it wont help anything

I dunno if i can really call them racists as from what i can tell they dont actually say anything racist to the polish girls, instead they just take all their frustrations out on us guys

they might feel that polish girls are snatching English guys out of their mouth

Because they want to see your reaction and have you guys under their control and it drives them crazy that you prefer someone else.

Krysia, I noticed you're from America. Is it like this with American girls too?

its the same everywhere. when ladies gets Threaten from other ladies taking over.

You don't have to be genious to figure that one out. Your ex wanted to piss english ladies off so she spread the story that you only date polish girls. She wanted to cause havoc and she manage to do so perfectly. Don't blame english ladies for their reaction. I would say that this time it's perfectly understandeble.

Its jealousy, pure and simple. Think how you would react if a woman you fancied started chatting up good looking men (ok, you are probably used to it). Women are very sensitive and don't have to put up with that sort of thing very often, so they will use any tool in their book to fight back.

I had an ex-girlfriend pull a knife on another girl because she was jealous.

Lee, where is this club?

well i can only say ,stuff them .
if all they have to add is negative energy and remarks ,then its bye bye i would say .
but i guess jealousy is the name of that game just dont pay attention to that .

Ask them why they're not as pretty!?

:)

sounds like your ex is an insecure **** stirer... well done for getting rid of her...

as gpeter and grunn said... jealousy... and probably more so becasue the polish guys dont give them a second glance...


a suitable adjective might be *frightening*

true, i would agree bub but you know, i am a gentleman and remain polite as possible :)

looks like these english girls are afraid of competition...

you should be able to hang out with whoever you want.choose your friends yourself.

Very well said Krysia! same goes for me, who wants to be around people who
are supposed to be your friends , yet they dont support you in any way shape or
form and are giving you heck for being yourself and wanting to date polish gals?

thats very immature of them, and apparently they arent your friends, friends are
there to listen , not to tell you how to live your life! get some new friends and tell
them to go back and learn manners!


no one is blaming english, what the problem is, is the pack of friends hes hangin
with, when you have good good friends you will know it, they wont put you down
they wont challenge or rather question your choices, only support and say I am with
you every step. what he said could be someone else only different form or generalization, like say for instance, rich vs poor, someone whos stuck up their own

butt, and hes hangin with them, but theres some girls that come in that are down
to earth and dont wear expensive clothes, yet are more fun to be with and they say
why are you hangin with them? they dont have what we have!

isnt about nationality all the time, they used it as their crutch, it is about social
mannerism and jealousy or just blurting out crap with no back up as to why
needs addressing. I would have asked what the problem was with the polish
girls? what do they not have that you have? explain, and give some dam good
answers or shut the hell up! I would say this to any of my friends who stood around
staring at people and calling them names, or putting down men who were my friends
who were another nationality.

next time you talk to them, ask them whats hanging out of their nose , and see
if that shuts them up for the night!
sorry, but anyone and everyone who is like that needs to be told. I dont hang with
people who think they are better.

I couldn't have said that any better.

Ty Razz.

There is a code of honor among friends, least with my friends.

Friends are there to listen, not become your best critic, just like with men and
women, friends dont go after your ex , or the same man /woman you are in love
with. friends no matter where/how far, will always be there to listen, whether its
on the phone, or in a letter.

And to this day, I dont get to see my friends that often, but when I do, we always
feel the same, and they know they can call me as I can them if I should need them
Its a bond you form, not a act to have a social life.

But I think if someone likes and you cant see that and go for someone else, then there is a little jealousy there towards the other person. But then again we are just human beings. But if friends criticize you for who you have fallen for then those aren’t your friends.

where they big fat english girls

Well you dont have to worry about that for another two years considering you didnt make it to the euro 08 :-)

Lee, mate... it sounds like you need to stop hanging out in places that are full of parochial dullards.

silly fuckwitkunt!

BTW - this is a year out of date - ITS MARCH 08 NOW NOT 07!!

Waaaah!! I never even noticed PMSL!!

Why so many wierd, creepy sh1t-stirrers?

Because they are silly fuckwitkunts!

Good answer! LOL

It's funny though, I would be labelled a ''traitor'' for dating English girls.. I guess it's the same old same everywhere..