Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies

ok maybe it wasnt the wisest thing i wrote. but how could i expect that it s gonna be anything serious if i lived in poland and he in germany. . i m movin there now, but it doesnt matter any more. i wanted to say, that at the beginning when we started to date, it didtn really mean anything for me, if he wanted to show off and create another vision of himself. i understood it, he s nigerian, has low self-esteem. but i wanted to get to know him and break this border .. he didtn give me chance.

Do you think many polish girls like to play with men and try adventure?Are they open to relationships with foreign people?

I have been hang gliding with a Polish lady and I have climbed up mountains with some so I vote Yes, They are very adventurous

Do you see?Now unicornes is reluctant to participate because she feels like being in a minefield.

Not true, not true at all.



Please don't lower yourself to their level, its not your style.

There are some decent guys out here, believe me, it just takes a bit of effort to coax us out from under our shells.

(Sorry, just felt I'd better stick up for us few good men!)
It would be great if you could tell us a little of your interests, I for one am interested.

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Here are my reactions to southern's remarks. My basis is that I was in an exclusive relationship with a Polish girl for the last 4 years. She was born in Warsaw and lived there until she was 8. She and her family then moved to Chicago.

1.submissive--Completely disagree. My ex-gf was VERY controlling and just about the furthest thing from submissive.

2.good hearted--agree. Although she was stubborn, I never doubted that the things she asked of me were meant to be for my benefit.

3.polite--basically agree. My ex had very good manners, in a formal sense.

4.easy going--completely disagree. My ex was perhaps the most tightly strung, ambitious person I have ever met. Everything had to be done her way, no matter how minor the issue.

5.naive--agree.

My ex is an immigrant to the US, which probably changes things a bit, but one trait I would have to add is fierce pride in her Polish heritage. This fed into the previously mentioned trait of stubbornly insisting that things be done her way. It wasn't just that they had to be done her way. It was that they had to be done the Polish way.

I'm ethnically Polish but my family has been in the US for so long that it has completely assimilated into generic American culture and my parents didn't pass along specific Polish traditions to me. At first I loved the fact that my ex was so obsessed with Polish culture and heritage. It was as if I was learning about her and about myself at the same time. A turning point came when we starting having disagreements and she would try to justify her positions by saying it's the Polish way of doing things. When she said this, she was implying that the Polish way is the only correct way.

O.K.Submissive maybe wrong in the long term.Maybe at the beginning they seem submissive but afterwards not.
Ambitious.Agree.Especially the younger generation.
By easy going I meant they are easy to chat up to,not that they get along easily.They make comments,they use irony sometimes,there is some stubborness,anyway this varies.Let me guess.Yours came from southern Poland.
Sorry.You mentioned she is from Warsaw.

It's always hard to stereotype any group and my sample size is small. I also think my ex's personality was affected by the fact that she came to the US at age 8. I think it made her feel like an outsider and she was teased by other kids at her school because she didn't really know English when she came. This put a bit of a chip on her shoulder.

Most of her friends also immigrated from Poland and most of them seem less stubborn and strong willed than my ex. I also travelled to Poland with her and met some of her friends there. All of them seemed easy going.

I will say that my ex is very easy to talk to. She is clearly very, very intelligent and has knowledge and opinions about a wide range of topics. If that's what you meant by easy going then that's another thing that I would have to agree on.

Another trait I would add is that she is much closer to her parents than most girls in the US. She talks to her mom on the phone 3-4 times per day and stops in to see her parents at their house 4-5 days per week. She was 26 when I met her and this is more parental contact than anyone else I know. I am actually closer to my family than most people I know, but not as close to them as my ex is to her's. I was glad she had a close family but it created problems around holidays because she wanted me to spend all of them with her family. My family all live several hours drive from me, so I don't see them as often as I would like, and I make a point to see them on holidays. I was willing to alternate holidays or even have each of us spend them with our own family but neither of these choices were acceptable to her.

no boy, i just had to go sleep^^ i had history exam today!!!:p i passed probably:P i m back944-2632


i m not gonna write about it here, interested? there is my mail in my profile^^

I understand. Glad your exam went well.

You went into this relationship with honest intentions, he did not. He is to blame, not you.
Please don't run yourself down by saying that you are stupid, dumb, etc. It just isn't true and thinking these things can damage self esteem. I know, at your age I felt the same way and it spirralled downwards into depression which ten years later is hard to break out of. So try hard not to feel bad, it is not easy but is crucial for your future happiness. You seem a lovely girl, things will work out for you.
As for my opinions of Polish girls, I am probably not the best to say but I have found them to be beautiful, warm and friendly. They are certainly very popular where I live.

i dont know, i didnt say that i see any negatives in polish men. i just said, foreigners have more positives imho;)

i can say for myself;p i am adventurous, indeed! and open minded, and i love foreigners;P how is it generally. . hmn. . i really dont know, i cannot judge all society basing on ppl i know, they are. . specific^^
oh no! nothing is able to damage my self esteem^^ i m even too self confident etc:P this hmn. . 'relationship' damaged only my point of viev and world outlook. .

Damaged your point of view? surely you mean changed. And I dont see how a relationship can change world outlook!

ooo, can, believe me, can. before i trusted men, maybe too much, and i was open for relationships! now i m afraid of males:P and i consider then all as animals. . ok, sorry, u r male also;p but that s way i think now, after meetin that one

If sth like this damaged your view of males then you have a bit of learning to do ;) One day you'll meet someone that will make you very happy.

You're still young though :)

unicornes.. you are young and this guy took advantage of you.. not all men are bad, just treat each one as a learning curve and you will eventually find the right one. Not all Nigerians are bad either, yes the country has a terrible reputation for corruption and there are many corrupt individuals, but also some lovely warm hearted people... having said that I went on a date with a Nigerian once.. and he was extremely dodgy.. but hey.

lol once :)

i havent said that my point of view changed foreva:P just. . i vehad enough, for now:P



of course! i realise that. that s why i m gonna keep in touch with the rest of black ppl i ve met;p but i ll be more careful now.

Hah please Tell me your not serious! Its hard to detect sarcasm on the intarweb.

Personally, I find the Polish women are difficult to get pregnant, they demand too much intensive force!

no i m serious. maybe im too sensitive? anyway it s not any joke nor sarcasm
ohohooo, u mean polish ladies are not that easy to f**?:P and very good:P we, poles are prolific and we have no problem with gettin pregnant!^^ maybe we just dotn wanna let anybody do it, we wait for apropriate man!;p

In Poland they say polish girls are difficult.In other countries that they are easy.What do you think?What some foriegners think is that they date more than one guys simultaneously and that some are material oriented.From my experience they are romantic but date more than one.

Talk bout taring us all with the same brush! :/

What also surprises foreigners is that polish girls who are supposed to have very strict catholic ethics are very open and are willing to start relationships.They are sweet and in the same time naughty.How do these things combine,what is the true nature of polish women?

hmn. . . so again; i dotn know how is it generally, i can say for myself;p i never dated with more than one guy simultaneously -although i could. i m still surrounded by men, i must admit, but for me it s disgustin; date one man, kiss him, say sweet words, and then take a look at clock-oops-i should go- hurrying for second date with another man and also treats him the same way as previous;p noo it s not for me. i prefer to focus on one;)

but i know it happens, maybe because poles are so pretty? we just have too much admirers;p

maybe some of us date few men simultaneously simply coz they cannot decide which one is the best;p but it s short-term activity. .

on the other hand, i think hangin out with more than 1 man, if he remains friend, not lover yet, is absolutely fine!

i said-sorry! dont feel touched only coz i was hurted;p it s myprivate opinion and u shouldnt care

In what extent religion affects polish girls' attitude?

'strict catholic ethic' is next stereotype i think. of course, poland is catholic country, but in theory rahter. . ppl are not as spoilt as west european f.ex but still- we are not devoted to our religion, for sure not. u say 'who are supposed to'. who told u we are supposed to?:P

yea, we are very open; sweet-for sure;p if even naughty. . is it sth negative?:)

u know, it depends. a friend of mine was with boy for a year and they even didnt KISS coz she didnt want, she decided to wait till they will get marry^^ [he split up] but it s extreme example;) average polish girl, woman looses virginity before marraige, in age 17-18, goes to church maybe once-twice a month, dont really follow rules she is suposed to, but regrets bad things she did;p religion doesnt really affect our attitude. . it s rather about tradition, rites, i hope u get me. .

why would you date one....gross

what do u mean? racist?;p;p i m not, that s why i did

No-no, I have the polish woman already, she is my trophy, on the mantelpiece next to the wall with the lion's head and the elephant tusks.
But she demands too much intensive force.

Therefore because she is an individual who is Polish I deduce that all Polish women must be so.

So you see my logic is infallable.

It also seems that polish girls use to party a lot.This causes some misunderstandings because some people think for first time polish girls party in their country and so they are available.In your opinion if you start talking to a polish girl in a club for example and she does not make a gesture to stop or nodes with her head without talking but actively talks and laughs,it means that she is definitely interested or is just friendly behaviour?