Foreigners in relationships with Poles - do your in-laws accept you?

i was dating a polish guy in canada and his parents hated me because i was polish too (go figure that one out). in their minds polish girls in canada are sluts and their son was not to be with one. too bad, he was a nice guy but cared too much what his parents had to say.

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That's what I was told. And I did. :)

Left me for someone English though, didn't she. :D

Her loss another womans gain....

Im so glad that my parents have never put restrictions on who I have decided to date, not that I would have taken any notice....

I so, know where you are coming from.........

<smile> my parents died before I got married. I think for a lot of people, first marriages don't work out. My husband wasn't Polish. I nearly got married off at 16, like an arranged marriage..........:(

Wonder what nationality you will go for next <grin>

My parents have never put restrictions on me either. I have never met on/off's parents and probably wouldn't want to unless things become more serious (although if they were over here visiting I wouldn't avoid them). His friends accept me though and this is okay for me for now.
My parents used to hippies so for them - anything goes - lol :-)

LOLZ!!!

This was seven and a half years ago. ;)
There's been Polish, Lithuanian, Jewish and Jamaican since then. But like half the world, I still seek that Polish girl of my dreams - my parents have a lot to answer for!!!! :D

True!! He was an IT Consultant as well. So the last laugh was on me :D :D :D



Neither would I. Fortunately my parents attitude is "whatever makes you happy", but that doesn't stop them still trying to marry me off to someone in Poland lol :D

There is just no accounting for taste....

Yeah :)



Yeah :) I'm smiling for a reason. I think some of us want and need to go back to our Polish Roots !!

My parents died when I was in my early 20's they were right to a certain extent.....but you don't see that when you are so young :(

You are so correct, as were my parents. It's all about going back to my roots these days. :D

I dont actually get it since you were both born here and raised here, I know there must be Polish influences in your life - but I still dont get it - hey what do I know :)

It's more than that Amathyst. It's in your genes. It's sometimes difficult to explain. But it's lovely when you come across someone else who understands.

I've always felt I had no roots in the UK. But I was born here, speak impeccable English, my home is here but my genes are 100 % Polish.....:) If you can imagine that you were born in another country, with a different language but your parents brought you up in their culture. Maybe you could understand a bit. Being Polish and finding your roots is so very, very important <for me anyway>

Okay I understand to a certain degree, but I think environment influences you not your genes, they merely serve as "genetic make-up" what you look like etc.... not who you are as a person. Maybe its something you yearn for...

Lady in Red has already explained it better than I could. ;)

I think you are the perfect match for each other...you have my blessing...:D

<coffee-on-keyboard moment> :D :D :D

Obviously you would be more perfect for me but Im not Polish so I will stand aside and let LIR have you :)

Okay, let me write a bit more. It's true your environment influences you and in my case, the majority of my environment was at home with my parents (both polish ) who did everything Polish. Customs, traditions, food, language, polish church, polish saturday school etc etc My first language was Polish because we all spoke Polish at home. I only learnt about english food when I had school dinners.......I know I have a foot in both camps and I'm happy to have both but I don't really yearn for Polish things because I already am Polish. Does that make any more sense ?
I'll keep adding because it's nice to know you are interested :)

Lol Amathyst don't be silly :)

lol @ you two :D :D :D :D

Thats the lamest ever protest I have ever heard!!!



I am curious, but I think your post made me understand more...so your environment was Polish even though the outside world was one that was English...

Who said Im joking

I suppose I may as well add my bit.

I agree with the above, however I also feel influenced by my environment, in the sense that I have often felt out-of-place when I had to live or spend a lot of time in an all-white, all British environment, but do not find this when I am in Poland. I grew up in multi-racial inner cities/peripheral estates, however like LIR, our home was traditional Polish.

Because of my upbringing, I love Britain's multiculturalism, and dislike areas which are non-multicultural or where indigenous populations dominate. However, I love being in a Polish environment above all else.

(please note that this does NOT mean that I despise the British - this is not the case).

It's often the little things which really make you feel Polish - for example, if we invited a non-Pole to a Wigilia meal, they would probably enjoy it for what it is, but for us the evening has a very special atmosphere which is difficult to explain - it has to be felt.

I suspect that this makes no sense at all, but this is how I feel about my Polishness. :)

<unsubscribes and hides> :)

I wrote all that then didn't post because I thought someone else would add to the thread and I didn't want to dominate the board. ......I totally understand your thoughts on this :)

I loved it when I found this forum and some people started talking about pierogi <grin>

Are you sure you're not my twin brother <smile>

But you could learn all Polish things, like cooking, cleaning, sewing....going to church and having polish babies.........don't worry.......:)


<cheeky grin>

it's all about finding the right person anyway........u2 cud be the perfect match :)

Unfortunately, neither my sister nor my brother speak Polish (long story), so this is not possible. ;)

It does feel good to find someone else who feels the same. And it's good we have Polish Forums for that. I rarely mix with Polish people and I do miss that a lot.

I didn't realise how much till I came on this forum. I like the Polish zany sense of hunour too and all the other quirks. But I do still feel British in some ways too........my Polish is rusty just because I haven't spoken it for so long, but I can still read it and understand it totally when people speak it to me.

I'm glad this forum exists.........

we could have been separated at birth you know <joke>

I've often had doubts about my brother, so you never know <g> ;)