xxshonaxx: skysoulmate..? trust is a stupid thing:P i dont trust anyone.. if my mother hadnt of trusted my father and went snooping like i did then she wouldnt of wasting 8 years of her life dopey.. :) and i think ive hit a soft spot..where you snooped on and got caught..lol.. :D.. Lifes for having fun dude..:)
Well, I disagree with you here, trust is an acknowledgement of a loving relationship, maybe even a pre-requisite to a loving relationship. And no, you didn't hit a soft spot with me, I've never cheated in my entire life, I really haven't. Been tempted many times especially since there are many pretty, young women in my profession but I've always managed to know my limits. Likewise, I'm fairly certain I've never been cheated on, I've been very selective and very slow in picking new girlfriends. There were many things that doomed my marriage but cheating wasn't one of them.
The soft spot you mentioned is probably me having lost some very good friends to cheating. Because once I realized what they were doing (some men and some women) I couldn't possibly keep them as my friends; especially as "I was hanging out with SSM" had become the excuse given to their loved ones. I'll have none of that, if you're my friend you won't use my friendship to whitewash your cheating, as simple as that. Have the balls/ovaries to admit your mistakes.
I'm sorry about what happened to you mom, I really am. In my view though you learned the wrong lesson from her ordeal. Instead of distrusting everyone like you do I'd focus on developing better communication skills and maybe growing more selective? I think that once a cheater always a cheater and I think your father probably cheated on other women too, even before he met your mom.
Either way, yes, I agree with you that life's to be enjoyed but dishonesty is not what I'd call the best the life's got to offer.
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