friendhship with polish girl

My instincts tell me there is a reason she wont give you a simple hello anymore. A reason that I have a feeling you're aware of, but won't mention due to it possibly painting a different picture of the situation that you've described here.



He said she asked a few times if there was anything she could do to repay him and said no. That seems to indicate she was grateful to some degree.

He's expressed he loves her. There is an undertone of pain when he mentions these 'other guys'. Surely all of this she has seen at some point.

Now put yourself in her situation, and imagine how it would be if you were initially made to believe all of this was done out of kindness, but down the road find out he's got stronger feelings for you. And if you don't have those sort of feelings for him, how uncomfortable will that be? What would you try to do? I think the first instinct is to put distance there. Sounds to me like that's what's happening here.

But that's just the vibe I'm feeling.

I agree with Kronx, I'm feeling the same vibe. It all sounds a bit fishy, and I think there's some jealousy that you might be feeling over these "new" guys. If she's offered to repay you a number of times for your help that's showing gratitude. If you honestly didn't want something in return, be it eternal gratitude, her feminine attention, or something else entirely, then you wouldn't be complaining about her so-called ungrateful behavior. I think there's more to the story here. And I also agree that she wouldn't just ignore you for no reason. Maybe you've offended her by mistake, or perhaps she realizes that you DO want something in return, despite your refusals in the past and she's not exactly sure what it is that you want. Imagine her situation, I'm sure she has picked up on the fact that you are not comfortable with her going out with other men, and that probably makes her uncomfortable in turn, especially if you two have been just friends up until now. I would suggest you sit down and have a long, non-confrontational talk with her rather than assuming she's just hanging you out to dry, because there's definitely more going on here than you're telling us.

you always have the same zealots who like to push religion.

who pushin religion it was just a quote tho people are to thick to understand exactly like the deaf and dumb

I really wish she atleast say HI to me. I used to trust her a lot, consider her a friend i can depend on but look now she is changed totally.

Whatever the reason i still consider her as my friend so i can't let my friend leave our house because it will hurt me..

I hope she understand that



what can i say to herCan you give me some idea...

not true because she used to share her secret with me so i knew all about her

just tell her you are not comfortable with how she is treating you ad that you want to be her friend and it doesnt bother you she is seing other people. tell her its her life and if she doenst want to share her secrets with you like she used to then its fine as long as she doesnt isolate herself from you, because you still live in the same house and the atmosphere is getting worse and worse.

I think she is getting a distance indeed. Point is that she feels probably that you want more then just friendship, and I think she is right with that.
I believe that you helped her because she needed some help, but I think also that you have stronger feelings for her else you wouldn't mention the guys with whom she went out.

Like some on the forum said, just try to forget her. Those type of girls are mostly so interested in their selves that they are not looking for friends but only for people who can please them 100%. No-one can please someone for 100%, so they will be alone until they change their attitude.

I wasted one year on such a girl and I hope you won't do the same. Keep in mind that a person can look sooo cute but if that person is very selfish, you cannot have a nice relation with her.
In the end you don't want yourself ending up working, cleaning, cooking, doing the kids while she is polishing her nails and watching show news. ;-)

Most people are stupid so don't put too much money and effort in them. Save your money for good friends! :-)

PS - I'm not saying that she should love you, but just some kindness is in place I think. She could ask you out, or at least answer on you sms I think. I had some girls who loved me but I didn't loved them, but once and then I went out with them just to give them a good time because I think that it is nice if you can make someone happy with just a bit of effort.

Edit:

And about those other guys, you have a big chance that they have nothing more then their flash and cash. If you read some threats on the forum, girls mostly want someone who is interesting and pays attention to them and is romantic once in a while.

or for yourself. if she doesnt wanna talk to you and carries on treating you like dirt then you gotta show her the door...

Or for a clothes buying-spree in Poland.. ;-)

PS - Who is that Siamese twin on your avatar Justysia? :o :-D

i thought only girls done that! :P



the siamese twin is really my lovely fiance Ranald :)

We men are emancipated now, so now we do the same. And after it we don't watch football but Grey's Anatomy instead! ;-) :-D

get coffie said down talk about it with her and that you would like to spend a little time together. and if you have a girlfriend .why not ask her would she and her man go out with you and your girlfriend for a meal or a few drinks or somehting like that

weeeell, i know some men who would call that sort of behaviour 'camp' but alright. ha ha

PS - why the sudden interest in my avatar? just curious. had to get rid of the old one cos it was attracting some weirdos and jerks...

PS2 - Sadguy let us know how you get on!

very sensible idea

Well I meant it ironic. Personally I fall asleep when watching GA (when watching football also btw :P).. :-)



I already had such a feeling........ <:-) You know what a nl.youtube.com/watch?v=52FRvAxmsa0 Siamese twin is? :-P

sadguy, you need to give her the boot plain and simple. you gave her all the help you could and now for your own sake, she has to go.
keep dicking around with her and she will bleed you.

anybody who understands anything about religion knows its full of ****.

thats why i dont watch tv! ;P



yes i do...

So you're reading books instead? :-)

sometimes ;) im on the internet a lot think that makes up for me not watching 'tele'... whats this, an interview?! ;)

Yes it's an interview for the Justysia Times. - Thank you for your time. :-)

Justysia times? hmmm! :P

So what exactly did you expect from her? That she'd follow you around and be your special friendy or something?

That would be my question as well.

Well at first she was so honest, used to share all her secret with me, talk for hours even till ( 4:00am).

suddently after one month she stay otside often, comes late night with different guys from pub or club.

But I still consider her as friend. So, i want to tell her that what she is doing is simply wrong.

She is still young (20 years), have her own life but i don't you think i should give her advise?

She was a student of L'art acting school in Crakow now in gap year. her ambition is to become an actress. she also acted in some TV drama while she was in high school
and her name is Karolina Bytnar..

i agree with you....

yes but she even don't say heloo to me

I do not understand why you think what she is doing is wrong. She is 20 there is nothing wrong with her meeting all sorts of different men. Why not she is young free and single

I agree, this guy offered so much help when she arrived now not even a hello, sorry but friends dont treat friends like that - he has stated that his has a girlfriend and its not a relationship he is after - he genuinely cares about how this girl is behaving - Lets put is this way..

A young English girl lands in Poland no friends not much money and is befriended by a really nice guy who has a girlfriend - he offers her a place to stay some help with the language and finding a job and they become very good friends, he's all most like a big brother to her, the after a month or so she gets on her feet and he is no longer of use to her - but she is happy to still live in his home but wont even make the time to say hello....Not very nice is it to treat someone like that....

Maybe he's worried about her being raped or murdered....