my father was marrying an Irish/English woman (my mother), she threw a hissy fit because he was marrying outside of his ethnic group.
this was not unusual, because I think it was encouraged to stick within their own
but after certain time periods, it was just accepted. there was nothing anyone could
do. I heard same stories.
All the time I was thinking please show me a picture of someone in a happy pose saying cheese for the camera. What can you say though...."Oh yes now thats a good one of uncle Piotr, he looks realy well there. How did he die?"
as akward as it sounds, people do ask.. health information is a asset to the family
because so many things are genetic , and i have asked-without sour looks they tell
me and I offer any new info to them, because its a form of preventative medicine..
it doesnt hurt anyone to be informed and knowlegable of family health issues. and
if you can get info further back , then hang onto it, because its vital and might help
in your care if its a direct family member or close sibling.
One aunt pulled out a box full of photo's and proceded to show them to me explaining to me who the particular relative was.
I suppose at a certain stage in our lives we realize how distant all of our families
have become, and hope one twinkle in the eye, spark of interest for pictures and
family knowledge might be the person you send all of your history to.
so maybe your aunt was looking for that spark , that you might have yawned thru
or just didnt look interested in.. so many of us have done it, I regret that I didnt
start sooner. because all my family is almost gone, except for one aunt/uncle who
seemed to surpass everyone.. I dread that call.. I hope it takes quite a few more
years truthfully.
I wish My parents were here to share all the found memories/interesting facts
and new relatives that I have found over the last 4 years of doing this. :)
I think we all should take a little bit more time to listen and understand :)
