Would you get married to become a citizen?

Would you get married only to get desired by you citizenship/or green card?

No...

why not?

I agree with you G. certainly not

Because Marriage is supposed to be sacred. Cheaters (system) don't win in the long run.

It's not cheating if both parties know what is going on. Kind of like.... business is business. It takes about 2-3 years, then divorce, and everybody is happy.


:))

Why yes... ?

Why yes... ?


To niegrzecznie odpowiadac pytaniem na pytanie.....

:)

polishgirltx said:
"It's not cheating if both parties know what is going on. Kind of like.... business is business. It takes about 2-3 years, then divorce, and everybody is happy."

Actually, it is - you're cheating a system. Marriage is not a business, although there's a lot of business in a marriage. Getting married for any other reason than to commit yourself completely to a partnership with a beloved person is disgraceful - to both of the marrying parties and to anyone else who plays a role in it. There is already enough divorce from people who really TRIED to make a marriage work - we don't need more from people who are "conducting business."

That's true. So why people do that so often (fake marriage)?

Lying has become a commonplace way of life in America. We've come to distrust almost everything we hear - or at least take it with a very large "grain of salt." Most means to ends are tolerated and even thought of as acceptable, even though they are inherently dishonest. It's pretty sad, I think. I wish we could do away with all the BS and just be honest with one another.

No.

Who's they? You?

I'm not dishonest :) Do you really think it's inherited? Please do explain.

if you do like each other and have fun with each other, that maybe ok. otherwise everyday of the marriage is a torture.
balance what you get and what you lose from your heart.
but i wouldnt do that, i can get what i want from my own efforts, that is more respectable.

Big NO!

True.

wow, marriage and divorce is business, hmmm guess your values shot out the
door !!

fiddlesticks!!!!

common place in America?? where you pulling this out of? a hat?
lying is common place all over the world.. why people do it, they have their own
reasons, but you cant place this label on America only..

everyone at some point in their lives have told a lie to either keep this person from
hurting or to hurt this person. but it isnt a American thang so please try to at least
be less sterotyping.. this thread demonstrates otherwise for sure.

NO way. It's dishonest.

Fisz,
When I said "Most means to ends are tolerated and even thought of as acceptable, even though they are inherently dishonest" - the "they" referred to the means, not the people who employ these means. I don't know why you ask "Do you really think it's inherited?" But, since you ask, I do not think dishonesty is genetic - it's learned behavior. We live in a culture where dishonesty is commonplace, so it is learned, not inherited.
Patrycja19,
I can't speak for "all over the world" - I only know America. I did not say it was unique behavior to Americans. I'm only sharing my American perspective - which I thought the purpose of this forum was - to hear perspectives from different countries.

Amen.

its basically wrong and you are just enforcing the sterotype that all immigrants are dishonest and grasping

lol what do you tell a future partner, hey honey Im divorced I got married but ya know business is business...I certainly wouldnt want anything to do with such a person...just shows you what a low opionon of marriage you have, such a shame...

low moral values a in general

Wow!
I only asked about something i'm curious what you are thinking about and everybody jumped AT ME that i do not have any moral values. I didn't write it was my idea or i did it or i want to do that. I wanted to know your opinion.
Beside, if all of you think that it is so wrong and low, why people do that so often? Does it mean that thay say they wouldn't do that (like yoy, people!) but the truth is completly different?
And don't jump on me for something i didn't do!

definatelly not !!!

so what was your reason for posting if you werent considering it? I know a Polish guy who married an American woman for a green card, he lived there 5 years but eventually got kicked out before he even got his green card and she clearly wanted more from it than just a business arrangement. Remember its not only immoral, its ILLEGAL. Not worth the risk whatever your morals may be imo.

dont take it to heart, you put the Q out and got the opinion of others about it...i too think its a low thing to do so its a big no from me too....

it's definatelly a bad business transaction, but I'm sure it happens all the time. it's sad to think that 1/2 of marriages end in divorce.

I didn't jump at you. I only wrote one word, ''No''

Everyone else gave you an honest answer.

Please relax, it's only a forum.