My girlfriend is an Alcoholic

What do I do? I love her dearly, but she is driving me crazy. I want to help her, but don't know how. She's a great person when she is not drinking, but when she is, I don't know what to expect. I want to help her but am not sure I can. Any suggestions?

She has to want to help herself first of all,
Have you talked to her abot it yet?

Probably doesn't think she has a problem.
Google some sites or information. Alcoholics Anonymous etc.

Its tough.

I don't know is sounds a bit fishy to me, Polish alcoholic ??????? Now there is a nationality assign to drinking?

I agree with that comment. But what i don't understand 'whattodo' is why you have to call the thread 'My girlfriend is a Polish Alcoholic'. As if Nationality has anything to do with it :(

Maybe if you get your head round the fact that she is 'an alcoholic' then you can start to get some information for partners who have to cope with Alcoholics and what advice they can get etc etc.

I wish people would stop highlighting the Nationality.......

But i wish you both the best of luck in resolving the problem.

sorry, she is Polish and Alcoholic.....not claiming that all of Poland is......

If she is not at this point in her life, there is nothing you can do. Send me a personal message, adn I might be able to bring you into contact with someone whose husband and son are both alcoholics. She had to learn to deal with it, adn she would know what to tell you better than many of us who could try.

Snap Miranda . lol.......womens logic and all that :)

sorry for the ands

aamolly.org.uk/drinkers.html

well, what can I say;)

Don't but her drinks when you go out.

Dunno :) But hey nice to see you back on Polish Forums btw.



<don't wish to take the seriousness away from this thread though, must be awful to try to help a loved one if they are an alcoholic. I've never had any experience of such problems but feel for anyone who has or who has to deal with it now :) >

yes, i think you should join her sometimes.. and enjoy! :D :D

Ultimatum may be required

Excellent input, _Sofi_.
whattodo? - Pay close attention to the most pertinent sections of this page: First: Know The Facts, Join Al-Anon and Medical Science Says Alcoholism Is A Disease.
You CANNOT help the alcoholic. You CAN, however, help yourself. Get to Al-Anon ASAP to learn how.

This is probably what my friend will tell you too.

thanks
whattoo - I am sorry I have snappped, hang in there and since a lot of people here are helpful, I am sure you will find a solution

Believe me - LOTS of experience with this.

Will not help, except to set whattodo up for more grief.

Not me - my friend. You can believe what you want though.

Not me - my friend. You can believe what you want though.

Try Giving her a Reason NOT To drink................

It can't always work like that

Can never

Firestorm - go read the URL and see what the professionals at Al-anona say.

My Father was one.
I dont need advise. But Thx
Some alcoholics are.
Because they lack something to give them focus.
Or due too low self esteem..

It was simply a sudgestion..
Sometimes... Just sometimes.
Giving them something to focus on.
Or a reason not to drink. Supported by a loving partner.
Is enough...

Przepraszam

That was why I said can't always instead of never.

It can't hurt either way :) [Even if it won't work for everyone]. In this way I could give an example. Since

too.

knowing the situation in Poland, yes it does, sorry but it's true.

Thanx for setting me straight - sorry.