he has to be Polish ...

ok, this will make you laugh:
i am English but i speak Polish - lived in Poland 16 years ago and have had Polish connections ever since
(i know that bit wasn't hilariously funny, but the next bits are, in a dark kind of way, when you put them in the context of this ad ...)
i had a baby 4.5 weeks ago - she is adorable, and her daddy is Polish
i want to be with him, but it turns out he has a wife and children in Poland (i thought he was separated when we met - he wasn't)
although he has lived with me for the past year, now the baby is born he feels so guilty that any relationship between us is spoilt
i also have a son, aged 12, with my ex-husband ... who is also ... Polish

so i SHOULD get out of this, find someone who truly loves me, and who i love, and who won't mind not one but two children, with two different fathers, and a sobbing hormonal breastfeeding mother (ie me), who doesn't really want to be separated from the father of her (recent) child. and the someone has to be Polish, for various obvious reasons, not least continuity : ) (a feeble attempt at a joke - very half-hearted, i can tell you) - and because my baby girl must speak Polish.

oh, and this 'someone' would have to be a saintly kind of person, given what i would be asking of them. but i also give a lot back - a hell of a lot.

wow. now there aren't many adverts like that, are there?!!
and in a normal state, i'm actually quite nice, honest...

hmmm....i didn't laugh at all...

its always amased me how many times some pople will slam their fingers in the door before they realise it hurts

the situation is difficult and perhaps it it time to examine, what makes you fall for people who are not the best match, before jumping into yet another relatonship with a man, may it be Polish or not. Yes, you have a problem:)

Good luck.

I'm not sure I understand the purpose of your post, to be honest... are you looking for a Polish man.... (ANY POLISH MAN DAMMIT!!!)? Or are you looking to sort out your feelings and get your head round what is going on in your life?

If the former, then I think that you are very foolish. If the latter, then good luck to you.

Well, atleast you're honest?



I don't think you need my opinion, but just ask yourself a question.. What is more important? The fact that he has to be Polish or the fact that you want someone who truly loves you?

And I'm pretty sure you might want to like him too if you're honestly expecting a serious relationship.. I mean, doesn't love work both ways?

So just ask yourself if you're looking for a Polish man or certain qualities you seem to want. (Not saying Polish men don't posess this quality, just saying you could easily overlook the right person at the right time if your mind is too set on a certain nationality..)



Sounds like you've experienced a fair amount of bad luck there Pipeczko, so I just want to wish you all the luck in the world..

one of life's important lessons is to realise you create your own luck

True, although you'd do well to remember that you can't always influence the circumstances..

true. although you can influence the circumstances you find yourself in.

shouldn't people learn from their own mistakes? so they are wiser, and make better choices and decisions? why to rush stuff?

Well at least she's helping the white race to increase its already very decreased birth population by only wanting Polish men.

And why is it always so difficult to find a very attractive single white female who has never been f*cked b4? Rozmowa o *sluts* i *incubuses*


Maybe I should start thinking about changing my own preferences too. I'm sure I could find a good hearted and spirited women of any race but I just can't seem to find anyone who's more physically attractive than white women.

Oh dobrze. Dohvidzenya i podvodzenia. I może Allah błogosławią tamte dobrego zamiar (dążący)

There's someone for everyone out there.....

and why do as*holes like you expect all them v attractive white women to spread their legs for you whenever you snap your fingers, but still have the nerve to moan there aint no beautiful virgins around? you muslim or something that you want one? whats with the fascination of taking a womans virginity, does it make you feel more of a man? it always makes me wonder how it only works one way and its only men who are ok to have many sexual partners before they marry. if a woman does that, she gets the *slut* tag straight away. have some self critisism before you post anything so hypocritic.



would've thought that after getting your heart broken by a Pole twice now it would at least put you off them a little bit? try and find a NICE AND 100% SINGLE one next time if he has to be Polish. its nice of you wanting for your baby to keep in touch with its roots though. good luck to you.

i know you've got a serious ponit behind it but i can't help it, sometimes the way you express your feelings just makes me laugh :):):) not in a bad way though, i'm not taking the pi** out of you.


yeah it def put me off, lol, maybe that man is unbreakable :)


thats a great way to express the situation.


i couldn't agree more with what queen Miranda said there :)


why does he have to be polish?? i mean there are plenty of good English guys, Scottish guys, Slovakians dam it even Bhutanese :) WHAT IS IT WITH THE NATIONALITY THING????!!!!!

i am being sarcastic here, i havent actually lost it and let it all out, i thought it was a bit funny too ;). as i said, it just makes me wonder you know. now i could ask the question "why arent there any men who are over 15 and a virgin AND not a nerd???" huh? huh?



yeah they are good, especially when they're wearing a kilt and its a bit windy ha ha ha

i'm sure there are, although they probably wouldn't admit it, its not the 'cool' thing to do in the current climate. I mean everybody has to of had a shag by age 13 now you now or your not in the cool gang, lol.


I've got the best of both worlds, i'm English and Scottish :):) I'm probably one of the only Scot's who dosent' hate the English!!!!!

Why not Torny? What is wrong with being interested in finding someone of YOUR choice? Why do we have to stick to our own Nationality? Why does it bug you so much. Why do you acquire the things you do..... Because you like them? Shouldn't that be enough? Who are you and why does everyone have to answer you? Who cares if someone wants Polish, German, Irish, Italian white or black...its a preference. We all prefer what we'd like to have ...no?

your choice, based on floored 'criteria' are you joking???? How can somebody 'suite' to you just because of their nationality??? madness, i can't believe people believe in that sort of thing!!!!


you don't, who said you did, for sure it was not me. I'm not saying 'stick to your own' i'm saying 'don't look for a specific nationality' :)


it bothers me because people fuss about rubbish relationship here or it didn't work there. CAN'T YOU SEE WHY IF YOU CHOOSE BY NATIONALITY its madness!!!!!!


yeah i like football and cricket, i play both of them, i like girls so i have relationships with them. Come on there is a little difference.


i'm asking the question, its up to people if they want to answer, i've not declared myself anything important have I????? no so take that back :)



yes of course there are preferences, to base your 'search' on something so trivial, that has no effect what so ever, come on, i mean if you prefer girls who enjoy a laugh, fair play, if you don't like girls who pick their noises, fair enough. To choose a girl on Nationality that is just weird and wrong (FLOORED)

my fiance is that too, his dad is English and his mum is Scottish.




think you got a bit carried away here, thats not what torn meant. we were just wondering why the fact that this woman had TWO Polish men let her down already didnt even slightly put her off them. yeah yeah everyone has the right to their own preferences and you shouldn't judge the whole Polish male population just on those two men, but i thought that any woman would at least hesitate a bit more after such bad experiences... but then, as long as you love them and they love you, it doesnt matter what nationality they are. sometimes its a bonus though!

my Dads the jock and my Mums English (I'm allowed to say Jock as i'm Scottish :):) )


well i kind of meant both, i do find choice by nationality strange, however i was agreeing with your sentiments too.

how about fud?? :P



sentiments? anyway, i kind of see where she's coming from, if somehow i'd find myself single again one day i would definitely look for another Scot. they've got that mixture of looks, accent and personality that i totally cant resist... ;)

Jock's OK. My Geordie friend calls me Jock, it's not pejorative. I don't mind

Oh?

I was simply asking why its such a big deal to have a pref. It's not only in this topic Justysia..I've been here for a while now and this has always been torny's thorny. He takes it personal and it's just funny to me. There was no disrespect in my questioning and torny..if so, my bad.

Why ask why...it all comes down to choice and It's alllll good :)

no mate there is nothing wrong with asking me for a reason why i feel or think the way i do. Whats the point in me making statements if i'm not prepared to talk them through further and take other opinions on my thoughts and their own.

I mean were on a forum where debating happens :)

Yeah...you'd think people would debate more :) Things easily turn into a pissing match.

it is time to make peace with other people's choices regarless of what they choose. It is a matter of personal freedom. I don't even express 5% of my choices in this forum for the fear of being judged. Everybody makes a choice and THEY have to live with it, unless, for some reason some other people are involved.

Peace.

Wow, the judgementalism of this site never ceases to amaze me!! OK, a few answers to those barbs:

1) If I was on an English site and I said I've had two relationships in my life, one my now ex husband, and one another guy, and I happen to have a child with each person, would it seem strange? Would I be panned for my bizarre choice of not one but TWO English guys? Would I get a barrage of criticism for not having 'chosen the right person'?? I think two relationships by age 40 isn't bad, you know - how many have all of you had? And some of you will understand that nobody goes into a relationship thinking it's wrong - you go with it for the right reasons. And apologies for not having pointed out that I have spent a huge amount of time analysing all of this - you don't know me - but only a fool would not have reflected on what was right or wrong with the relationship.

2) And as for the reckless choice of two Polish men - hang on a second there. Those who are saying I should beware of having anything to do with any more Polish guys - as they're obviously .... what?? Wrong for me???? How crazy is that? Write off the whole nation of men? What kind of nonsense is that? These men were and are individuals, who happened to be from the same country (but, I must say, with very different characters). My reason for saying 'he has to be Polish' in terms of any other relationship I have is largely because of my children. My daughter in particular must be able to speak Polish, as she has a large and very supportive family, none of whom speak English. Her father doesn't, either, and I simply won't allow her to grow up without being able to speak to him. So it is for cultural continuity in terms mostly of my daughter, but also my son, whose Polish father is very much part of his life. As for the suggestion that I'm some kind of nitwit with a death wish for Polish men ... sigh. If only life were that simple!

3) The one thing I dislike is this 'oh look she's done something stupid and now she's paying!' tone that some posters seem to have. Where do you get off telling other people they've been stupid?? I wasn't stupid. At worst, I was naive. I believed what I was told - why shouldn't I?

I'm too old, or too young, for all these platitudes. I am realistic. I need a Polish partner because my children are Polish and English. They get the English from me. They need the Polish from the other half. And correct me if I'm wrong, but we're all individuals - Polish, English, Scottish, whatever - so, apart from the fact that I need a native Polish speaker, anyone I meet will just be ... a guy. I don't for one moment think his Polishness will make him uniquely appropriate or inappropriate for me. Now that would be stupid : )

choosing a partner so he can teach your kid a language. what kind of nonsense is that?

sweetheart, youre obviously not particularly bright. go and find a man to fall in love with and arrange polish lessons for your kids. life will be simpler. believe me.

ps
'.i didn't laugh at all...' - the humour was exceedingly dark

having re-read i take that back